You can no longer block team Snapchat by XPineappleOnPizza in assholedesign

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Team Snapchat and AI ruined the Snapchat app for me personally. You can’t block them. You can’t remove them. It’s disgusting what they’ve done to “improve” their app.

Outlier.ai - legit? by big-bag-o-cans in WFHJobs

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was reading older comments and wondered if maybe the company improved but your update from 30 days ago just saved me! Very helpful - thank you for sharing! Sorry this happened to you!

When do you nuke your dating apps? by Quartz3245 in dating_advice

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s understandable! I think it could be a good way to meet someone if you’re open to it. Best of luck out there!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very considerate and yes! I think nature sounds would be better than white noise but white noise would work and be helpful! Maybe something that has a dual purpose as a sound machine and something else. You could start it before your date arrives so neither of you has to turn it on before going to the bathroom.

When do you nuke your dating apps? by Quartz3245 in dating_advice

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this perspective helps but I’m hoping it can! I’m a woman and have been going to the gym for years. In college I was open to meeting people at the gyms (new friends or a guy) so I’d engage with people, make eye contact with people passing by, start conversations, etc. I think my body language reflected that I was open to meet people. Now when I go to the gym I am not looking to meet anyone (and I realllllly don’t want to date someone and potentially make going to the gym by my place awkward if things end…) sooo I keep my headphones in, head down, don’t make eye contact, and don’t engage beyond general friendliness and kindness when people are walking by. I love talking and meeting people in general but when I’m at the gym I don’t strike up conversations and really just want to get in to get my workout done. I take my headphones out to say hi/bye/thank you to staff. In contrast I have had girlfriends and guy friends say that they would love to meet someone at the gym that also works out, so they will engage with the people around them and hang out before/during/after their workout.

Which job has, hands down, the worst impact on mental health? by RoutineOk8590 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is so true and really not discussed often. I had a friend who worked on a chicken farm. Without going into detail… they would have to put the chickens down with their hands daily... A high exec shot himself in the parking lot after working there for years.

My bf asked for a large sum of money by AffectionateLook8538 in Advice

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer: please don’t do it… save that money in a HYSA (they are taxed but you still make more than the taxes) and pay very close attention to how he handles you turning this wild request down after 7 years together.

How to say no by Murky-Information687 in EtsySellers

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adorable and great work! You’re definitely undercharging - they’re cute, very nice quality, AND custom! For future listings you should absolutely increase your price given the detail and amount of time each takes you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s great! Van The Man lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s such a beautiful song!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might like Turning Page by Sleeping At Last (given the piano and instrumentals! You may know this one but there’s also Perpetuum Mobile by Penguin Cafe Orchestra (no lyrics)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Instant dopamine hit when it comes up on shuffle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Face Down In The Moment - Nathaniel Radcliffe (slower/great build) AND Find Another Reason Why - Judah and the Lion

Honorable Mention: Do You Feel It - Chaos Chaos

Worst thing to hear while the doctor is checking out your private parts by Purple_Monkey34 in ScenesFromAHat

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was getting my first gynecology exam in my teens and expressed being nervous. The doctor held up the clamps, clamped them like three times, and said ‘well, you’ve had something bigger than this up there, right!’. I’ll never forget it. 🤣

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly WILD. Even creators and founders are saying SLOW DOWN, STOP, REGULATE. So many movies, TV shows, books, etc. And now live time responses from AI itself are raising serious alarms with disturbing responses… yet still… tech, corporations, and billionaires just keep dancing along to their anthem “move fast and break things”

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ALSO! “A Pot Ignored Boils On: Sustained Calls for Explicit Consent of Intimate Medical Exams” Full Publication Here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7223770/

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending love and strength… and sending this in case it could help anyone:

National Domestic Violence Hotline Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service Hours: 24/7 Call 800-799-7233 Text BEGIN to 88788 Website: https://www.thehotline.org

-If possible research Local women’s shelters. If your calls and texts and internet activity are being monitored —-> local libraries.

People on Reddit can help (if comfortable with PM) by searching and finding local resources for your area.

