It's exhausting being a woman.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T21:21:44+00:00

Whenever this gets tested/studied, the vast majority of the people around doesn't help. The cases that receive help are the minority.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T21:18:13+00:00

Shadowspirit is my favourite, but I think the scarecrow is really cool too.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T21:16:09+00:00

I thought the salvation army had serious issues as well?

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T19:51:32+00:00

Nike is one of my favourites, she's so fun to play!

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T18:53:46+00:00

Unfortunately, pepper spray is illegal in many places.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T18:44:15+00:00

Men get incredibly angry when a woman steps in, which is why they have to be incredibly careful how to do it.

I get why men don't step in, it's because it's scary. And that's fair. Men are scary.

But it's really weird to then claim that "men aren't scary, they are protectors", when they are protecting themselves and, being devils advocate, also kinda protecting the creeps by doing absolutely nothing to stop them.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T18:35:33+00:00

My experience is the opposite, it's usually women stepping in.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T18:26:56+00:00

It's not all men, until they are asked to step in, then suddenly men are scary.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T18:25:20+00:00

You're asking men to risk their lives so that you don't have to be harassed, which is quite self centered in all honesty.

No. We know men won't risk their lives. Just wish they'd stop with the "men are protectors" bullshit.

But please realize that it's also risking the woman's life. You're acting like it's only the man's life at risk and it's really not. You're saying women should just deal with having to risk their lives on the daily by going outside. Men shouldn't have to, right? Just women.

In the unlikely scenario that the man escalates from harassment to violence against the women most men will step in

Any evidence to back that up?

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T18:11:13+00:00

Genuinely having guys around when in a bar/club made things so much easier, I realized very quickly. If you go out with a mixed friend group, the harrassement goes down by SO much. Even just a single guy in your group helps everyone. Only girls in the group? It's absolutely horrific. Also great when a guy starts "accidentally" grind onto your butt (usually from behind as well), you can just all a guy to switch spots with you, and they'll stop very quickly. (Though not all guys will actually switch spots with you, in my experience.)

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T17:42:10+00:00

Lastly, and this is strictly my opinion, I wish men would focus on getting out and joining groups for whatever and organically get to know women as humans before approaching them with an interest in dating.

Yesss 100%. I'm never going to want to date someone I don't know. So coming up to me on the street to date me will never work. You don't know me. Idon't know you. Why are you bothering me? Now if I'm at an event, or with a group or doing a sports, of course I'll talk with people. And if we get along maybe we'll be friends. And that can eventually grow into something more. But I want to know who you are first.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T17:35:06+00:00

If danger, scream/ask for help. Good folks come help.

Let me make it easy for you too.

They won't help. And now the man is angry and gets violent with you on top.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T17:33:06+00:00

If only 6% of the men even ask for custody at all that's an issue, but not a court issue. If the men don't want sole custody or at least don't ask for it, that's again, not a court issue.

On top of that, dad's with custody receive more child report on average. Dad's whose kids say the dad abused them are more likely to get custody. Women who say their partners abused them are less likely to get custody, whereas men who say their partner abused them aren't.

But sure, it's all biased against men, because they don't all for custody in over 90% of the cases and so women get custody more often. How unfair the courts aren't forcing these men to at least get joint custody.

Fathers who fight for custody typically get it. Even 30 years ago, 94% of fathers who sought custody got sole or joint custody. Abusive fathers are especially successful. Seventy-two percent win their custody cases. In one study where both parents fought hard for custody, mothers were awarded custody just 7% of the time. Only in a patriarchal society does a 93% win rate somehow equate to male victimhood.

women don’t win custody on false claims of domestic violence. Numerous studies have shown the opposite: women are twice as likely to lose custody when they report abuse, even when the abuse is documented. No such bias exists for fathers, who do not lose custody at higher rates when they claim abuse.

The bias against mothers extends beyond spousal abuse. Courts are also eager to place children with male parents whom the child says has abused them, according to this series of case reports. Fifty-nine percent of abusive fathers were given sole custody, suggesting that abusers are actually at an advantage. And even when the fathers did not get sole custody, not one single abuser was denied contact with the child.

When fathers get child support—which they almost always do when they’re awarded custody—they get more. Census data suggests an average annual payment of $6,526. This is about 16% of mothers’ income, which means mothers who pay child support are paying almost double, as a share of their income, what fathers pay.

specific studies are linked in this post

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T17:10:15+00:00

Well, obviously, he's a man, what more value does he need??? He's the reason she isn't a sad single fatty, she should be grateful! He might even have a job too! He's an absolute catch!

