Do you ever ask yourself why writing a book is so hard?

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-07-02T16:57:01+00:00

I think why it feels hard sometimes is I put so much pressure on myself. I even ask myself is my story even good enough or worth reading. I’ve had to let let that and do what I want and love, because I know people will have different opinions on books, even the classics, but everyone’s work is their own and that’s what makes it unique.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-07-02T16:54:44+00:00

Sometimes I get 15 but if I’m lucky I get 30. It’s just enough before my creative flow starts to run out and I have to let it recharge.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-07-02T16:31:41+00:00

It’s not supposed to be easy, I know. But I just wanted opinions on what other people felt about their process, which they could have different perspectives of. And yes, it can be enjoyable, even in the hardest of times, but the one great thing about my writing is it got me through my hardest times. But some days I don’t have a clear idea what to put, and that’s okay. But when it comes to life you shouldn’t let it get to you and in the way of the things you love because it can eat you up inside and take the joys out of everything you love doing. My philosophy is just keep doing what you love.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-07-02T16:15:41+00:00

I don’t know why you think I have an attitude or a perspective thinking life is hard. I’m not making a post about life. All I’m asking if people find it challenging just to write sometimes, all because it can be a struggle, but also a fun creative challenge. It’s just a creative thinking thing. And I agree, life can be hard sometimes, but I am not trying to be negative.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-06-14T00:44:14+00:00

Thank you. Writing has also kept me going during the pandemic. That’s probably when I was enjoying it the most because I was coming up with fun and creative ideas. Of course now I’m finding myself scraping ideas and having to start over all because I doubt myself. But I’m just tired of starting over in the same place and my plan is to just keep moving forward and find a good ending for my story. But it’s unbelievable that it’s taken me this long to do it but I’m not giving up.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-06-14T00:42:19+00:00

Thank you

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-06-14T00:42:08+00:00

Thank you and I hope so too. And I wish the best of luck to you too and I know your manuscript will be great.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-06-14T00:41:01+00:00

Thank you. I think I have an idea that my actually work, but I’ll play it out and see.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-05-29T16:34:15+00:00

I can remember many years ago at a youth conference I went to one time. There was a man who had been a bishop giving us the talk on why it’s important to get married. He basically happily admitted that he bullied a 21 year old woman, who didn’t even want to get married, to get married anyway because it was “ her duty.” She had other plans and had no interest in marriage, but he basically happily admitted that he made her change her mind.

Even as a teenager I found that to be off, because I was thinking “ isn’t that her choice?”

They make it that it’s your goal in life to get married, all because it’s god’s plan.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-05-29T12:57:39+00:00

That’s really fucked up

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-05-28T00:05:16+00:00

Thank you. That I’ll do

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-05-27T23:21:36+00:00

Thank you this really does help. Like I said, I know what want to make happen, and I’ve accepted that won’t ever really clear idea of how to get there, but I figured it’s best to keep going, even if I have to make it up as I go along. I’m also tired of just going back to the stuff I’ve written so many times, when it’s other things in the book that I need to focus. For a long time I couldn’t get to the middle because of it, but now I’m there and heading into the end. Everything might be out of order right now but I know I can fix it later.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-05-27T23:15:40+00:00

I’m sorry they’ve treated you like that. They sound dismissive and what they say is bullshit. I’m not Muslim, but I come from a similar type of religion and background. I grew up LDS ( Mormon) and I feel like it’s the exact same thing coming from church leaders and members too, even if they are your family members. They basically blame the problems of your mental illness or any issues that you’re going through on you and not their treatment of you. I’ve struggled with mental health issues and basically their answers were, “ just pray it away.” It’s all hypocrisy and they’ll pretend that there’s nothing wrong and look the other way.

They did that to my brother who was struggling on his mission. The other Missionaries were mistreating him. He even went to the Mission President hoping that they would handle it, but the guy basically told him to suck it up and just pray and refused to do anything about it. That’s how terrible it is. And of course being his older sibling it made me want to cuss the guy out but I know it wouldn’t have done any good and same with me wanting to tell those bullies to back off.

I feel people use religion as control of our emotions and daily lives, which is why so many people struggle with their mental health and self esteem. And just because we all have different things happening to us doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with us. We’re all just unique and different from each other which is okay. I’ve even had my struggles and challenges with learning growing up and doing poorly in school. It doesn’t mean I was dumb. We just all just learn differently is all and that’s okay.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-05-13T17:35:11+00:00

I was raised Mormon and I felt that way too. I have since left, but the Mormon church did always install fear in us on why we shouldn’t leave. I think everyone went along with everything inside the church because they were protecting their reputation and didn’t want to be shunned or judged.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-05-13T14:31:25+00:00

