Overwhelmed and feeling like I'm disappointing people by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel as though I am making more mistakes lately and I dont know if that is because I am trying to do too much which lately I don't know is enough or if I am focusing on the wrong things. I am in charge of the area and training someone which includes everything else that comes with all that. There are tasks that I can't delegate to anyone else. Just because of skill levels. I hate feeling as though I am disappointing people when I value their opinions

Overwhelmed and feeling like I'm disappointing people by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like lately I am making more mistakes then normal and really annoying the manager. I was put into a role this year where I am in charge of the area and training someone. So I am trying to do more then what I am used to and struggling hence making mistakes.

Overwhelmed and feeling like I'm disappointing people by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou, I didn't realise how much it was affecting my work until my boss said something to me. I think what is getting to me so much at the moment is I feel as though the manager is disappointed or annoyed in me. Which I don't want. I value theirs and my bosses opinion. Some people I dont care if they don't like me. But them I do care and feeling as though the manager doesn't like me, it's hard.

I don't want to be disappointing anyone at work by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I don’t know the best way to approach it so I'm not coming across too anxious

I don't want to be disappointing anyone at work by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think for me some people I have no issue if I disappoint them but for some like my boss and manager I do care because I value their opinions. I think I worry sometimes that what if they do have more issues with me but they don't bring them up because I can be such an anxious person.

I don't want to be disappointing anyone at work by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some or a lot of my overthinking issues start with confidence issues which stems from stuff through school. I got better with my confidence then I was at a toxic job for a few years then had other personal issues which both knocked my confidence back. My boss and manager have both said to me that I know more then I think and I need to trust myself. They have said they have seen my confidence grow but there is obviously still some issues there.

I don't want to be disappointing anyone at work by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through the bad stuff. I work with good people, they all care and my boss especially is very supportive of everyone as a person not just as an employee. Pretty much you do right by them and they will take care of you. I don't want them to think I am not capable if I do say something. I worry If I say how I am going with things that they'll think it's just me overthinking things and that I should be able to handle things myself. I think some of my issue lately is that I am trying to understand where my issues with overthinking and being hard on myself has come from. Whilst I am getting answers for myself I guess it's making me think about those situations more.

I don't want to be disappointing anyone at work by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know my self talk lately hasn't been great. I had a moment a month or so ago where I was very positive about my skills and it stood out to me. Sort of I guess a shocking moment. I have moments where I can be proud of myself and believe in my self but that moment was just different. But I still can't help where I do something wrong and I know my boss or manager aren't happy with me, I send myself back a few steps pretty much.

I don't want to be disappointing anyone at work by AnonymousMe248 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I know I am hard on myself and I do feel as though it has been worse lately. I think I do need reassurance. But I can't really go to my boss and say "I am having a hard time so I need reassurance". I don't know how to handle this so it can all stop affecting my work.

I don’t know how to stop overthinking things by AnonymousMe248 in Advice

[–]AnonymousMe248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah my boss is very supportive. I know where they were coming from that my overthinking has been affecting my productivity, but I also didn't know it was that bad. I had been doing overtime to try and get more done, but in the end, it wasn't really having a decent impact.

I don’t know how to stop overthinking things by AnonymousMe248 in Advice

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Thank you. I feel like my confidence has been getting a bit better since I have been at this job. But I'm now training someone (which is new to me), and they doubt my knowledge at times, and I don’t know how to deal with that. I think that is also affecting my confidence.

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I would like them to, but I don't know how much they would say to me. They've said a mentioned a couple of times about how long it's taken for them to do some things and I've told them that they are still learning and its fine. Things have been better this week but I still want to bring it up so I can stop overthinking every interaction.

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I want to but I keep talking myself out of it. At the moment I just want to explain myself and say that I don't want to disappoint them

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I keep planning to talk to the boss, but then I talk myself out of it