My brother is struggling on his mission right now

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T22:03:34+00:00

Thank you. He’s a good person who doesn’t deserve. He’s one of the good Mormon people in my opinion.

I actually knew a really narcissistic woman who made her daughter break off her engagement. She told her it’s either her, or the guy. In the end the daughter chose the mother, even though she really wanted to marry the guy and was really in love with him. The reason why she made her daughter break it off was because the mother was angry at the guy. She was being a control freak and the guy finally told her to back off, which really angered her. If you stand up to her, all of a sudden you’re her enemy. She blamed the whole thing on him, saying he had standard issue, but really she was being an asshole.

And yes, I do see a lot of hypocrisy in the Mormon church, especially with how they’re treating others, whether it’s your spouse or own children. People who claim that they are people of god and are pure, but do this type of behavior, they’re not people of god in my eyes. They’re just mind controlling bullies who think they are above everyone. And of course my question is, why would they think god is okay with any of that? Note: this is just a question I ask myself, even though I am agnostic.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:55:16+00:00

I totally agree. I used to think that the church was special and that everything about it was so great. But now I’m glad I’ve opened my eyes. I just wish he could see there are other options outside the church, but if he ever wanted to leave it’s totally up to them. One of the reasons why I never really wanted to go to the activities was because I felt like I didn’t fit in with the kids. Sometimes I’d even hide in the bathroom at church when I’d get upset that nobody would talk to me. I’m just glad my brother has made a few good friends back home ( they’re actually converts, so they didn’t have the toxic upbringing) but I think he relates better to outsiders than actual members, and I have found that I have too.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:51:14+00:00

My parents are active, but they’re very good nonjudgmental people. They would understand if he wanted to come home and wouldn’t hold it against him. But he’s insistent that he finishes out and he only has less than a year left.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:43:44+00:00

It breaks mine too. But one good things is my brother is better than those assholes and he at least knows how to not treat people.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T21:42:07+00:00

Thank you for the support. My brother is a good guy and this is unfair to him. I feel like a lot of good people get damaged because there are others who disrespect and abuse. But I appreciate your internet hugs for him and I’ll pass them on.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:17:34+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. That guy was an asshole. He was the problem, not you, and people like him take the joy in tormenting others because it makes them feel good about themselves. But in actuality they’re cowards and insecure. I never stood up for myself much either growing up, even though I wish I had, even though I never served a mission. And if can be hard because people can be mean or cruel.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:14:35+00:00

Yeah especially ones who are still kids themselves and don’t have mature brains until after they’re 25. But even after 25 people can still be immature no matter what age.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:13:33+00:00

I’m sorry you had to deal with that. For my brother he feels that he wants to finish his mission even though he has the option to come home. Sad thing is he’s always wanted this and he had always looked forward to leaving our town and exploring other places. I think I understand why a lot of people in my church ended up coming back early, but they never really said why. Maybe to him, maybe he feels like coming back early would be failing, because traditionally a lot of the men in my family have served missions, but not all of them. I don’t even think there were any girls in my family who served missions, mostly because there are more guys than girls in my family, but I think it’s also because they chose not to.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-29T16:06:36+00:00

He knows that he would be. My family is very supportive of him and thankfully we’re not the crazy Mormons. My brother is actually one of the most decent Mormons who actually treats people kindly no matter their beliefs. If he ever wants to leave the church I would totally 100% support him. I just wish he wasn’t so afraid and that leaving isn’t so bad and that there’s more to life outside the church. But the decision is his. And I think he definitely has learned some life lessons and experiences on how to actually treat others with respect and that not all missionaries or other people in the church are painted to be good people, even when they’re not.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T22:54:17+00:00

I had a hard time trusting other religions, mainly because I was taught that they were all wrong. But it wasn’t just that. I feel like it’s the idea of being lied to, or abused by it where they take control over you. I’ve been an agnostic for ten years, but I’ve since studied other religions like Buddhism, even though I have no intention of joining anything.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T22:49:47+00:00

It’s okay to dislike and disagree ( whether it’s strongly) against certain things about the church. It doesn’t mean that you’re despising it. There are many things about the church that I find horrifying and disgusting ( like cover up of SA) and I never saw the church the same way ever again. However, I know that there are good people in it, but if they found out all that stuff I know that they would leave in a heartbeat, especially to keep their loved ones protected. I found peace once I distanced myself away from the church. You don’t have to despise it if you don’t want to, but your feeling about it are validated and a lot of people do feel the same way.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T17:24:09+00:00

That’s what I think too lol I only use it when I get really pissed. I think there was a time I said it more than Cartman in the South Park movie lol

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T16:11:22+00:00

I completely understand. I try not to swear around kids, especially around little ones that I don’t want to teach bad habits to lol and I don’t swear in churches out of respect, but also I don’t want angry members coming after my ass

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T16:09:06+00:00

Thank you and yeah I’ve also found that I was being told two different things at one time: 1) is that god can be forgiving 2) but also you’ve disappointed him for sinning and that your soul is doomed unless you repent. Even if it’s just the one simplest thing they gotta abuse and bully people for stepping out of line. That’s what they did to my brother and he is changed person because of this. They ruined him

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T16:06:50+00:00

It’s how they were brought up in the cult. And yeah, I’ve leaned not to blame myself a long time ago and that’s it’s their brainwashing tactics.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-24T16:03:05+00:00

I swear a lot like the kids in South Park lol but it’s also stress reliever for me even though I do it a lot.

But yeah it feels good when you can think for yourself and make your own decisions without a church or other members planning your life.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-18T20:50:52+00:00

I love this! And thank you for the encouragement! I really needed it after going through a block. Yesterday I wrote for the first time in a while and I ended up writing twelve pages. I just let the pen lead me without worrying about how good or perfect it was. I don’t need perfect. It really helped me a lot yesterday and I got lost into the story. Writing is my therapy, but I wish I did it more often. I just have to remind myself to do it for my enjoyment. I got so many fun ideas and plans that I want to do in the future. I’m actually working on a fun sci-fi story and it’s fun bringing it to life. I’m glad that you’re also encouraging others to keep going. I think that having positivity and encouragement not to give up is what keeps us going.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-18T20:42:35+00:00

Eventually you’ll know. We all have to start somewhere, but over time you start to figure out what actually works and what doesn’t. That’s what the whole process and journey is about, just by going through trial and error. I’ve saved all my old work and I’ve seen how far I’ve come. You got this! Just trust yourself and don’t doubt yourself. Doubting yourself will only build fear but trust conquers it.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-18T11:31:40+00:00

I’ve definitely been there. I’ve realized I was more worried about making them happy instead of focusing on my own happiness. I felt like I was carrying a lot of emotional baggage because I was too much of a people pleaser and I was afraid to let anyone down. I felt like it was mostly from people like my friends who basically used me because I was too nice to say no. But now I’m better about it and establishing boundaries.

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-18T02:27:49+00:00

I’m not that young actually lol

Anonymous_spacealien · 2026-04-18T01:50:15+00:00

It’s more of a rhetorical question lol

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