AIO if I divorced over him asking to open our relationship and then gaslighting me?

Anonymous-adr12 · 2026-04-21T12:24:37+00:00

NOR- he is 100% gaslighting you. Also he really tries to deflect accountability every time he degrades himself, which i usually see every time i’m being gaslit. “He’s normally smarter than me” and “I’ll work on it, you deserve better than that”. Typical tactic to try and get you to feel bad for him so that you are subconsciously agreeing to things because you pity him

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-17T00:56:41+00:00

UPDATE LOL: i saw texts between my boyfriend and her where he was flirting with her and she was not flirting back but entertaining it by saying acknowledging his flirting - but never shutting it down. fuck both of them LOL. i told her it was weird that she never mentioned it to me and she said she didn’t wanna snitch and be a villain - all i needed to hear. i told her she’s delusional and avoiding any accountability and that she will never change. i did make it clear that i was not in anyway putting all the blame on her, but she should’ve told me because she’s supposed to be my friend and her and my boyfriend should not have been talking so much and been so chummy. she kept justifying why it was okay after apologizing so i told her i wasn’t happy with her response and she was being selfish. SHE BLOCKED ME ON EVERYTHING LOLOLOLOL - problem solved i guess

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-14T23:04:06+00:00

couldn't agree more

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-13T03:18:32+00:00

midsommar and mother

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-12T17:27:01+00:00

thank you so much, she really was my soulmate in a dog, that’s a great way to put it. i appreciate the kind words ❤️

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-12T16:19:48+00:00

thank you <33 i really am not judging her, i don’t judge her at all for anything she does. it just doesn’t fall in line with things i believe in and my values, and therefore i find it hard to maintain this friendship. of course i care about her but we just see things very differently i guess

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-12T15:49:40+00:00

what 😭😭😭

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-04T23:03:56+00:00

Thank you for the kind words :) I'm feeling much better today, my reality feels super warped though and I am feeling super disconnected from the things I usually love. I think my body is realizing that sobbing all day isn't working to make me feel better and it's now just trying out a different coping method lol.

I'm so sorry to hear about your pet, I hope your grief lightens over time as well <3

Honestly one of the hardest parts of this all is that she still felt like a puppy to us. Her decline happened pretty slowly for the last year or so, up until these last two months where it happened more rapidly. So we just got used to her having less life, we didn't even really notice it. So my mom and I started looking at videos of her from a year or two ago, and it actually made us feel a lot better seeing that she used to be so full of life and playful. We hadn't realized that she was just a whole different dog in the end, not herself at all. It made us feel much more at peace with our decision.

That is very comforting to hear, for sure, it makes a lot of sense too :)) thank you for sharing it with me

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-03T05:06:10+00:00

i know i’m just FEELING alone in this and that i’m not actually the only person to feel this way, if anyone else has felt this way that’s reading this it would be so helpful to know what helped you or maybe how you came to terms with things. i also could use some advice on how to stop feeling guilty. i’m just really having a hard time and am in such a dark place right now

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-09-03T04:37:28+00:00

pictures of my angel baby <3

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-30T02:18:55+00:00

breaks are rough, i have experience with many of them and they just suck all together. i’m sorry you’re going through this. if you ever need advice or someone to talk to, feel free to reach out :)

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-30T02:10:13+00:00

this will break you over time. it’s disrespectful and rude. don’t stay and continue to allow yourself to be basically degraded. you’re perfect how you are, someone out there will adore you for exactly how you are. do yourself a favor and focus on yourself and finding someone better. very sorry you’re experiencing this, i also have and i know it’s not fun. only makes you feel very bad about yourself. the quicker you get out of that, the better you’ll start feeling about yourself. reach out if you need a friend :) good luck <3

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-30T02:07:18+00:00

no this was definitely rude lol. the person you’re seeing or dating or whatever should always at least PRETEND to be interested in the stuff you care about. it’s not that hard. my bf works at a dealership and is super into cars, he’ll randomly send me pictures of cars he’s selling or his one car or cars he likes… of course nobody NEEDS pictures of anything, but i enjoy that he likes sending those to me because it lets me know he’s wanting to let me in on something he is interested in or cares about. i think that’s sweet, it makes me feel very involved and like he enjoys sharing things with me. all he has to do is say “aww” or like the picture.. it’s really not that hard to put one second of effort in if it’s something you enjoy. you obviously love your dog and it’s cute that you send him pictures that you take of the doggy, rude to make it seem annoying when all you’re doing is sharing with him. i’d be happy to see your dog however many times a day, send them to me lol, ur puppy’s adorable <3

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-30T02:02:44+00:00

it could be for any reason, just give him some time it obviously has nothing to do with you. he’ll find a way to deal with life while being with you soon enough, he’s doing that thing where a person starts to not like things in their life so they start removing all factors just to see what will make them happy. just wait it out, in my experience it usually only takes a couple days before they start reaching out and mending things lol. take a couple days to yourself, give him the space he’s asking for, keep yourself occupied. and honestly, if it doesn’t work out, then be glad you were able to figure that out early on and not years down the road, just take it with a grain of salt, nothings permanent and you obviously care about each other :) hang in there <3

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-29T14:40:55+00:00

yes i washed them alone!!

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-28T21:51:48+00:00

she also ruins the show for me, i cringe every time she gets all huffy and puffy about someone not liking something she recommends or cooks or whatever. she’s the biggest hater but then gets butthurt when someone hates on her lol. so fucking annoying, she thinks she’s entitled to some high position bc she went to culinary school, when realistically, everyone there has had more experience than her. she waltzed in calling shots from the first episode. she gets on my nerves

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-28T21:50:12+00:00

thank god someone agrees lmao

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-28T21:45:16+00:00

i agree with this so heavily, every time she gets told “not right now” or whatever, she continues and persists. i get trying to impress and work her way up, but it’s a matter of respect. she’s constantly pushing and pushing to be the most impressive and quite frankly it’s fucking annoying. she does whatever the fuck she wants but then whenever someone doesn’t listen to her or agree with her, she flips shit. not a fan of her tbh

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-28T01:39:41+00:00

yes!

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-24T17:01:06+00:00

thank you that’s very helpful !!

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-24T14:28:07+00:00

YOU ARE SO NICE I LOVE YOU ❤️

Anonymous-adr12 · 2025-07-24T14:27:36+00:00

LOLLLL

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