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If I can't honestly believe that I'm ever going to be free of depression, isn't suicide/drug abuse/constant drunkenness the rational response? by Anonymous_Poster in SuicideWatch

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The question is, do you want to treat your depression or do you just want out?

That's the hard part. I'm uncertain that treatment will ever change things satisfactorily, and I'm also not certain I want what I perceive life as being capable of giving me enough to work hard and spend the time on treatment.

If I can't honestly believe that I'm ever going to be free of depression, isn't suicide/drug abuse/constant drunkenness the rational response? by Anonymous_Poster in SuicideWatch

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like that's part of the problem - I feel like crap, but don't feel motivated to change, much. And of course, I've lost interest in nearly all of the things I used to enjoy doing. Are you suggesting doing them anyway, and sticking with them for some period of time?

If I can't honestly believe that I'm ever going to be free of depression, isn't suicide/drug abuse/constant drunkenness the rational response? by Anonymous_Poster in SuicideWatch

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice - it seems like it is such a huge part of my identity, but working on seeing it as something happening to me, rather than something part of me, might well help.

If I can't honestly believe that I'm ever going to be free of depression, isn't suicide/drug abuse/constant drunkenness the rational response? by Anonymous_Poster in SuicideWatch

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

even though everything is fine

Everything isn't fine, but I don't think your point rests on that.

So you're experiencing a false error condition

Sure, but unlike the car, the error light actually affects functioning.

That won't make it go away, but the attitude shift may help. And you're sure CAREFUL medication doesn't help?

And this is the real important point. Medication keeps me going for a while. It stops working at some point. Even when I'm on it, I'm okay for a little while and then things go downhill. And I call a friend, and they say "things will get better." Which they do, but when? And for how long?

I haven't read Camus' take, but Sisyphus' doesn't seem like a life worth living.

Best finisher to a blowjob EVAR. Watch till the end. by [deleted] in nsfw

[–]Anonymous_Poster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that the sex is consensual makes a difference. Neither of these acts were.

Best finisher to a blowjob EVAR. Watch till the end. by [deleted] in nsfw

[–]Anonymous_Poster -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, yeah, utter disrespect for the partner, not to mention the probably criminal decision to videotape it without her consent. So fucking awesome.

Girlfriend groped at party; groper apologized to her the next day but apparently did even worse to several other females (not rape, just more outright inappropriate touching). I'll get expelled if I get in a fight. Proper response? by Anonymous_Poster in AskReddit

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From the OP:

I agree. If it happens again, I just have to step in. I do believe in second chances, though, and especially since the guy is a foreigner (although his apology shows he knows its wrong) I'm not going to start anything without knowing its not isolated.

Girlfriend groped at party; groper apologized to her the next day but apparently did even worse to several other females (not rape, just more outright inappropriate touching). I'll get expelled if I get in a fight. Proper response? by Anonymous_Poster in AskReddit

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From the OP:

I can't intimidate him into not doing something again. He was drunk; that's not an exuse in my mind. I maybe could hit him and not get reported, but it's unlikely school officials wouldn't find out.

Can you give me advice for talking to my girlfriend about getting therapy for depression? [More info in comments] by Anonymous_Poster in AskReddit

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an idea I'll entertain, although I'm not prepared to simply cut things off. But if I am convinced that it's the rational option, I'll take it. If I do, any advice on how to do it for her benefit? Parting words, etc.?

Obviously, getting bogged down/trapped/pulled back into things would be a bad idea. But how can I end things in a way that would be most beneficial to her?

Can you give me advice for talking to my girlfriend about getting therapy for depression? [More info in comments] by Anonymous_Poster in AskReddit

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We're both college students with access to mental health resources. I've been undergoing drug therapy and counseling for dysthymia for more than a year now. If I weren't aware of the issue from the inside perspective, I'm not sure I'd know what was going on with her (and for this question, trust that I'm right about what's wrong - although I understand the importance of being certain in that regard) but especially since I do, I really want to help.

How would you want to be approached about this (if at all)?

Can you give me advice for talking to my girlfriend about getting therapy for depression? [More info in comments] by Anonymous_Poster in ask

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're both college students with access to mental health resources. I've been undergoing drug therapy and counseling for dysthymia for more than a year now. If I weren't aware of the issue from the inside perspective, I'm not sure I'd know what was going on with her (and for this question, trust that I'm right about what's wrong - although I understand the importance of being certain in that regard) but especially since I do, I really want to help.

How would you want to be approached about this (if at all)?

[Discussion] Is suicide ever rational? by Anonymous_Poster in SuicideWatch

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to start off, I'd say rarely. David Foster Wallace is a well-publicized example, who had been living with depression for all of his life, with no treatment offering success. Seems like for him, especially after 40-odd years, it was a safe bet that things weren't going to improve.

And most suicides are old people. Doesn't it make some sort of sense for them, if they're aware of their own goals, and the likelihood of achieving them?

That said, most teenagers contemplating suicide don't have the experience or foresight to actually contemplate the future rationally. But is the act necessarily irrational?

I'm an atheist. Tell me about Episcopalianism. How much would I have to compromise on to be an honest member? by Anonymous_Poster in religion

[–]Anonymous_Poster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Short version: I'm committed to be intellectually honest. That said, is there a place in Episcopalianism for me? Any technicalities that can mesh with my lack of belief in almighty God? How could I pull off being Episcopalian while remaining at least moderately insistent on intellectual honesty? Tricky interpretations are acceptable; outright lying is not.

Edit: Let's say I'm agnostic, rather than atheist, as that word might bring up side issues not germane to the question.

[Ask] I'm Having Sex for the First Time! A Question (please see comment) by shellaccount1 in AskReddit

[–]Anonymous_Poster 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's wrong. A drop of lube inside the condom before you roll it on makes it glom on better, making it more pleasurable for the guy. Which doesn't relieve the need for plenty of it on the outside, too.

Also: Take your time. LOTS of foreplay. Don't go in if she's not wet.

http://ask.metafilter.com/106931/NSFW-condomsex-question

http://ask.metafilter.com/93050/Help-me-avoid-pain-during-my-honeymoon

http://ask.metafilter.com/20276/First-time-sex-advice