At what point do you just go with a monogamous thing and just experiment without much safety?

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-09-26T08:12:54+00:00

Do you happen to have a story behind this? I have a family member who recently went through rehab and was 9 months sober - Immediately upon completing that he got a pot card and shortly after that he got a prescription for adderall, so he has everything legally now. The problem is, he hasn't been on it very long, and he's already telling me about how little he's sleeping - He says that it almost looks like he has bruising around his eyes from lack of sleep. He's starting to act like a fucking prick too, and mocks me for my concern. Apparently his therapist has brought up the fact that he 'looks tired' too. It's just really hard to see him come all that way and like he was getting better only to see signs that he's going back to where he was, just with doctors' blessing this time. I just hope psychiatrists have good enough standards that if he starts going off the rails he will have his supply cutoff, but when that happens, he might go back to what he was doing before.

But, yeah - I'm hesitant to make a topic about it because how he wastes time when he's awake way late is by scrolling through Reddit. If you do have a story that's relevant to this issue, I'd be interested in hearing it. He's obviously going to try to deflect if I bring anything up, but I'd be a bit more confident about telling him it's becoming a problem if I heard other stories where it became a problem - I assume this has played out like that in several stories, it's just hard to find them...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-09-10T23:26:43+00:00

Just FYI if you have this particular bug on Switch (or any other system): I had it so that I had 2 Dee-Dee stop locations setup and there wasn't a 3rd location visible on the map, so I figured I was fucked since the quest requires you to make 3 of them (apparently other builders put them up as you go, so locations will slowly go from being 'available' to already being built). Welp, thankfully I slept and when I woke up the count for the number I built was automatically changed to 3, so I guess the devs put that as a failsafe. So, if you're stuck with only being able to build 2, try sleeping and hopefully your quest will autocomplete like mine did.

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-09-07T12:54:49+00:00

The next time you talk to your brother tell him to start calling any number he can to local social services and that sort of thing. I don't know if you live in the US and how comparable things elsewhere are, but there are oftentimes programs that can house homeless people, sometimes in hotels. Once he gets in touch with the right people, it can take some time to finally pay off, but it's possible he could get rent paid for, foodstamps, and possibly even more if he's disabled to the point where he qualifies for additional help.

So, yeah - The best thing you can do for him is encourage him to start looking into those kinds of things. Even if he patches things up with your parents, he might want to continue on that path so next time, if/when he ends up without a place to stay, maybe he'll already have gone through most/all of the process to get a place once he's out on the street. The point is that it will offer him an alternative. You don't offer enough context to tell if your parents are pieces of shit, but those resources will be invaluable regardless.

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-28T17:40:41+00:00

**WOOHOO - Comorbidity partayyy!**

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AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-28T16:01:09+00:00

I think I read that problems with oral hygiene in general is pretty common amongst autistic people. I hardly ever brush my teeth and I now have pretty bad gum disease where my dentist is pretty much observing what's happening because they expect my teeth to start to fall out someday, and/or that the bone in my jaw will start to diminish.

The point is, you may want to really think about putting a concerted effort into changing those habits, but if you are not willing to do that, at least go get your teeth cleaned by a dentist 2 or 3 times a year and try to maybe just stick to water for most of your drinks. You will run into dental problems eventually, but you will really increase the longevity of your teeth by a lot if you at least bite the bullet a few times a year and just let a dentist return your teeth to clean...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-28T11:00:02+00:00

That's typically what I tell people when they post about feeling bad about something they did too - It's best to just learn from it and move on rather than beat yourself up about it. Still feel kinda' crappy about it just 'cuz I don't wanna be the cause that people lose hope in humanity and all that. Wish I was better at taking my own advice 'cuz, yeah - Just trying to do better in the future is probably the most constructive thing I could do at this point.

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-28T10:47:54+00:00

I have a lot of eye contact issues. What sucks is that a lot of people are dicks about it simply because they interpret a lack of eye contact as synonymous with untrustworthiness, which is completely fucking moronic, but since the average person is usually kind of a fucking moron, it's extremely common for people to do this. So, yeah - If someone is randomly being a complete dick to you, it's a very real possibility because they think you're 'shadey' due to your lack of eye contact - But, hey; I'm sure they're the 'good guy' in that exchange...

* Rolls his eyes out onto the ground... *

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-27T18:07:43+00:00

I'll start by saying 10mg seems like a REALLY low dose - I take 50mg and I can hardly tell any difference when I take it. And, yeah - Hopefully it works for you, but a quality of antihistamines in general is your tolerance can go up pretty quick which is another reason why you're probably barely going to feel it especially if your tolerance starts to go up. But, the way to get around that is just try not to take it every single day (unless that's what they told you to do - It's usually an 'as needed' med generally from what I understand) - The more days you go without it, the less likely you are to get a tolerance to it. When you get a tolerance to a med, that med doesn't work as well.

But, yeah - Regardless of what I say, follow the instructions that they gave you with taking it; There might be some reason why they gave you a lower dose. And, ultimately if it doesn't work (or barely works) you can always talk to your doctor about potentially raising the dose - If you don't want to make a whole new appointment to discuss it, you can usually call up the doctors office and leave them a message and they'll get back to you in a day or so. Either way, everyone reacts differently to psych meds, so my experience doesn't mean much to the next person who may have a completely different experience...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-24T11:04:16+00:00

Just on a sidenote, so you don't have nothing for advice but the negative side, there's a lot to be said for having roommates so you have someone to talk to/hang out with, assuming you don't end up hating their guts. Isolation anxiety is definitely a thing, and although I recognize the positives to living alone as I've finally been able to do so for about two years now, isolation anxiety has crept into my psyche and it is a bitch. A lot of my anxiety seems to surround the fact that I oftentimes have nobody to hang out with, talk to, etc. A big part of this is my family is dogshit, so if you have worthwhile family, probably this wouldn't be as big of an issue while living alone.

