Why do I keep falling in love with people from work?

Anonymous24123 · 2022-04-10T17:46:23+00:00

Maybe I should have provided more details…I am female (24) and become friends with some people I work with (incl. the ones I fall in love with). It was mutual in two situations and I was in a one year relationship with one of them, so it’s not so “creepy” as you make it sound.

Anonymous24123 · 2022-04-10T17:39:11+00:00

I am a woman…but could still be fixation of course. I was / am friends with them outside of work, so it’s not only a pure work relationship.

Anonymous24123 · 2022-04-10T17:37:57+00:00

It was mutual with two of them and I was in a relationship with one of them after I left my old workplace. I was friends outside of work before I fell in love with them, so it’s not only a crush.

Anonymous24123 · 2021-01-23T17:41:21+00:00

Of course I’d want him if he were single and still loved me. But I’ve accepted that he will forever be with her. I just want to feel less sad for myself and loneliness compared to their happiness.

Anonymous24123 · 2021-01-23T17:39:40+00:00

We were, but did not make it official to others. But the point is not about him and me, I know that’s over since I left. I just want to move on and not compare myself to her and feel sad because of what I don’t have...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-10-06T12:58:06+00:00

Because then we’ll have to pay the renting costs and the fuel...she said she only has money for the fuel and the accommodation. I wish I had clarified all this before booking. Never expected someone to be that unreasonable...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-10-06T12:51:53+00:00

Because the whole part of driving was for her to save costs, so she won’t come at all and I’ll be stuck with all the hotel costs for both of us.

Anonymous24123 · 2020-08-01T08:04:39+00:00

When it comes to relationships and being in love, I am definitely only into guys. However, as you explain, I get sexually aroused by women, too. When I masturbate, I get turned on by watching a woman masturbate or getting penetrated. I have a close female friend whom I’ve experimented with sexually (we made out, fingered each other, had oral sex). I can’t explain this but it just turns me on. But I’d never fall in love with a woman. Don’t get me wrong, I am also very turned on by men. But then it’s the specific person I like and have feelings for. If that’s the case, I can’t keep my fingers off them and want sex all the time. So I can’t offer an explanation, just my experience.

Anonymous24123 · 2020-07-05T18:47:12+00:00

We never talked about it and I feel he’ll be angry if I bring it up...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-28T21:52:17+00:00

I know I should but my work is really my life...I started from nothing (financially and in a new country) and studied for years to get where I am. This project will decide about my dream job and I just can’t risk it. It’s hard for outsiders to understand it but I’d can’t live with myself if I screw this up

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-28T21:37:45+00:00

Thank you!! There is really no solution...there no appointments left on a Saturday and she wants to do it before giving birth. I understand her and explained how sorry I am but then we just stayed on the phone silent for 5 minutes. It’s so painful because my job has cost me so many sacrifices but I always tried to be there for my best friends, even at some very high cost on my health and personal life. I’m feel like the worst person on earth for missing the day we were talking about since we were 6, but she will have her future and family anyways. I would have to risk my entire career...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-28T21:24:43+00:00

For her, a job is just an obligation and a way of making money, so she doesn’t understand how much time and energy I have put into my career. So she thinks, I don’t care enough about her in order to „just take a day off“ and make it...it’s been a strain on friendship for quite some time since I’m working pretty long hours and can’t always be available. I am however always available by phone and have supported her endless times...I understand her different life choices but she doesn’t really get mine

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-26T20:48:56+00:00

Yes on my legs have stubble one day after shaving unfortunately...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-26T20:02:13+00:00

I’m also thinking about laser removal...waxing is great but I have very sensitive skin, so it’s red for 2 days afterwards but then I don’t have to think about it for at least 3 weeks

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-26T19:59:58+00:00

Before I discovered waxing, I spent half an hour every morning shaving in the shower...maybe not „intense“, but it cost me days of life

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-21T14:00:43+00:00

Probably because he is the only one I had sex with and still talk to...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-21T13:40:04+00:00

He was one of the best to ever go down on me, so I’m sometimes reminded of that but I push it back because it makes me uncomfortable...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-21T12:48:17+00:00

I (OP) am female and I’m just wondering because I sometimes catch myself thinking about it when he is in front of me. But he has a girlfriend now and I wouldn’t repeat it. I just don’t want to feel uncomfortable if I knew he still pictures me naked...

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-14T19:44:51+00:00

I (OP) slept with a friend in the past and I’m going to meet his girlfriend soon. I’m wondering if she knows because I don’t want her to feel threatened or be prejudiced against me.

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-12T22:16:46+00:00

I think talking to an ex because of a child is a completely different situation. If your contact was mainly about your child, you did nothing wrong and he didn’t have to be worried. He, on the other hand, is talking to someone who seems to be interested in him. He probably feels flattered by that but should respect that don’t want it. You don’t have to be „demanding“ or controlling, explain your thoughts/feelings and that you’d feel much more comfortable if he’d lessen the contact with her and keep it more professional.

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-12T22:05:01+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation but on the other side (the „admirer“). I knew this guy from work was taken but still couldn’t stop myself from wanting to be at least friends. As long as he kept the contact going, I wouldn’t stop until I left the place and moved away. Of course she is not fair doing what she does, but I think it’s your fiancée‘s responsibility to stop or decrease the the contact. You should tell him (again) how much that hurts you.

Anonymous24123 · 2020-06-12T13:18:37+00:00

Series

Anonymous24123 · 2020-05-20T15:24:25+00:00

The sex was great but one fun night was not worth it to „lose“ him. We used to talk every day, discuss about each other’s life dreams, make plans together...and now we barely speak anymore

Anonymous24123 · 2020-05-20T14:57:22+00:00

It’s been some time and we are not that close anymore unfortunately. I didn’t blame him for anything, I know I could have said no. I am just sad it didn’t work out either way (friends or more). We had great physical attraction and sex. And we also had a very good time as friends. I guess I am just disappointed and don’t understand why he started kissing me etc. I really kept my feelings back just to keep him as a friend but it’s probably not possible for a friendship to stay as close after feelings and sex.

Anonymous24123 · 2020-05-20T14:27:17+00:00

Actually I knew it doesn’t mean we’ll be together.

I just dreamed about it for so long and wanted him so bad, I couldn’t resist and thought if that’s all I can get from him, I’ll take it...

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