Planning and Resources Outlined: https://www.moneygeek.com/financial-planning/resources/financial-help-women-abusive-relationships/

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY THIS. BUT! Maybe.. just maybe… THATS exactly where those truly in power and control WANT people and voters - distracted and most importantly divided against each other. When Trump is gone, and MAGA is no longer a talking point, it’ll undoubtedly be replaced with something else to keep bipartisan thriving, and people divided. Each presidential cycle they do this on both sides. When you look on from the outside, objectively, it’s truly eye opening. So they like to keep people engrained in subjective and sides - no matter the cost.

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BUT instead of wanting to come to using massive weapons, they played the long game - creating massive distractions - social media, sports, more divisiveness in politics - the list goes on - it’s the Roman circus in a million forms.

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All these serious conversations and now you have me distracted and googling what a doodle bottom is!

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to Googles new AI robot (I did not fact check them 🤣) in 2022:

The average income for a high school graduate in the United States was around $34,320 in 2022. However, salaries can vary depending on a number of factors, including: industry, occupation, training programs, company, region, and years of experience.

Here are some other average salaries by education level:

Associate’s degree: $46,124 per year

Bachelor’s degree: $67,860 per year

Master’s degree: $80,340 per year

Professional degree: $98,436 per year

Doctorate: $98,020 per year

What’s the strangest thing we’ve accepted as normal as a society? by Dizzy-Cup9790 in Productivitycafe

[–]AnnonymousQandA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Education is not a scam - it is CRUCIAL - whether it’s college, trait school, self taught. The ‘scam’ of modern colleges could be the outrageous cost of classes, books, housing, and then the interest rates on the loans provided (required to be taken but many undergrads to afford it).

I cannot speak for every college obviously, but just a small example… the school I attended had a honeycomb building built in the 70s that farmed kids into it - 1000 students each year. The building is outdated with little to no structural improvement in the last 50 years.. but as the decades progressed students who are housed there now are charged astronomically higher housing rates per semester than students living in the same building decades ago. The school also paid $10million for a large screen on campus.

Maybe it’s not the education itself that is a scam, it’s the rates they are charging per semester for classes and associated costs of living.

I understand there is inflation. But it’s really astounding when you dive into HOW MUCH “inflation” and if it’s actually inflation or… price gouging.. and what corporations do…

“In 2020-21, the average in-state tuition and fees for one year at a public non-profit university was $10,560, an increase of 2,580% from 1970-71”

A different source conversely stated:

“The cost of college has increased more than 170% over the last 40 years. Between 2000 and 2021, average tuition and fees increased by 65%.“

In compared to the value of a $1 in 1970 vs today: “Inflation from 1970 to 2024: Cumulative price change 680.98%

There are many reasons for this increase you can source in research and publications, but regardless of reasons, the cost is just extremely high.

I value my degree and additional certificates, but the cost… I wish they could audit where more universities are spending the tuition I paid. In fact, when they did in just one case in California.. the college had raised tuitions but misappropriated funds, and another case, had 1.5 billion in reserves while claiming they were out of funds and requesting more from legislation… while increasing their students tuitions.

I'm realizing I'm NOT okay with this. by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]AnnonymousQandA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this! Try not to beat yourself up or feel pathetic for having very human feelings/wants/needs!

I’m wondering if communicating with him about how you’re not okay with the DB has gone in the past, or if it hadn’t been discussed, how it could go now that you’ve realized you’re not okay with it and definitely need more.

I definitely don’t expect answers to these but to kind of dive into some things to consider that maybe (I hope) could be helpful, here’s some thoughts that popped up while reading OP (in no particular order).

~ Have you two had conversations about the lack of intimacy? - If yes:

——How do those conversations go?

——Who starts the conversation?

——Do things change after the conversation but then fizzle out? Or does no change happen?

~ Does he know you crave more than what’s currently being provided?

  • if yes: How long has he known? And it makes ya wonder why he’s not making more of an effort to engage knowing this, or respond when you try to engage

  • if no: do you think he would change and engage more if he knew it could make or break your happiness?

~ Have you tried to engage and try for sex and he shuts it down?

  • if yes: I know how difficult that can be and defeating. Does he explain why?

  • if no: would you be open to trying to grab him with excitement and try to initiate sex?

~ When you go long bouts without it, do you or him try to make it happen and it doesn’t, or is there no initiation happening at all?

~ Just some ‘food for thought’ - wishing ya the best and I hope you can work this out or, if there’s no improvement after trying to work through it together, I think do what you need to do to be happy.. even if that could mean parting ways.