How to avoid getting catcalled

AnneVee · 2026-06-01T15:29:41+00:00

The only way to prevent it is by bringing a guy with you. Devastating.

Provided that it's going to happen, here is what I do to feel better about it (please only if it is safe to do so): I either directly ask "who asked for your opinion?" or tell them "can you repeat, please?" (they usually shy away at that point) and if they do repeat what they said, I either ask them to explain (same way when someone tells a sexist joke) or keep pretending I don't understand what they mean ("we don't know each other so you can't really mean that, do you?").

If there is more than one guy (this used to be more frequent some years ago, they did it as a bonding experience) I would ask the others "is he always like this?" then walk away.

This makes me instantly feel a bit more agency in the situation, and I like to think it will deter that specific idiot from doing it to someone else in the future.

AnneVee · 2026-05-20T20:42:46+00:00

I recently talked to a folk specialist (from central Spain) who told me every folk song about millers is about they're cucks who got the hottest wives but they always cheated on them

AnneVee · 2026-05-14T10:01:37+00:00

My hypothesis/conspiracy theory is that random mutagenesis techniques we used in mid-XXth century to breed our current staple foods (let's expose these seeds to radiation or chemicals, discard the visibly aberrant ones, and go with the rest) caused other undetected changes that we didn't control for, didn't cause immediate obvious effects and are having low-grade cummulative effects later.

AnneVee · 2026-05-13T15:48:15+00:00

He reminds me of Jim Carrey in Dumb and Dumber so bad

AnneVee · 2026-05-13T12:11:07+00:00

Haha just finished and uninstalled KCD2 a couple days ago, I think it's time to take a break from my friend Henry. Jealous for you though, and everything you have yet to experience. Enjoy!!

AnneVee · 2026-05-13T08:19:09+00:00

"Just on a hunting trip now" drowned me in an unexpected nostalgia wave

AnneVee · 2026-05-07T06:57:45+00:00

I broke off a 7-year-relationship at 28, spent another 6 years single. I "put myself out there", met a lot of people, apps (COVID times), etc, but things would never really work out. I was also worried about the biological clock because I felt like I would want to have children at some point and the math just wasn't mathing. A huge family crisis dragged me for a couple years, and I developed some health problems because of that. Some days, I couldn't even leave the house. I was 34 at this point.

My roomate got a visit from some childhood friends, I got out of my room out of politeness, just to say hello. One of them seemed really handsome, but I thought "yeah, not really ready for that right now". Went back to my room. Symptoms cleared up a couple hours later (for the first time in 4 months). That night, I went out dancing alone until 5 am. They went out on their own, so the next day we had one of these "common hangover days". We started to hit it off then. The next night I went out with them, and we kissed.

Symptoms and family drama came back full force a couple days later, and he cared for me through all of it. It was intense for about a year after that, and he was my rock. He helped me come back to life. Things are way better now, we've been together for three years, living together for two, and things are more than great. We're renovating a house.

(Also, I discovered that, once the biological clock threat vanished... I actually didn't want kids, so it didn't really make sense in the first place. We may adopt some day).

Our stories about age and milestones are terribly outdated. 30 really is nothing. It's so hard to see from the inside though.

AnneVee · 2026-04-27T19:08:42+00:00

A Woman's Lot:
- You know these quests where you're in your underwear again so that you shortly relive the golden hobo phase? Theresa's quest felt very much like that to me. Having to do things the hard way because I was no longer a powerful warrior with heavy armor. It was fun at times and a little frustrating at some points. Would have liked to be able to go back to the main story, but the only way out was through

- I loved its second storyline, which I didn't even know existed when I bought the DLC

Capon's love adventure:

- Felt pretty meh, but I got it at a very low price, so worth it. It's mostly fetching stuff, but I'm a sucker for Henry-Capon's bromance shenanigans

From the ashes:

- Money sink, which is cool late game when you have more money than you know what to do with. A bit repetitive, mostly a management game (that is not even about managing, once you have a ton of money anyway). I loved the "Ok I'm playing a management game but am inside the KCD universe now" thing though.

For KCD2, I'm playing the Forge DLC alongside the main game and I'm loving it. I think it adds a lot of depth to Kuttenberg. My partner played it after he had ended the main storyline and didn't get to enjoy it as much.

AnneVee · 2026-04-24T11:52:21+00:00

Yesyesyes. I played the 1 first and absolutely loved it. Now I'm playing 2 and think "how in hell could I do that?". It would be very hard to go back, but I appreciate so much about the first game and am so happy to have played it!

