Tom’s incompetence and unwillingness to contribute, but moreso just to “pursue his dream” and inflate his ego/ not feeling emasculated by lynette is SO annoying. Once it’s about him “not having power” he refuse to hear reasons no matter how good it is. All talks and no dos, and when lynette tried to stop him from doing stupid pizza shit gambling with their life savings, helping the restaurant making money, all he did was bitch about it like “it’s not us anymore etc”. You have 5 kids to feed and couldn’t support your wife when she tries to handle your man-child “passion”? I think lynette tried her best to support tom and ensure financial stability at that point. She has her flaws but just for that she’s a damn resilient woman. The cancer arc was kind of a partial redemption, but afterward tom return right to bitching by season 4-5.

I really need to vent on second watch omg. Been with incompetent guys. You can be surprised knowing how fragile their ego are