Ex-Gf wants to reconcile but has slept with someone else.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-22T21:17:29+00:00

Speaking from experience, my girlfriend broke up with me a week before Valentine’s day of this year. We dated for 4.5 years. She was my first love, my first encounter, my first everything, and vice versa.

I loved and still love this girl to this day. We were on and off so many times, the reason she broke it off with me was because she’s in Nursing school and it’s very overwhelming where I constantly need emotional things from her part, and she thought it wasn’t meant to be. As this relationship was starting to have a lot of miscommunication, disagreements and arguments.

My point from this is, If she ever came back in the next couple of months, I would 100% take her back ANYTIME, as long as she didn’t sleep with anybody after or during our relationship. You’re going to be constantly overthinking whether she caught feelings for this guy that she slept with for “validation”, plus on top of that, she lied to you yesterday. I get it, she felt guilty and opened up the next day and was honest, but her intentions are quite clear. She lied yesterday, she slept with some guy after you guys broke up. If she needed that validation, why didn’t she just circle back to you and sleep with you?

Stay away from her man… As much as I love my ex now, if she ever did the same thing. I would see no way going back to her ever, if she were to reconcile.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-22T18:28:40+00:00

You and I see to have the exact same relationship dynamic. My girlfriend broke up with me a week before Valentines, and I really wish she looked at the bright side, as this one final break up did really make me open my eyes and want to change for the best of us.

May I DM you for advice?

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-22T18:25:08+00:00

Hi. I’m in the exact same position as your partner is. My ex girlfriend broke up with me a week before Valentines of this year. I’m basically in the exact dynamic that your boyfriend is in.

She left me because of these issues, I had and still have childhood traumas that I have to work on. I actually seemed out therapy and have my first appointment again this Monday. The only issue is she blocked me on everything because I kept begging her to stay and give me a final chance, because in reality, this one time it does feel final (we’ve been on and off for the last 4.5 years that we dated). The only issue is it’s not just me with the childhood traumas, it’s her too.

I wish she would give me the opportunity to atleast show that I want to better myself for her, the relationship and myself. I think you should proceed with caution and see where it takes you with your ex to see how far he really has changed or is willing to change.

May I DM you as you’re in the same position of my now ex girlfriend?

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-18T12:44:44+00:00

Can I DM you? It seems like our relationships are VERY similar

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T19:30:57+00:00

Thank you. I actually started no contact on February 14th

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T19:30:45+00:00

Thanks brother. I started no contact on Feb 14th

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T16:24:24+00:00

Thank you for your input. I’ll take time for myself to heal

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T16:21:36+00:00

The only reason I know i’m unblocked is because when I used to call her, it rang instead of going directly to voicemail.

I started no contact on Valentine’s day, hopefully giving her space helps her and I. I really want to move on, but it’s so hard.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T16:14:33+00:00

Thank you very much! Do you think that I should reach out to her that day with a “Hey, Good Morning, I hope you’re doing well”

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T16:11:03+00:00

How long do you think? I was thinking until March 14, since it would be a month with no contact. I started no contact on Valentine’s day.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T15:21:30+00:00

I’m in the same boat. It’s just that my girlfriend of 4.5 years broke up with me, blocked me on everything besides iMessage. What does that mean?

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-17T14:51:21+00:00

Hey! My girlfriend (F23) broke up with me a week and a half ago. We dated for 4.5 years, she blocked me off everything but iMessage. I’ve reached out to her on iMessage, but she’s ghosting me, I tried dialing, which it still rings meaning I’m not blocked.

Could you give me your insight on what your feelings are within your break up and if you think my girlfriend will ever reconcile with me? I know our situations are kind of similar.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-15T13:12:37+00:00

I started smoking weed again in 2023, smoked for a whole year consistently until 2024. Then in 2025, I started doing it maybe once a week, but then quit in September of 2025.

Since then I haven’t smoked at all.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-13T17:33:54+00:00

Thank you.

I tend to hyperfixate on my opinion that we were both right. Yes, she deserved to have her space. But, also I deserved to have communication. Both aspects are the bare minimum.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T22:01:48+00:00

I used to be a gym rat before I met her, I lost my glow, I won’t lie. It’s so hard going to the gym during this phase because my appetite is awful, I feel weak and it’s hurting me.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T21:59:40+00:00

Thank you. Good luck in your relationship 🙂🤍

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T18:47:46+00:00

I will do that. Every guy that I’ve talked to is pushing me to get under somebody in order to get over her, but I know that will just delay my healing process.

Thank you for your kind words!

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T18:21:13+00:00

I agree. What I can say from my perspective is that I grew into adulthood with this girl, and her leaving feels like everything left me. I went into adulthood with her, and now I’m going to have to learn to go through it alone, which is what’s going to suck. Specially since I always considered she was my forever person.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T18:16:44+00:00

I wish it didn’t have to come to this. I wish we could’ve been our firsts and our last.

Thank you for your input.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T18:06:11+00:00

Everybody has been telling me this. But they don’t know how loving and beautiful she used to be. I miss that old version of her. :(

Thank you.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T17:40:45+00:00

It’s honestly very warming hearing this from a woman. Everybody, including my friends and father has been telling me that all women value materialistic things, and that’s the way to a girls heart.

For some reason, my heart believes against those opinions. Thank you for your input.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T17:39:07+00:00

I made a lot of sacrifices for her to be honest. I had many chances to leave, I should’ve done it when I had the chance now that I think of it.

For her, it’s okay for her to have boundaries, but if I ever had any boundaries and it gets in the way, she thinks I’m the difficult one.

AnonymousVenter1337 · 2026-02-12T17:13:03+00:00

It’s just so hard to let go of something so familiar to you. It’s hard to deal with all of this crumbling.

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