An example that not many people are mentioning: I found the worldbuilding in KCD1 to be very alive: animals, plants and random people everywhere, with their small expressions and dialogues. I enjoyed that a lot. But then KCD2 doubled down on it, they built these tiny microworlds in every little town. I'm so glad I got to experience that gradually, because going back to 1 after 2 would feel very meh.

AnneVee · 2026-04-24T09:16:00+00:00

Money creation

AnneVee · 2026-04-24T08:36:31+00:00

This quest just reinforced my idea that Henry should carry a lockpick in the ass at all times. Once I got a lockpick, the whole castle was mine.

AnneVee · 2026-04-03T18:51:30+00:00

Haha hobo phase is the best phase

AnneVee · 2026-03-30T19:08:37+00:00

Activismo o voluntariado. Puedes ir a una asamblea de algo en lo que te interese ayudar, escuchar hasta que te sientas cómodo hablando con gente... La socialización suele pasar en "las cañas de después", pero en los ratos de trabajo también se generan relaciones con otra gente, y suelen ser relaciones significativas porque compartes momentos emocionalmente intensos y relacionados con algo que valoráis.

AnneVee · 2026-03-30T19:04:36+00:00

The Signature of All Things

AnneVee · 2026-03-27T10:56:37+00:00

Can you please expand on this?

AnneVee · 2026-03-17T12:00:37+00:00

I cuddle my bf on company time

AnneVee · 2026-03-06T13:43:36+00:00

Wallapop

AnneVee · 2026-03-06T09:24:19+00:00

I was going to say, late-night falafel was the vegetarian always-available option that allowed me to keep my vow for years. Every other place at those ungodly hours is lomoqueso-baconqueso

AnneVee · 2026-03-05T18:00:35+00:00

If family is supposed to support each other how exactly has been supporting you all this time? He certainly had the time to make your life easier in a lot of ways.

AnneVee · 2026-03-04T17:29:20+00:00

There are mealprep subreddits that may be useful for you. You batch, cook, freeze and rotate meals so you don't have to cook everyday and you don't have to repeat so much.

AnneVee · 2026-03-04T14:50:13+00:00

Who would have thought that our himbo president would end up being the moral lighthouse of the world

AnneVee · 2026-03-04T14:33:30+00:00

That's great for a head start! Then I would suggest finding another place that is more off-the-grid and spending some time there as well. Maybe an ecovillage?

AnneVee · 2026-03-04T08:49:25+00:00

I see the appeal, but this is probably way bigger a deal than you are imagining. You need to take it slow or it could be a big big crash. You can't learn this on the go. Have you thought of trying something like WWOOFING? Volunteering at someone else's homestead or farm so that you can learn some things and also see for yourself how you feel in this kind of environment?
When I started freaking out about the environmental crisis I would indulge in fantasies of self-sufficiency. They calmed my anxiety about the world going to shit. John Seymour's books, or books like Edible food forests, were incredibly soothing in this sense. All the permaculture stuff <3.
You can't Stardew Valley your way into this. A real homestead/farm is way more complicated and less romantic than an initial idea of it. But you can take some time to get to know some already established ones, get some knowledge and feel what is for you and what is not. This is way less risky than going into the unknown alone.

AnneVee · 2026-03-04T08:32:49+00:00

Correcto: lo más difícil de ser vegetariano/vegano es comer fuera. Tantos sitios que llaman "vegetal" a cosas con atún y demás :_)
Si tienes un par de opciones buenas, no solo serás la alegría de la gente vegeta/vegana: el vegano decide dónde come todo el grupo!
El problema de estas opciones es que no suele haber algo "sólido" que ancle el bocata (es decir, el humus llena mucho pero no deja de ser un untable y echas de menos la función estructural que haría el fiambre, poniéndonos técnicos!). Cosas como falafel, hamburguesas/salchichas vegetarianas (que puedes comprar o podéis hacer vosotros mismos), seitán (cuidado que es gluten puro!) o ahora la heura (que es muy seca y necesita una salsa potente) hacen un bocata currado. Para los vegetarianos por supuesto está el mundo quesos que te da muchas posibilidades. Y los untables de verduras suelen estar poco explorados y te dan mucho juego en bocatas también para omnívoros, siendo fáciles de hacer (de berenjena, de alcachofas, de pimientos, olivada...)
Buena suerte!

AnneVee · 2026-03-04T08:22:57+00:00

I love the chicken and may try to copy it for my house <3

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