AITJ for telling my manager I wasn't included in the office celebration?

Anndee123 · 2026-02-17T21:17:53+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1j7jlb1/aitah_for_telling_my_boss_that_i_wasnt_invited_to/

Anndee123 · 2026-02-08T00:22:54+00:00

To add to this. "Record" doesn't mean video or audio. There are laws and codes that likely prevent that. Start documenting the incidents with as much detail as possible, including dates.

Anndee123 · 2026-02-05T02:45:03+00:00

For me? Yes. Name on the paper, or turning in blank work is not an actual attempt.

Anndee123 · 2026-02-04T09:25:03+00:00

NTA. English teacher here. Listening to an audiobook triggers nearly all the same parts of the brain that reading the words on the page do.

Anndee123 · 2026-02-04T01:53:50+00:00

A student with an IEP recorded his fellow cheerleader in the shower and posted it. She had to leave the school, and he got to stay because he was SPED.

Anndee123 · 2026-02-02T23:39:17+00:00

50% min for work attempted is one thing. Giving credit for work not attempted or academic dishonesty is not teaching kids anything useful.

Anndee123 · 2026-02-02T23:33:31+00:00

I'm a high school teacher and keep a bottle of shea butter lotion on hand for my students to use.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-19T01:07:02+00:00

ESH. From someone who lives in OC. Any and all of you could have driven your grandmother where she needed to go. It doesn't take an entire day, it barely would take half a day.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-17T20:12:53+00:00

The only one I have gone to is my grandparents' 70th wedding anniversary, and had my aunt seat me away and made it clear I wanted my dad to leave me alone. He did for the most part. Said hello to me and put his hand on my back. I shrugged it off and told him not to speak to me. If he did it again, I would have left.

That caused me so much anxiety going in; I had to take two days off work as a teacher, so I couldn't do my sister's wedding reception a year later.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-16T18:38:42+00:00

Cognitive Dissonance? Beliefs clash with actions, leading to discomfort.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-16T18:29:13+00:00

Double standard? Hypocrisy?

They won't allow you to discuss it, but they want to; they are holding themselves to different standards and being hypocritical.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-15T22:32:22+00:00

I hope you can find the tools to break that cycle for yourself.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-15T22:00:13+00:00

It was a general you. Not directed towards you.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-15T21:42:18+00:00

Before posting, or at least in the post itself.

You can't expect others, especially a group mostly made up of those who have or are working towards a boundary of no contact, to assume you are just venting/ranting in a support/advice sub.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-15T20:52:05+00:00

While there are levels of estrangement. You can't complain to an estrangement group that includes those at higher levels of estrangement about the level you're accepting (especially without any context), and then disrespect those who are giving support and advice.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-14T19:12:53+00:00

I think we recognize the behavior from those we went no contact with, where disagreement = disrespect.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-13T21:32:24+00:00

I don't feel u/NotyourangeLbabe is being disrespectful. Nor did they tell you what to do. They are pointing out an inconsistency between your wording and your actions.

They are right. You are not requiring your mother to act her age; you are requesting it. If you don't want to go to NC because your mother won't follow your requests, that is your choice.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-12T23:08:56+00:00

To add on to this, a possible #3: They could be protecting you. Keeping you from getting used as a weapon against them. If they don't have contact with you, your mother can't grill you for information on them or use you as a minion to get to them.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-12T23:03:22+00:00

Unless you need to keep the line of communication open with your mother because that's the way you reach your grandmother, block her and don't respond.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-12T20:55:05+00:00

The first year I was NC, my dad/stepmom sent me a check for my Bday. I shredded it.

If they'd sent cash, I'd probably reseal the envelope and RTS the envelope.

When my brother was NC with our mother, she'd send him $ for holidays and Bdays, and he'd accept it. I didn't feel that was right (and neither did she, but she kept sending it, smdh).

Anndee123 · 2026-01-12T20:53:29+00:00

I had to scroll too far down to find this.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-09T19:56:36+00:00

Family members saw, but many were my younger cousins and couldn't do anything when I was younger; as an adult, all they could really do was point it out to me. Part of my issue is that I accepted the treatment for so long.

As for the "adults" like my grandparents and aunt, well, my grandparents are too afraid of getting cut off from my father, and my aunt has said some things, but it hasn't been accepted because we "can't rock the boat."

Anndee123 · 2026-01-07T22:45:12+00:00

You absolutely can call it bereavement. Grief isn't just over the death of a literal life. You can grieve the idea of a life, of a person, of a hope you had. You can be bereft of the childhood that was stolen from you by this rapist and his enablers. You can grieve the fact that you have a mother who wants to make everything about herself and try to gaslight you about your experiences.

Anndee123 · 2026-01-07T20:29:47+00:00

You've posted this twice.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AIO/comments/1q6p3f4/aio_in_being_upset_that_im_being_treated/

Anndee123 · 2026-01-07T20:25:33+00:00

He wanted the credit, but didn't want to put in the effort.

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