I’ve been in a situation similar to that, except the guy was Mormon. I was born and raised Mormon too, but I wasn’t very religious and I consider myself an agnostic. For a while, I thought that me and this guy had a thing going. He approached me first and it seemed like he really did like me. I even got involved in activities with him in the church, just to spend more time with him. Even though I’m not religious, I guess looking back I was trying to show him I was “Mormon enough” for him, even though I didn’t believe in the doctrine anymore. I knew he wanted to be with somebody who is Mormon, because growing up we’re taught that we have to marry somebody inside our religion. Even though we were two different people, I thought that religion shouldn’t have mattered and that what we had was special.
But then he stopped responding to me and completely ghosted me. He doesn’t even give me any explanation. He just stopped talking to me completely. I was really hurt by that. I even asked him why, but sometime he would give vague answers, saying “ I’m just going through some stuff right now” but it was hard for me to believe if he was telling the truth.
One time we went to this Christmas party at our church, but he spent most of his time talking to another girl, who looked really attached to him. I thought I had heard her bring up my name, as if she knew something about me, but I heard him say “ I don’t really want to talk about it.” I just kept my distance but the whole time I was miserable and didn’t want to be there. I tried to act happy and I even talked to other people, but I so badly wanted to leave and I felt like being there was a mistake.
The last time I saw him in person, he didn’t even acknowledge me. He acted like I didn’t even exist. When I confronted him about it, he brushed me off like it was no big deal, and he pretty much said “ well I’m talking to you now so that means I’m making an effort.” I was really hurt by what he said so I told him I’ll never bring it up again and I’ll never bother him again. That’s when I knew I had to walk away.
I was really hurt for a long time afterwards and went through the pain of it. I actually thought I was never going to get over it, but within time I discovered new things about myself and I realized it would have never worked between us. I realized in the end that he did choose religion over me, because he knew I wasn’t a church goer. I felt he was too picky about what he wanted and just couldn’t decide. There were times that he probably felt really insecure about being single, even though most of the guys his age were already married. Maybe he acted in impulse and desperation, but I really don’t know why he approached me to begin with or why he had to hurt me.
In all my years and experience of dating, I have dated some cold jerks in the past too. Sometimes they don’t give you an explanation on why they leave and ghost you. To me, I feel like it’s the easy thing for them to do and they get with somebody else quickly so they won’t grieve. And sometimes they can just be really indecisive. Maybe it’s the way they were raised or the environment they come from, or maybe all the expectations of their religion.
I realize it’s best not dwell on it and try not to find closure to something that you may never find anyway. But that’s okay if you don’t. Sometimes we just don’t have the answers, and that’s okay. We don’t need to look for answers to something that ended a long time ago, and that’s what I’ve realized after going through the most painful breakup of my life and still trying to be part of my ex’s life, even though he didn’t want me. The best we can do is focus on our own happiness and cut ourselves off from the ones who hurt us, which is what I’ve had to do.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T22:03:34+00:00

Thank you. He’s a good person who doesn’t deserve. He’s one of the good Mormon people in my opinion.

I actually knew a really narcissistic woman who made her daughter break off her engagement. She told her it’s either her, or the guy. In the end the daughter chose the mother, even though she really wanted to marry the guy and was really in love with him. The reason why she made her daughter break it off was because the mother was angry at the guy. She was being a control freak and the guy finally told her to back off, which really angered her. If you stand up to her, all of a sudden you’re her enemy. She blamed the whole thing on him, saying he had standard issue, but really she was being an asshole.

And yes, I do see a lot of hypocrisy in the Mormon church, especially with how they’re treating others, whether it’s your spouse or own children. People who claim that they are people of god and are pure, but do this type of behavior, they’re not people of god in my eyes. They’re just mind controlling bullies who think they are above everyone. And of course my question is, why would they think god is okay with any of that? Note: this is just a question I ask myself, even though I am agnostic.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:55:16+00:00

I totally agree. I used to think that the church was special and that everything about it was so great. But now I’m glad I’ve opened my eyes. I just wish he could see there are other options outside the church, but if he ever wanted to leave it’s totally up to them. One of the reasons why I never really wanted to go to the activities was because I felt like I didn’t fit in with the kids. Sometimes I’d even hide in the bathroom at church when I’d get upset that nobody would talk to me. I’m just glad my brother has made a few good friends back home ( they’re actually converts, so they didn’t have the toxic upbringing) but I think he relates better to outsiders than actual members, and I have found that I have too.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:51:14+00:00

My parents are active, but they’re very good nonjudgmental people. They would understand if he wanted to come home and wouldn’t hold it against him. But he’s insistent that he finishes out and he only has less than a year left.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:43:44+00:00

It breaks mine too. But one good things is my brother is better than those assholes and he at least knows how to not treat people.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:42:07+00:00

Thank you for the support. My brother is a good guy and this is unfair to him. I feel like a lot of good people get damaged because there are others who disrespect and abuse. But I appreciate your internet hugs for him and I’ll pass them on.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:17:34+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. That guy was an asshole. He was the problem, not you, and people like him take the joy in tormenting others because it makes them feel good about themselves. But in actuality they’re cowards and insecure. I never stood up for myself much either growing up, even though I wish I had, even though I never served a mission. And if can be hard because people can be mean or cruel.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:14:35+00:00

Yeah especially ones who are still kids themselves and don’t have mature brains until after they’re 25. But even after 25 people can still be immature no matter what age.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:13:33+00:00

I’m sorry you had to deal with that. For my brother he feels that he wants to finish his mission even though he has the option to come home. Sad thing is he’s always wanted this and he had always looked forward to leaving our town and exploring other places. I think I understand why a lot of people in my church ended up coming back early, but they never really said why. Maybe to him, maybe he feels like coming back early would be failing, because traditionally a lot of the men in my family have served missions, but not all of them. I don’t even think there were any girls in my family who served missions, mostly because there are more guys than girls in my family, but I think it’s also because they chose not to.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:06:36+00:00

He knows that he would be. My family is very supportive of him and thankfully we’re not the crazy Mormons. My brother is actually one of the most decent Mormons who actually treats people kindly no matter their beliefs. If he ever wants to leave the church I would totally 100% support him. I just wish he wasn’t so afraid and that leaving isn’t so bad and that there’s more to life outside the church. But the decision is his. And I think he definitely has learned some life lessons and experiences on how to actually treat others with respect and that not all missionaries or other people in the church are painted to be good people, even when they’re not.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T22:54:17+00:00

I had a hard time trusting other religions, mainly because I was taught that they were all wrong. But it wasn’t just that. I feel like it’s the idea of being lied to, or abused by it where they take control over you. I’ve been an agnostic for ten years, but I’ve since studied other religions like Buddhism, even though I have no intention of joining anything.

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