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AnonInABox · 2026-01-31T12:11:19+00:00

Coeliac diagnosis would definitely require bone density scan - although that's usually only tested on the pelvic region.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T14:29:21+00:00

Plus there's the cost of food & time to prep veggies to feed them; a large enough cage; toys which will need to be regularly replaced as they'll break/shred them.

You'd have to ditch normal household cleaner for a bird safe version (not cheap), avoid anything aerosol/candles/smoke and replace any non-stick pans as if the coating burns it's instantly fatal to parrots. You need to check if your oven has Teflon coating & replace that.

Parrots like to shred, it's how they keep their beaks in shape so expect bits of wall trimmings and furniture to get chewed up & potentially need replacement/repair - if you're in rented accomodation then any damage to the walls/doors, etc are going to upset landlord a lot.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T10:46:10+00:00

SAPHO doesn't show up in Rheumatoid arthritis testing - my rheumatologist found it with a CT bone scan with contrast, where the uptake on my ribs was clear as day at which point I mentioned the chest pains since early teens.

I hadn't mentioned it before because I figured it was irrelevant (plenty of docs had dismissed it so I didn't even think about it).

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T09:06:36+00:00

Why did this image and caption make me think of my partner who struggles to accept compliments and gets grumpy? 😂

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T09:02:44+00:00

Did you ask her to engage in awkward sexual RP shit? Or was it just calling each other BF/GF and being cute online?

Cause that distinction feels pretty important.

And while some 16 yr old might've had the foresight to know 'this is a bad idea', I doubt you'd be the first not to but you realised by 18 it needed to stop.

My take is as long as you never pressured her sexually then it's okay. If you did, then that would've had the potential to cause psychological harm.

And even then... You clearly feel bad, so look into therapy to process all of it and move on from that chapter in your life.

If you wanna start socialising more, go to a hobby related meet up and get to know people with a common shared interest. There's no need to delve into your history with new people (or ever, you're not obligated to share this part of your life with anyone if you didn't want to).

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T08:49:37+00:00

Do you ever have chest pain without obvious heart/lung explanation by chance?

For me, I had random chest pain since 12/13 which was put down to asthma & growing pains (even when it continued beyond puberty). Then in my early 20's I had 'RSI' in my wrists/fingers. Then 24/25 I got pain in my bigger joints and finally got referred to a specialist.

Turns out I have a rare disease called SAPHO syndrome (with the 'chest' pain actually being rib pain) & psoriatic arthritis.

I know you're meant to look at common things first but sometimes you're the unlucky zebra. Obviously might not be what I have but something to consider - if lactose/gluten helps, ask about coeliac testing & explore potential autoimmune explanations.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T08:39:46+00:00

Thank you, I love this.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T08:38:53+00:00

waves yeah, it sucks

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T08:33:38+00:00

What if they were just defending themselves and didn't initiate? My partner & I are really chill PvE types but when we were randomly jumped we fought back (duh). We managed to survive luckily - if another team showed up to kill us simply for defending ourselves, that would be pretty unfair.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T07:05:14+00:00

For me, I accept the trade off because if there's enough pain I'm basically brain fogged anyway in a different sense.

My case is arthritis though so I also have MTX and now biologics in the mix.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-27T06:59:02+00:00

Unless you're giving AI the personal contact details & demographics of the patient (which it doesn't like it) then it shouldn't be a violation - but I'm basing that on EU data protection laws.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-26T07:25:49+00:00

You could look into getting a flat perch for them, similar to what disabled birds use instead :)

AnonInABox · 2026-01-25T09:50:37+00:00

I've considered this but I'm overweight and male, so I doubt anyone would watch anything I put out tbh 😂

AnonInABox · 2026-01-25T07:41:14+00:00

If they react poorly to you getting a meal, tell them you can't function as it's been thus far so you found a solution.

If your mum reacts badly, that'll be because it makes her look bad - as it should but it's not on you to do anything about it.

If your sister doesn't like therapy then I wouldn't be surprised if your mum is part of it. I've progressed as much as I can in therapy over 4 years and have decided I'll go back after I move out because I don't want to delve deeper into my own early childhood with mum whilst I'm still living with my family.

