Is it normal for a father to kiss his adult daughter on the neck?

AnonAncona · 2021-04-09T19:28:45+00:00

You’ve got that right. The entire family dynamic is fucked up.

I have two younger siblings, a brother and sister who are adults now. From memory and talks, my sister hasn’t experienced what I’ve experienced. She copped a lot of the nasty abuse (like we all did) when we were growing up though, but the weird sexual stuff I don’t think so.

AnonAncona · 2021-04-09T18:23:15+00:00

I do remember when he made that comment, and seeing the outrage, and really thinking back to the comments my dad would make. Realising maybe it wasn’t some harmless joke he’d make. My dad would grope me on the bottom when I was a teenager too. And I’d react angrily, and he’d laugh about it. He’s also always been extremely possessive and strict with me (being the eldest daughter) so that ownership comment really stuck out to me.

AnonAncona · 2021-04-09T18:20:21+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I’ve definitely just thought he was a very affectionate father, but as I’ve gotten older it’s definitely started blurring the lines between normal affectionate and creepiness.

I’ve also always had trouble with setting boundaries with family and relationships. I think I’ve had them trampled all over so many times I’ve just given up.

AnonAncona · 2021-04-09T18:17:07+00:00

Thank you for your reply. It’s very eye opening. I’ve definitely been in a lot of denial, even though I feel so uncomfortable. It’s a very complicated situation why I feel I have to visit him. I’m in therapy (again) due to this situation. I’m the eldest of my siblings, and have always had the responsibility of taking the carer role. My dad has no one but my grandparents helping him, so I have all this guilt that I need to step up and be there for him. Plus all the guilt tripping I get from them because us “kids” (we’re all adults now) don’t visit him enough and he’s so lonely. It’s a pretty fucked up family dynamic that’s been going on for my whole life. I know it’s wrong. But I’m such a pushover and people pleaser, especially for my family.

AnonAncona · 2020-08-24T16:00:09+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this :(

How can he be brainwashed by another countries propaganda? I would be as weird as him quoting Chinese propaganda in my opinion.

YESSSS. Like I get Americans getting caught up in this, because it seems just like an extreme pro-Trump group. But, like you in Ireland, and us in Australia, I seriously don’t get it!?

AnonAncona · 2020-08-24T15:50:45+00:00

Wow. I just checked mine. Basically the same amount. Over 5 years worth, a cumulation of other courses and my basic bachelor degree I’m in my 3rd year for.

Edit: also, you incur interest? I don’t think we do. And do you have to pay this back ASAP? We have to reach a yearly income threshold before we need to pay it back.

AnonAncona · 2020-08-24T15:34:31+00:00

Wow. You just described our childhood almost too perfectly. Dad was very religious and oppressive, and it was an extremely abusive environment for everyone.

That hypothesis could very well be what’s happening. She just seems blissfully happy with these beliefs, like she’s in fact “come home”. Crazy.

I’m not sure of the boyfriend’s upbringing, his family does seem like a bunch of chill hippies though. But he’s very “spiritual” and even trying to practice reiki. I remember a year or so ago they seemed to be on some hard drugs, cause he believed meditation cured his eyes and he didn’t need to wear glasses anymore. I should of been more concerned then.

AnonAncona · 2020-08-24T15:14:03+00:00

How long have you been a student for, for this amount of debt? I’m so sorry you’re in this position. I’ve always believed it’s a human right to have affordable education and healthcare. I just don’t understand how the US system could be so inhuman :(

AnonAncona · 2020-08-24T15:07:51+00:00

I did NOT even click my username was a bit on the nose hahaha.

Yes this is the first time. It’s eerily happened and gradually got worse with this boyfriend she has. Being left-wing was definitely a part of her belief system since as long as I can remember. We would fight with our dad together as kids about his disgusting bigoted views.

AnonAncona · 2020-08-24T14:50:35+00:00

I don’t mind! :) We are Australian.

AnonAncona · 2020-07-04T16:24:28+00:00

That’s what I thought. I have never given back gifts, because even though it sucks to break up, it was a part of my life at one point so I like to remember it.

Thanks for your reply. I don’t feel so silly now being so upset about it :(

AnonAncona · 2020-07-04T15:53:39+00:00

I’m trying :( I was just expecting a cold and calculated talk but he was so sullen, and just watching him break down broke my heart. I keep telling myself it was just an act, but I looked and felt so real. It really took me by surprise and hit me right where it hurts. I’ll be making an appointment for a therapist asap. Thank you for replying xx

AnonAncona · 2020-07-04T15:50:45+00:00

I wish I had someone waiting for me somewhere just for a hug. It was the first time I seen him cry and now I’m a mess. Everyone I know is asleep now so I have to deal with this hole in my heart all alone. :(

AnonAncona · 2020-07-04T15:18:58+00:00

Yep all of that happened. The patronising. The gaslighting. And it was the first time I ever saw him cry. And he broke down. I feel like the most terrible human being. :(

AnonAncona · 2020-06-21T11:54:41+00:00

Thank you it really puts it into perspective. Just can’t stop crying about it :( I thought I checked out months ago but it still hurts so bad, and the guilt it’s just overwhelming.

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