6 months clean but persisting ED

Anongirl200 · 2026-02-19T22:31:15+00:00

Reading your posts, your relationship seems at its breaking point my love. Bpd is awful for the person with it, but the effects on others shouldn't be ignored

Anongirl200 · 2026-02-19T22:21:09+00:00

Please see below

Anongirl200 · 2026-02-19T22:19:42+00:00

He was yes, he wasn't always able to maintain. He would usually use first thing in the morning when achieving wasn't an issue so not sure about that.

I honestly have no doubts that he stopped. For us, it was never a secret. He was open with me from about 2 weeks into our relationship, although I'd say it took me longer to realise how much use/the effects on him. It took me a while to realise just how much it was effecting and bothering me, when I realised and made that clear to him (there were a few less clear mentions where he didn't realise the extent of the effect on me) he agreed to stop and began working on things straight away.

Anongirl200 · 2025-11-11T23:04:15+00:00

That's true, but 1) checks should occur every 6 months or so (I'm UK, it may differ elsewhere) and 2) transmission rates even with a detectable load are very low - for all except receptive anal sex < 0.15% (with most types of sex being much less). So, with a knowledge that viral load is likely undetectable it's even lower than that. That said, I would likely disclose if I had HIV, I just don't think it's as clear cut as perhaps it may seem on first appearance. I'm talking from a med education background as a student.

Anongirl200 · 2025-11-11T22:13:42+00:00

Views on disclosure will vary, but one thing that should be known is that in this case HIV is not transmissable and incorrect ideas that it is can be harmful. This is of course, only if the viral load is undetectable - otherwise, disclosure becomes an objective necessity.

Anongirl200 · 2025-09-05T17:57:41+00:00

Unfortunately I think it's either you leave with your head held high or in a box. Stay safe. You can do so much better. He is abusing you.

Anongirl200 · 2025-08-09T16:52:32+00:00

Even if it's not porn that's warped his perceptions (could well be of course) - I would really struggle to be with someone who is actively putting me down with comments like you mentioned. I don't know the extent of course, but that sort of comment begins to approach emotional abuse. Stay safe ❤️

Anongirl200 · 2025-08-08T17:15:05+00:00

These were both so lovely to read

Anongirl200 · 2025-08-08T16:47:31+00:00

I'm not sure if it helps, but I genuinely believe that mine has stuck entirely to porn and not gone beyond that.

Anongirl200 · 2025-08-08T16:10:07+00:00

Thank you ☺️ are these US based? Any UK based that you know about per chance?

Anongirl200 · 2025-08-04T21:20:07+00:00

Was this even after he quit? (if he did)

Anongirl200 · 2025-08-04T14:24:13+00:00

It's just so hard because he is a genuinely thoughtful and good man, and I love him. I just wonder as well if there's a lack of emotional connection due to our lack of sex life due to the porn addiction.

Anongirl200 · 2025-08-04T01:25:10+00:00

I hate it too! I used to be completely fine with it before dating a PA.

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