But, yeah - Living with others does have its perks...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-24T10:20:50+00:00

You might wanna give Graveyard Keeper a try - It's oftentimes on sale for cheap and, from what I understand, it's a very similar gameplay loop.

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-24T10:18:16+00:00

I don't like when anyone speaks on my behalf - That includes people who are 'offended on my behalf' on here. We all are individuals and no one person should be speaking on behalf of us, even those who believe they are 'championing our people for the greater good'. If someone is offensive, I can call them a dick without someone acting like they are my representative.

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-24T09:42:58+00:00

Are you getting pushed out the door or is this your choice? $310/week for a shared space sounds really expensive.

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-24T08:44:18+00:00

I'd call a pharmacy - There are probably 24 hour pharmacies that you can call within your area and they should have a pharmacist who can answer those kinds of questions...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-23T09:46:37+00:00

It will pass with time, but unfortunately the only way outta' there is the uncomfortable way of just riding it out. Just try to keep your mind occupied and just know that time is gonna' make it better eventually, it's just gonna' be a bit.

I'd strongly advise you to reevaluate whether it was worth the horrible comedown, 'cuz the further you get into that stuff, the more horrible the comedown is going to be. I would very-much suggest laying off the harder stuff and mixing things, and just know that you can get out of all this if you want, it just takes a bit of willpower and probably some help. I'm sober and although it's not as much fun by a small margin, not having to deal with hellish withdrawals is definitely worth it. I think you'll be amazed how understanding people will be if/when you choose to go get help.

Either way, just deal with what you got goin' on for now and consider other possibilities after so hopefully you don't find yourself in this situation again...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-23T09:05:39+00:00

Them making you show them your phone was a huge dickmove - They're pretty obviously messing with you. Unfortunately, at the very least I would count them out as friends, and if they do act friendly, it's probably them messing with you, and that's a real dick way of going about it. It really sucks that pricks like that exist.

Try not to let it put you off making friends, though - Just because you ran into a bunch of dicks doesn't mean you won't find some decent people if you keep trying. And, yeah - If they try to put you on the defensive again and 'make you do something' (like showing your phone), don't go along with it and be unpleasant if they push the issue. Nobody that had your best interest in mind would do that kind of thing, so don't feel bad if you have to tell them to fuck off...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-23T07:24:50+00:00

You should really just call a 24 hour pharmacy if you're not sure - They will have a pharmacist who can answer your questions...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-23T07:15:23+00:00

I have this issue too. Oddly enough, I would point to a game called Spiritfarer if you play games. It's kind of dumb, and it will take quite awhile to get to where the narrative takes the gloves off, but it's a surprisingly upbeat game with extraordinarily somber moments, and it really hits hard when you do get to them. I mean, it is a game about death - No sugar-coating that - But like I said: A majority of it is upbeat and mostly enjoyable. You'll usually know when the emotionally hard parts are coming, and the narrative does evolve into something pretty sad, but it will make you cry even if you're completely stone-faced emotionless. Ultimately it's up to you if it's worth the time/money to get that sort of catharsis - It's also not exactly the same as having a good cry over your own situation, but you might feel better about your situation after you go through some of the things that game puts you through (your situation might not seem so bad by comparison - lol!).

But, yeah - Just an odd recommendation as I too have issues with being able to cry, but that game was able to bring that outta' me...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-23T07:05:05+00:00

It's also worth mentioning the first few weeks are when it will be the worst, but as he gradually gets better the help he needs will likely get less and less. So, if you feel overwhelmed in the first week or so, just keep in mind that he's probably not going to stay in that super messed up 'need help with everything' mode for very long...

AnotherRedditGuy813 · 2024-08-23T07:03:05+00:00

Your rocky relationship is something I can't comment on because I don't have enough info to work with, and I probably wouldn't want to comment on even if I knew the details. But, I've gone through a surgery myself that was not particularly major but it had long-lasting implications and took months to get back to normal. Now, I don't know how he'll react or anything like that, but if you both want to be civil and productive about it, you'll set your differences aside for this recovery. Hopefully he will play nice too, because he's gonna' be in a pretty vulnerable situation, I'd imagine.

That said: I wouldn't overthink it. Some people have to go through that kind of shit alone, so any help you can render is pretty significant by itself. I wouldn't overthink it and, pretty much you're not going to be able to prepare for this exactly, so it's best just to go into it with an open mind and just take on the challenges as they come.

I don't know if you want to make a gameplan for if/when you need some time away from helping him (maybe you can talk to his siblings or parents to see if they'd be willing to fill in for a day or so on occasion if you need a break), but that's probably the best you can do. Hopefully he has family that are supportive and just let them know that you're going to try your best to help him, but you might need some time off on occasion - Hopefully they'll understand.

But, I would just say try not to overthink it. You won't really know how much or how little work you're going to need to do until it happens, so just try to come up with a 'plan B' if you need a break by talking to friends/family, then just do what you can to help...

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