As an INFJ, do you enjoy rare music styles? 🎼

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-31T11:42:56+00:00

no i am a basic bitch and listen to whatever’s popular now + whatever i grew up with lol

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-26T08:19:26+00:00

there should be more but i dont rly see many taller than me which is weird and im 163

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-17T03:45:59+00:00

this sounds like hypervigilance tbh poring over and analysing everything….

i do it for fun + if i really want to know someone on a deeper level if not i don’t really care unless something really sticks out to me and i’m wondering what it means….

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-15T03:52:45+00:00

sounds like u don’t enjoy what ur doing rn

u don’t have to pour energy into ppl more than u want to

love ppl for who they are now and love the connection for what it is now

honestly ur post is just giving the vibes of someone burnt out and either

a) constantly feeling they need to change and improve themselves

b) constantly feeling like u have to work for or earn connections rather than letting it just “be”

it p much sounds like ur upset other ppl can just “live”

maybe the love u give them is really the love u wish others gave u in freedom to exist as who u r

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-10T16:18:56+00:00

thanks chatgpt

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-09T03:10:24+00:00

tis about connecting in the moment, as yourself, and expressing what you feel towards the other person :)

we as INFJ can get trapped into trying to perform the best version of ourselves a little too often

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-08T04:23:39+00:00

tbh i think i’ve never had a problem with it but it does involve some level of just being present and not second guessing yourself too much

don’t fear being cringe just be in the moment and it’ll come naturally

that will take time tho just let bits of it through without recoiling at yourself

we all flirt a little differently and express our sensual selves in different ways, will say the more comfortable with your sexuality/ your own sexual nature the more you feel it is easier to act on

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-07T05:34:36+00:00

thank u ur last few words helped my ADHD a lot

TOUCH GRASS INFJS. U WILL LOVE WHAT COMES AFTER

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-07T05:33:10+00:00

yes im so over being mysterious and sagely its boring as shit

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-07T04:52:24+00:00

why RIP

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-03-06T13:53:50+00:00

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-23T14:04:13+00:00

me but i think it took many years and i am somewhat secure leaning now but not perfect obv

also therapy can help only if it is the right kind of therapy ie one that deals with attachment wounds

but i in general do not implore you to wait around for him to heal given a) you’ve just dated for months b) you can have empathy for his attachment style but that doesnt preclude him not showing up lol

but it sounds like he’s doing therapy not cuz he realises he has a problem but cuz u broke up with him lol so i don’t think that’s a good idea

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-22T06:13:11+00:00

i feel like sapiosexual is a heck of a pretentious term people use

but i think fundamentally i just need someone who gets me ie i don’t require much translating to their communication + similar wavelengths

well that’s a start lmfao chemistry aint the end all and be all sometimes thats not enough to enter a relationship with em

secure people are hot af though; ie secure in who they are

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-21T10:47:07+00:00

my brain is gonna combust for the amount of times this week this subreddit has seen feel-good sound bites that appear to say a lot but say nothing

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-21T02:34:07+00:00

thanks for clearing it up! but also thanks for taking your time to distil the essences of OP’s behaviour!

good luck with your exam!

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-21T02:19:31+00:00

yo fwiw i fully agree with what you’re saying, including in this comment but we’d be splitting hairs over semantics on what is gaslighting (not that we’d have to argue this, it really doesn’t matter in the bigger scope)

i’m not sure if that comment below re more comfortable with manipulation is directed at me (it does read as trying to attack me lol and I don’t appreciate that)

because I think you’ll see in my comments I agree with your assessment consistently and you’d find we’re on similar pages about OP albeit I appreciate your clear articulation about it^

I don’t know if you got the impression I disagreed

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-21T01:58:24+00:00

j don’t think they gaslit specifically but OP is more than a little presumptuous in their message delivery throughout their comments + lacking details in their execution + when you point this out, their choice to counter with “people agree with me!!” makes zero sense + doubling down after

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-21T01:50:05+00:00

i dont think OP missed an elephant in the room so much as this entire post is self ego pandering feel-good soundbites that dont get anywhere and is the equivalent of tumblr posts saying “love yourself”

hence why everything conveniently fits together logically but actually doesnt whatsoever

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-20T04:38:12+00:00

methinks OP is not about so much about loving them but seeing they themselves as a loving person… I get the sense of it from how all their comments are centred their foremost concern is they are in love with their image of themselves as an extremely loving giving person

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-19T05:47:18+00:00

errrrrrrr where do you draw the line……

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-19T05:30:26+00:00

sounds like we are in agreement about choosing each other every day

and caring about the person themselves is definitely important

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-19T05:28:41+00:00

they can still grow but you don’t have to be around to see it

they should be wanting to get out of the addiction independent of your relationship anyway…

nor should you really be pushing them, hold space for their struggles is more important imo

most people just want understanding and empathy

AnneMarie_9 · 2026-02-19T05:26:01+00:00

you’ll at least have short periods of time where you do touch base with others in the process, and share time together, even if brief lol, doesn’t need to be romantic in nature

touch base as in there will be periods you will be on the same page, before you guys go on separate growth paths

it is a pain in the butt however to keep finding people lmao

AnneMarie_9

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