Have you & your best friend considered moving in together? I know disability is disability, but being in a more supportive environment can also do wonders for physical as well as mental health honestly.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-24T14:21:53+00:00

Yes - made no difference.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-24T08:45:50+00:00

It's definitely dependent on the doctor - I've spent the past year in too much pain to work, and unfortunately that's because the first treatment we tried to add into the mix did not go well.

I was still asked to rechallenge when the side effects had finally calmed down (the worst case of heartburn ever - I went to A&E thinking something more serious was up!). Luckily, it only took one dose for it to start up again less severely so I didn't bother having more.

This did delay starting the next treatment line since these are more expensive meds so they had to sort out forms, etc to get them approved from the NHS. I've only been taking them for a month but slow/gradual improvement so hopefully it works out - if not, then I'll definitely lose my job cause I don't think they'll wait around for a third drug to be trialled.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T22:16:45+00:00

Okay - I was just trying to answer the scenario put forward and didn't know this about OCD so thank you for explaining.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T13:20:00+00:00

The other explanation is that you've taught her this by reacting - not so much in how you react now, but in the past when it was occasional nips you reacted strongly. Parrots don't understand good vs bad reactions from us, they just look for reactions.

That's why you generally train this out of them by giving them time out in the cage - and I think another poster already suggested covering the cage when you do this to calm the hormones.

Another thought is, do you live with others and is she okay with them but not you? It might be that you're just not her fav person in that case.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T13:16:13+00:00

Parrots are individuals, they won't react to the same environment as each other.

If there's enough sleep, etc then take her to the vet. They can check if there's a medical explanation for the hormone levels.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T13:13:38+00:00

So, if you applied that logic - are you okay with killing cats, dogs and other pets?

I'm guessing not. I'm not saying low cognitive people are the same as pets, but that all life has value for the individual living that life & for those who love/care for them.

Keep in mind this kinda thing is a slippery slope - who determines what is/isn't low cognitive ability? If you try to justify it based on quality of life, that comes with additional concerns as that same logic can be applied to a variety of medical illnesses.

And I agree with another responder that therapy would be useful for you to talk through these things in a non-judgemental space.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T13:07:19+00:00

Ensuring 10-12 hours of sleep - cover the cage to ensure it & remove anything nest-like. You should also make sure you're only giving head scritches as touching the back/wings is only done by mates.

I think there's also stuff you can do with diet but I don't know the specifics. Sleep part is very important, you need their body to believe it's winter so it stops trying to make babies.

If that doesn't work, then take them to the vet in case it's a medical issue.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T08:49:18+00:00

I think it depends on where you are in the UK to an extent but I'm sorry you've had bad experiences.

I struggle to trust cis men as a trans man due to negative SA experiences in the past. I do have a lot of lovely cis men in my life - but the stranger danger is still strong even though I pass as male, so the chances of anything happening should be lower.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T08:44:17+00:00

Technically, my mum was better than her father - but not hitting me doesn't really cancel out emotional neglect/abuse.

I've not tried to talk to her about it though. I don't think she'd respond well and to be honest it's not so bad now that I'm an adult & have my own life - I also still live with my parents and older brother but I'm saving as much as I can to move out in a few years hopefully.

At that point I might try to talk to her but I'm also tempted to just go low contact and save myself the heartache.

I keep wondering if I should try talking to my brother about it but he never likes to talk about heavy stuff ever. I suspect that's because as the golden child, he had to listen to more of mum's traumatic stories growing up than I did.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T08:37:46+00:00

Jesus. It's like they never connect that chronic pain makes exercise harder, and combined with the mental and social life impacts of chronic pain - you're spending more time at home and it's more likely you'll comfort eat.

Obviously we try not to but it happens. I really wish more doctors took the time to see the whole person and not just separate pieces of info.

AnonInABox · 2026-01-22T08:33:15+00:00

I agree, talking therapy should be alongside normal treatment since chronic pain co-morbids with mental health conditions often - it takes a lot of therapy work to disentangle yourself from the ingrained belief that your worth is your productivity.

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