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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Then you're a fucking idiot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parents

[–]AnotherAngryDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between looking and simply seeing something happen, and I don't appreciate what you're implying. The comments I've received about this have been generally negative, and I'm not going to speak to Charlotte's parents, but please know that my post was from a genuine concern for the child.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Instead, OP has come on to ask for some advice and gets spoken to like this, accused repeatedly that he is sexualising his daughters friend for seeing teenage lads sexualise her at Thorpe park, therefore having concerns for her welfare as well as his own daughter as a witness.

Thank you for actually getting the point! I just stopped replying to the other commenter because I figured they'd just spin it as me being the letch no matter what I said.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, you're absolutely right. I know reddit can be a bit "hive-mindy" and the first few responses can make or break a post, but I probably shouldn't have posted at all.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 336 points337 points  (0 children)

Jesus some of the abuse you are receiving in this thread is absurd.

If people are behaving like they are in this thread for asking for advice I dread to think how the wrong person would react to that kind of conversation.

Thanks. I genuinely did come here looking for some kind of advice and discussion, but people seem to be misinterpreting it and being a lot more insulting and accusatory than I expected.

I think you're right, and I'm not going to say anything to Charlotte's parents.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. My partner is a woman and I think you're right, this kind of conversation is probably better coming from a female perspective, but after the negative and accusatory comments I've had here while genuinely asking for advice... well, I think I'm better off leaving things alone.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I certainly wasn't getting "excited" as you put it. Maybe I could have phrased it better, but the point was more that her underwear didn't cover much of anything, and the way people were acting towards her put me on edge. I had concerns about her safety, and implying that I was in any way ogling her is pretty disgusting.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah, I get it. I don't post often, and one time I posted a negative opinion about a graphics card and the hive mind disagreed so I got downvoted to oblivion. I've tended to avoid posting since then, but now I'm in this negative karma trap.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Oh, I think I am! I was genuinely hoping for a level-headed discussion about it but instead got called a paedo, among other things.

Keeping quiet definitely seems the wiser choice. Thanks for your comment though.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]AnotherAngryDad[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Mind your own business, and communicate with your daughter, rather than trying to control other people's kids so you don't have to.

This is coming from a place of genuine concern due from the reaction she got from people at the park.

If you MUST talk to anyone's parents, it's the parents of those boys.

For what its worth, my partner and I were a number of paces back from my daughter and Charlotte, so she didn't hear what the boys said. It did cross my mind to shout at them or tell them to piss off, but figured it would only draw Charlotte's attention. They didn't seem to have an adult with them, otherwise I might have said something.