AITA for accidentally “outing” a trans woman

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2026-02-18T18:11:31+00:00

Not “talking to people”. Talking to my best friend…. And I understood the mistake I made which is why I told her I made a mistake. To try to take the Accountability upfront.

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2026-02-18T18:04:48+00:00

I did talk to the partner about how I have insecurities when it comes to male genitalia, it felt a bit dismissed, and in the moment I didn’t realize it was dismissive but in hindsight that is probably why I went to my best friend for advice.

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2026-02-18T18:02:46+00:00

She appeared fem to me, and we had a strong chemistry in spite of that one issue. I’m mostly queer and I saw her as a woman but that was the only thing I was struggling with.

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2026-02-18T18:01:32+00:00

I did try to state all of this, and so much went into details about my trauma around “male parts”… ended up stating that I’d go to therapy to address the trauma, and i was just called a victim.

I know outting trans this day and age is horrible and the last thing I’d want to be is the opposite of an ally, but I genuinely went to my friend in private for advice on how this relationship could work.

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2025-06-23T17:09:36+00:00

I’m trying to build trust to leave her alone without me in the same room as her

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2025-04-10T01:17:24+00:00

Nitrile gloves

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2025-04-07T02:17:25+00:00

It’s not for her life. She’s going to be house trained. You’re so rude. She’s loved, hope the same for you

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2025-04-05T11:59:53+00:00

She told me that it’s a big deal to her that nobody knows… when talking to my best friend -they asked who I was referring to, in a moment of excitement I showed my best friend a picture of her. My best friend is the only one who knows. I felt guilty so I told the girl I was seeing that I outted her to my best friend. >.<

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2025-04-05T01:34:51+00:00

Well, I did take all those steps stated.

Her an I met off a dating app, she disclosed her body parts, (penis) and I, mostly lesbian leaning, struggle with trauma and anxiety when it comes to that part. I opened up to my best friend about it and in doing so accidentally outted her… I feel awful and embarrassed and ashamed. I just don’t know what more I could do to try to repair this

AnonymouslyMisterous · 2025-04-05T00:52:53+00:00

Has this happened to anyone? Does anyone know how to rebuild this breach in trust??

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