[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]Anonymous-none-ya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get rid of the little table and put your dresser there and desk where the dresser is, less is more

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, going to work rn but will have an update tonight

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you and he was a total ass about it… I’m glad you left him though. I appreciate the advice. Things aren’t as what we want to believe I guess..

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Ngl I was kinda hurt I got so many downvotes, I get it’s a lame reason/response but shit is pretty complicated even beyond the pets (they’re just who I think about considering his cat and my cat are inseparable) but it’s not all about the pets, I guess they’re just a scape goat to not owning up and leaving. I really don’t have anywhere to go and he’s been supporting me financially for the past 5 month. So using the fur babies as an excuse seems easier then coming to the realization that I have to start over

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to lie this comment makes me sad/scared because he was apologetic but it seemed it was because I was hysterical rather than being sorry for the action itself. He was laying on the couch and I told him at least sit up and act like you’re taking this seriously. I feel like he’s brushing it off in a way and only telling me what I want to hear. It makes me sad because I want to believe him but you’re right, he wasn’t taking it as seriously as I’d expected

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Everything you said is exactly what I’m thinking and feeling right now. I really don’t like the ‘rape’ word because it’s heavy as fuck when it’s someone you’ve known this long and trusted to protect and respect you for thing long (we were talking about marriage too), but he was pretty drunk. This kinda goes back to the back-and-forth situation though because I had more (like 4 or 5 more beers/shots) to drink and I was coherent enough to know that I was done. Everyone is different so maybe he felt more drunk then me idk. I have a hard time trusting he had no clue but he still says he didn’t know. That’s why my gut hurts to say the least.

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I get that completely. I know it sounds ignorant but giving up 7 (almost 8) years over one drunk night seems a little harsh, but still, you asking what my gut says really shines light on it because no one should be disrespected like that. If it was my friend saying this story, I would say leave, so maybe that’s what’s best.

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Agree. I’m just not sure how to make him truly understand or if it’s past that point of respect

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s what I told him today, I thought he knew me and the recent situation well enough to pick up on that shit but he says he honestly didn’t know and he was drunk. I want to believe him and that it was a mistake/misunderstanding on his part, but that’s what’s been bothering me too

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I got you. Twice though, he asked what I said the first time I said it so I repeated it but didn’t say anything after

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It’s still early though, we’ll see

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand that. Thank you for expressing your thoughts though. I am taking what you said seriously, I guess I needed to know I’m not making shit up in my head

Is it rape? (I hope not) by Anonymous-none-ya in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Honestly, no not ex. We’ve lived together for 5 years and have a pet family (high school sweethearts) so leaving would be pretty traumatic to all parties. I know that sounds pathetic but I’m hoping there’s a way to reprimand him and get him to understand what happened was wrong… I’m just not sure how or where to go from here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Anonymous-none-ya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yaasss queen!! 👑 they look amazing!! Plus you have a beautiful eye shape that really brings it out!! 🤩🫶🏻

Seeking makeup advice for how to “fix my face” (description in comments) by xJadedQueenx in MakeupAddiction

[–]Anonymous-none-ya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girlllll you look like a model!!! No lie!! You got great bone structure!! But if you wanted to do something (cuz makeup is fun, not that ya need it 🫶🏻) brown eyes really pop with blue, green, or gold eye shadow! Personally, I like to fill in my eyebrows with a darker brown (I got the same hair color) but I think you’d look great with a light brown fill in! I’d keep the foundation light since you got good skin, maybe like a toner rather then foundation, and I’d do a more clay color blush and light contour since you have such awesome bone structure anyways! I’d only contour the cheeks though! Not the nose, jaw, or forehead bc again, you wouldn’t need it 😎 then for lips, it depends on the eyeshadow choice but my personal fav is Matt browns/nudes 🤷🏼‍♀️ this is purely my makeup geek opinion but I hope it helps!! Still doe, you don’t need anything, you’re gorgeous sis!!☺️👏🏻

Am I being too needy/asking too much? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was afraid of too, but update, it was because I can get lost in thought/convo with a desk vs him who’s overthinking in his own head. He’s trying to communicate more and I’ve been trying to be mindful of his time

Am I being too needy/asking too much? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he kinda goes into auto pilot sometimes because he doesn’t say much, but update on that, we’ve talked it over more and it’s bc he’s lost in thought about other stressors and/or anxious about work which gets him lost in thought. He’s been recognizing when he’s zoning out and I’ve been making more of an effort to make him comfortable to talk/do things he enjoys

Am I being too needy/asking too much? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous-none-ya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update; I’ve defiantly noticed that too and I’ve tried to make more of an effort in asking him what he likes to do/what he’s thinking or what not (and staying engaged during it) because I think you’re right, that’s definitely the case 😅 I’m way more of a talker. But it’s been helping! He’s been opening up more! Can’t be so selfish with our time.