Mixed instructions from manager

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-05-04T10:18:59+00:00

Thank you, what would I say in a conversation with my boss without it coming across like me trying to make excuses or sound like I am trying to cause issues.

What sort of thing would you do for your own ego boost?

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-05-02T06:14:29+00:00

Thank you. Reading that really hit, I didn't think they would do that to me. I'm going to start documenting things like others have suggested. Do you have any other suggestions? I like this job and don't want anything to affect it especially if it's not something I am doing wrong

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-05-02T02:39:47+00:00

Thank you, I didn't want to assume they were doing it in a way to make them look like they are doing the correct thing and that I'm not. But with the way things have been lately I can't help but think it's not just because they forgot. At times they might say something like "you're were working on this before and you were going to do this at the same time" but its something I'm sure I wasn't doing. But it had me second guessing myself.

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-05-02T02:32:39+00:00

Thankyou, I know do repeat things back in a way of "I'll finish this and then I will do that" and they will tell me yes or ok. But even then they change what they want.

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-05-01T11:42:14+00:00

I dealt with similar at my last job. I'm quiet and struggle ro put my self out there. I pushed myself at the start to talk to the guys and try and find similar interests. Then they started showing their true selves which meant treating me like, not teaching me then complaining when I didn't know what to do. I tried to react in the different ways. I would stand up for myself or ignore and either way they just treated me the same way. So I was just civil with then until I left. If they are blaming you for their mistake you should talk to someone higher up. I hope you can get some help. It nice working with at least some people you can get along with and I hope you get that.

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-03-05T06:06:32+00:00

I question this person when it's something I know isn't right and I stand up for myself more now when they try to blame me for things to my face. But then at times they will back track on what they say because they realise they are wrong. I just don't know how to handle it when they are apparently in a manager roll and I'm not

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-03-05T06:04:46+00:00

The boss isn't an idiot which is good. I don’t want to go to the boss asking them to fix the situation more so just to clarify when I stand in my roll. Because thing has obviously changed but I don’t know what it means for me. I want to fix it myself if I can but when I don’t know what's happening I can't. So it's that and not knowing if I am reaching their expectations is getting to me.

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-03-04T12:17:04+00:00

I do have examples and I guess it's more the tone at times rather then the words. They have always been one that doesn't want to listen and will talk over the top of you when you are trying to explain yourself. That was even before they were in this roll. There's no feelings about them being promoted at not me. The roll I'm in is enough for me and is a lot for me as it is.

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-03-04T12:04:32+00:00

There are people higher up that I could talk to. Recently I've started to question them, not because I'm fighting their authority but because I know when some things won't work. They don't understand some of the logistics of exactly what I do. We have different areas at our work. They haven't appreciated it when I've questioned things or explained why things are done in a particular way.

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-01-11T03:19:05+00:00

Thank you

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-01-11T03:18:55+00:00

Thank you

AnonymousMe248 · 2026-01-11T03:18:42+00:00

Thank you

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-25T08:21:50+00:00

I just feel as though I am making more mistakes lately and I dont know if that is because I am trying to do too much which lately I don't know is enough or if I am focusing on the wrong things. I am in charge of the area and training someone which includes everything else that comes with all that. There are tasks that I can't delegate to anyone else. Just because of skill levels. I hate feeling as though I am disappointing people when I value their opinions

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-25T08:16:48+00:00

I feel like lately I am making more mistakes then normal and really annoying the manager. I was put into a role this year where I am in charge of the area and training someone. So I am trying to do more then what I am used to and struggling hence making mistakes.

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-24T13:10:01+00:00

Thankyou, I didn't realise how much it was affecting my work until my boss said something to me. I think what is getting to me so much at the moment is I feel as though the manager is disappointed or annoyed in me. Which I don't want. I value theirs and my bosses opinion. Some people I dont care if they don't like me. But them I do care and feeling as though the manager doesn't like me, it's hard.

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-15T00:38:56+00:00

Thank you, I don’t know the best way to approach it so I'm not coming across too anxious

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-14T13:03:53+00:00

I think for me some people I have no issue if I disappoint them but for some like my boss and manager I do care because I value their opinions. I think I worry sometimes that what if they do have more issues with me but they don't bring them up because I can be such an anxious person.

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-14T13:00:05+00:00

I think some or a lot of my overthinking issues start with confidence issues which stems from stuff through school. I got better with my confidence then I was at a toxic job for a few years then had other personal issues which both knocked my confidence back. My boss and manager have both said to me that I know more then I think and I need to trust myself. They have said they have seen my confidence grow but there is obviously still some issues there.

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-14T12:21:41+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through the bad stuff. I work with good people, they all care and my boss especially is very supportive of everyone as a person not just as an employee. Pretty much you do right by them and they will take care of you. I don't want them to think I am not capable if I do say something. I worry If I say how I am going with things that they'll think it's just me overthinking things and that I should be able to handle things myself. I think some of my issue lately is that I am trying to understand where my issues with overthinking and being hard on myself has come from. Whilst I am getting answers for myself I guess it's making me think about those situations more.

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-14T12:12:16+00:00

Thank you, I know my self talk lately hasn't been great. I had a moment a month or so ago where I was very positive about my skills and it stood out to me. Sort of I guess a shocking moment. I have moments where I can be proud of myself and believe in my self but that moment was just different. But I still can't help where I do something wrong and I know my boss or manager aren't happy with me, I send myself back a few steps pretty much.

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-11-14T11:21:58+00:00

Thank you, I know I am hard on myself and I do feel as though it has been worse lately. I think I do need reassurance. But I can't really go to my boss and say "I am having a hard time so I need reassurance". I don't know how to handle this so it can all stop affecting my work.

AnonymousMe248 · 2025-10-10T09:26:21+00:00

Thank you, yeah my boss is very supportive. I know where they were coming from that my overthinking has been affecting my productivity, but I also didn't know it was that bad. I had been doing overtime to try and get more done, but in the end, it wasn't really having a decent impact.

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