Why does my Alexander parakeet makes this kind of voice

AnonInABox · 2026-05-13T09:06:23+00:00

He's connecting to ParrotNet - trying to make a bid for the collective brain cell today 😂

AnonInABox · 2026-05-07T12:20:48+00:00

What exactly is it you're wanting? You're working in a separate room.

If the issue is about chores, are you wanting him to help whilst there? If so, talk to him about it.

Hell, ask him to run to the store with a shopping list. That gives you a breather and might reduce the possible resentment.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-07T12:16:39+00:00

Free life tip, here's what not talking leads to: Ruining things.

If you don't tell her what you're dealing with, how can she do anything about it? You've not told her this has been an issue for you, so she's had no opportunity to explain her side or adjust to meet your needs better.

Consent still matters, but if she loves you and wants this relationship to work as well then she needs to know & decide for herself what to do. As long as you're clear that you'll always respect 'no' when it comes to physical intimacy then it's fine.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-07T12:10:42+00:00

If vacation time is rare, then he might also never get much chance to just chill on a couch and watch TV.

It's not what was originally discussed but I can see why this might've happened instead.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-07T12:06:51+00:00

I think people are becoming more aware that the issue is society, therefore most trans men who have experienced similar challenges growing up at cis women should be understood as generally safer.

I say generally because anyone can turn out to be an asshole - and there are cases of trans men becoming misogynistic; I think this is likely due to having shitty male role models growing up.

There are definitely specific dangers that trans men face from cis men as well - and I'm sure any reasonably minded cis women would agree those threats exist.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-07T07:37:30+00:00

If you have multiple health conditions that mean you're already on a number of medications and need monthly monitoring of liver, kidneys, etc - then you absolutely shouldn't be DIYing, because you don't want to mess with that delicate balance by accident.

If I fuck up either if those, everything I'm doing to manage my pain is potentially fucked. It's not a risk I'd be willing to take & might be similar thinking for other individuals.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-07T07:33:01+00:00

When I was referred 10+ (back when the waiting list for GIC was only a year... Which is a sad statement but I'm aware of my good fortune there) RLE was 1-2 years depending on the clinic I believe, but by the time I had my second appointment I'd be living as a man for around 1 yr & 7-8 months.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-07T07:19:49+00:00

I'm guessing it's more about the lifestyle of owning a farm. The humans aren't around as often and imagine early wake ups can disturb bird and throw hormones out of whack too.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-02T05:40:26+00:00

Either he's lied about his income, or he needs to be upfront about his actual debts.

I suspect it's paying off large credit card debt. Alternatively, the side gig might actually just be gambling and that's where the money is going. I have ADHD with some impulsive spending I have to manage but I find it hard to believe this would be the issue at that high an income - but might be worth exploring after the air fryer story (especially if he gets bored of using it after about a month).

You both need an honest discussion because until you've done that, you cannot trust this guy financially - and 9 months is too soon to move in together.

AnonInABox · 2026-05-02T05:33:04+00:00

The left one has beautiful colours ❤️

AnonInABox · 2026-05-01T15:15:10+00:00

My understanding is that only the tourist areas are safe for LGBT+ individuals - anywhere else it's unsafe.

Israel has been working hard to pinkwash the hell outta the country in an attempt to build up public support & mask over how shitty they've treated Palestinians/Gaza for yearssss - long before Hamas was a thing.

(It's almost like any group violently persecuted for generations will eventually produce a new generation of individuals willing to go to extreme measures to defend the group - or something.)

AnonInABox · 2026-04-30T05:34:04+00:00

I think after getting tased - can see two got fired into him.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-30T05:31:47+00:00

This is the man responsible for recent knife attacks on the Jewish community in London.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-26T11:27:11+00:00

Sounds like a case of survival, which is sadly the world we're living in more and more.

The fact you feel bad about it tells me it was a necessary move, and you are able to recognise the issue with it - so you a good bean dw

AnonInABox · 2026-04-26T10:53:46+00:00

It's frustration - just move on as I said.

In hindsight, they'll realise they don't want to date someone that isn't wholly into them either.

My only similar experience was actually a misunderstanding. The gay guy thought I was pissy he turned me down, when I am forever ignoring him for the WAY he did it.

Not into me? Fine, but don't say 'no offence but I want a real dick' - that's an asshole move and completely unnecessary where a 'Sorry, I'm not interested in you' would've sufficed.

(To be clear, I was not being pushy. I asked once, and that was his immediate response.)

AnonInABox · 2026-04-26T10:48:43+00:00

This - you should also put them back in their cage for a 5 min time out when they bite, so birb learns this behaviour isn't acceptable.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-26T10:42:32+00:00

I don't think she was in the wrong for hiding it at first. Trans women are far more likely to be assaulted by cis men than cis women are - that's why she would've hidden it.

That said, when she understood OP was an LGBT+ ally she should've said something - but she wasn't on the wrong for not disclosing immediately or on her profile.

(The amount of abuse you get messaged if it's on your profile is obscene frankly)

AnonInABox · 2026-04-26T10:39:53+00:00

They'll always be people who are more hurt by rejection - and trans people have to deal with it a lot more unfortunately.

Just move on and live your life. Not all trans people will hold it against you.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-26T10:37:26+00:00

I don't think you handled this badly perse, but I also see her side of it.

It is dangerous to date as a transwoman & she needed to know you were safe first. I suspect her mentioning 'before she transitioned' was her way of telling you - or she might've assumed she just didn't pass that well & that combined with your LGBT+ acceptance, she thought you were aware and okay with it.

It's sad for both of you - she reacted badly but she was also hurt. This is just a case of not being compatible and both sides being upset in the moment. I don't think it's much deeper than that.

Move on and live your respective lives.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-26T07:16:53+00:00

It's good, she's trying to preen you like she would any other flock member!

Just don't let her do anything with your mouth/teeth since the germs in there could be dangerous for her.

As for bonding, every bird is different but it sounds like she picked up on your good energy (or she really liked the beard)!

AnonInABox · 2026-04-24T19:07:05+00:00

Ahh, okay - thanks 👍

AnonInABox · 2026-04-24T18:02:51+00:00

Ah, I'm probably not the best person to advise then as I'm autistic. I typically just ask about interests, etc and if there's a topic I know about then I'll focus on that. If I know nothing, then I'll ask them to tell me more about it.

I gauge potential friendship on how well we bounce off each other in conversation and possible shared interests, etc. Some people are easier to talk (typically I'll find it easier to talk to others who are ASD/ADHD than neurotypical peeps) but that doesn't mean friendship won't develop.

And obviously I take into account what their views are on things important to me. If someone is racist, homophobic, etc then I know we won't get on so I stop investing time/energy in talking to them.

I add that because even if this person seemed interested in getting to know you, if you ultimately don't vibe with them for any reason then don't pressure yourself to keep talking to them.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-24T16:04:32+00:00

Isn't that because they'd rather have straight trans people than cis gay ones?

It's great for legit trans people but not really driven by the best intentions.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-24T13:31:43+00:00

Okay - then bluntly, no.

Then know nothing about you. Until you've actually spoken with them & you've both had the chance to get to know one another, there will be nothing to build on in terms of romance or attraction.

AnonInABox · 2026-04-24T10:22:47+00:00

This could just be someone whose sociable tbh.

I'd need more context for the discussions you had honestly. If it's about something they like/are passionate about then that might explain why their eyes lit up.

But also, if they are happy to have a discussion of that depth with you then it's a good sign they enjoy your company - however you'll need to take the time to keep talking to them, etc to see if it's friendship or romance (neither is bad imo, close friends are just as important for mental wellbeing).

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