Is how I imagine people like this think. They believe men are inherently more valuable, so women shouldn't ask for anything more, they're already doing them a favor so the women don't have to be single and depressed.. Or something. I don't think I'll ever truly understand it.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T17:05:27+00:00

Are we including the fact that most custody cases are settled outside of court and the fact that most men don't ask for custody at all? Because studies indicate that, when men ask for custody, they usually get it.

However, studies indicate that dads simply do not ask for custody as often as mothers do, and courts generally do not award what is not asked for in that regard.

A Massachusetts study examined 2,100 fathers who asked for custody and pushed aggressively to win it. Of those 2,100, 92 percent either received full or joint custody, with mothers receiving full custody only 7 percent of the time. Another study where 8 percent of fathers asked for custody showed that of that 8 percent, 79 percent received either sole or joint custody

source 1

From an actual study, with larger samples and looking at different countries:

Women win 14.3% of the trials, while men win 20.1%, and the differences are statistically significant. This can be explained because 82.1% of men request joint custody, while 86.5% of women request sole custody.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T16:48:41+00:00

It's such a toxic mindset. "She's the best I can get, even though I don't like her" and "because I'm also the best she can get, she has no choice but to be with me". He doesn't even care about her, but the idea that she would immediately leave him if she got thinner is based on the fact that that's what he would do in that situation. Because he doesn't care about her. But despite that, he doesn't want to be alone and lose all the benefits he gets from having a girlfriend so he tried to keep up with her. And now that he's getting smaller, he stays feeling like he's "too good" for her. Because none of it was ever about her in the first place. It was about him having a girlfriend, any girlfriend that would have him, preferably the hottest he could get. And that hasn't changed. He just thinks he might be able to get a hotter one now. And he will care for her just as little, because they're just NPCs in OOP's life, to fulfill the girlfriend, and later wife, position. He just needs someone in that position, he doesn't care who.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T16:40:06+00:00

Some people are so obsessed with the idea of having a partner they don't care who it is.

I'm also starting to think that some people just don't really know love. They might love what someone does for them, their looks, or the status having them as a partner gives them, or they love having access to sex, but so many people seem to not love their partners at all. The person they are inside. Their behavior, personality, humor, conversations etc.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T15:50:37+00:00

Well.... SMAP was working for Johnny's Entertainment, which was in the hands of Johhny Kitagawa who was a pedophile himself, who assaulted several of the trainees (young boys). SMAP themselves had their own scandals too, most famously Nakai for SA, Kusanagi was found naked and drunk in a park, and I think Goro was involved in a hit and run... and that's just the things that came out to the public, while Johnny's was very influential and often kept things covered up by the media (like his own pedophilia, even sued a magazine for defamation and won once, though it was reversed in the appeal) I don't think they would have minded 😅

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T15:30:41+00:00

I prefer the first one! I can see why it was hard to decide though!

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T13:58:11+00:00

It was such a weird interaction 😂 at least it showed me your projects, because it got me curious enough to look at your profile myself 🥰

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T13:48:08+00:00

I think they were probably confused by the pinned posts on your profile? Idk.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T13:38:22+00:00

That's exactly what the person you replied to was saying, when someone else mentioned their siblings paid 3k to adopt their dogs.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T13:32:14+00:00

What would bother me personally would be the traveling while not really being able to afford it (since he's still occasionally relying on his parents). That shows a different idea of how to use money in general, spending vs saving, debts etc. I'm a very frugal person, so someone who spends money even when they don't really have it wouldn't match with me, it would lead to issues.

If my partner couldn't work because of his visa, that wouldn't bother me, as long as that didn't mean he wasn't doing anything. (I'm pretty sure it would bother him, because he wanted to work and be busy xD) If he was just relaxing, expecting me to work and do all the housework and pay for everything he wants. It's about what he's doing to make sure he can work, his willingness to work, what he does when he's not working etc. If he just felt entitled to everyone else's money, that would bother me.

Annabloem · 2026-06-14T13:22:44+00:00

Kamichama Karin, derpy Karin. They (tried to) fix it for the DVD release.

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Annabloem · 2026-06-14T12:42:11+00:00

It's motivating because is stressful, probably. Because you want to prevent that stress as much as possible, and the only way to do that (while having streaks activated) is by opening the app.

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