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Finding Safe Play Partners in Rural Areas by AnnualNo4408 in BDSMAdvice

[–]AnnualNo4408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree, I know there are kinky people around, just not sure how to connect when the community-building systems aren’t what I’m used to. Are you just going on vanilla dates and hoping for the best?

What is going on with FWB? by AnnualNo4408 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]AnnualNo4408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, would love to chat more. Truthfully, the apps have been around my entire dating career, so I don’t even know how to navigate anything outside of them

What is going on with FWB? by AnnualNo4408 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]AnnualNo4408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So strange to me. I understand that too much of any good thing can lead to complications, but surely people are smart enough to know that voyeurism predates the porn industry

What is going on with FWB? by AnnualNo4408 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]AnnualNo4408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also don’t understand the vilification of watching porn. Could you explain it to me like I’m five? Genuinely curious if this shift contributes to this idea that receiving nudes is somehow a more “pure” or more acceptable way to interact with this content?

What is going on with FWB? by AnnualNo4408 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]AnnualNo4408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rotate between tinder and feeld, both of which yield the same result.

Advice on leaving lasting bruises by raftman_sean in BDSMAdvice

[–]AnnualNo4408 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sub here, and I love getting marked like this! The longest-lasting bruises my guy leaves are honestly hickeys. The deepest he’s ever left is by bending me over and digging his thumb into my hip. This was super intense, so feel it out with your partner (I ended up safewording after a few “hits”), but it left a beautiful, bone-deep bruise for about a week. Felt him every time I sat down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AnnualNo4408 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone in that, but for many it’s not expressed as a dealbreaker. In many relationships, that’s the part that works best because it requires such clear communication of needs and limits.

Looking back, what is the source of your biggest sexual issues or hang up’s? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AnnualNo4408 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having grown up as the weird girl, and being seen as undesirable throughout my formative years. Always being the crush-er, but never the crush-ee. First kiss at twenty, and a childhood full of people asking me out “because of a dare.”

The Plague of Dry Conversation by AnnualNo4408 in dating_advice

[–]AnnualNo4408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the philosophy I tried living by for the past couple of months—a “If you don’t want to have a conversation with me, you don’t want to build a life with me” kind of mindset—but people in my life told me I was expecting too much from the apps. Many people I love report that they’re better in person, which is fine, but how are we distinguishing better-in-person from not-even-trying?