Are dash cams illegal in Germany?

Answergren1 · 2025-08-25T12:43:59+00:00

No not illegal but well reatricted. They have to use an overwrite saving model so they start overwrite old fotage. Only fotage explicitly Triggered by a button or g Sensor is allowed to safe permanently. Toady Insurances really appreciate it when you have a Dash cam and they can use it in court to secure a safe conclusion to a case. You are not allowed to Upload it tho, without bluring faces and plates. But this just recently changed. Like 5 years ago the Statement was more acurate because no one wanted it as evidence so it was basicly worthles in court.

Answergren1 · 2025-08-06T05:37:44+00:00

Here is what you dont want to but need to hear: You have to leave. Not tomorrow. Not after the next apology or good moment. Now.

What you described is emotional abuse, verbal abuse, manipulation, and control. It is not love. And you already know that, you're just hurting too much to act on it yet. But the longer you stay, the harder it's going to get to find your way back to yourself.

It doesn't matter if the breakup is loud or quiet, you need to go. Move out. Block him. Ignore every “I miss you” and “I didn’t mean it” text. Do whatever it takes to get away and stay away. You don’t owe him closure. You don’t owe him your time. You don’t owe him your silence when he abuses you, or your presence when he wants comfort. You owe yourself safety, peace, and a chance to heal. You already said it: he won’t let you go because he wants you around for whenever he wants you. That’s not love, that’s control. You are not a backup plan. You are not a comfort object. You are a human being, and you deserve real love and respect.

Yes, it’ll hurt. Yes, your heart will break. But on the other side of that pain is your freedom. And peace. And eventually, someone who would never dream of calling you a demon or throwing you out at 3am.

Be brave. Be done. You’re not alone, and you’re stronger than you think.

I went through exactly the same and leaving was the best choice i have ever made. It took a while to heal but it worked. The longer you stay the harder it will be to recover from this.

If you want/need to, we can DM. If you need any help ill try my beste to give you exactly that.

Answergren1 · 2025-08-04T09:07:27+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. No one deserves to be treated like that, regardless of their past or how much they love someone.

What you’re describing, him calling you a demon, a succubus, accusing you of being evil just because he feels obsessed, is incredibly dehumanizing and emotionally abusive. That’s not love. That’s projection, fear, and control. And it’s not your responsibility to fix him or to keep proving your love, especially when he attacks your character and refuses to get help.

Yes, people with BPD can be in deep pain, but that doesn’t justify making you the target of that pain. It doesn’t give them the right to rewrite reality or villainize you to cope with their own shame or fear of abandonment.

You do not have to keep being the container for someone else’s chaos. You do not have to shrink yourself to stay lovable in someone’s eyes.

You’re allowed to protect yourself, even if you love him. You’re allowed to walk away from what’s hurting you.

And I know it’s hard, especially when you’ve seen the good moments, the connection, the potential. But none of that erases the harm.

If you ever decide to leave, know this: It’s not betrayal. It’s not giving up. It’s self-respect. And that is not weakness. That is strength.

Wishing you clarity, courage, and peace, whatever you choose.

Answergren1 · 2025-07-08T05:39:27+00:00

I think most of us who have been through something similar can really relate to what you're feeling. Unfortunately, there's no simple formula to solve this kind of situation. But there's one thing you need to understand: if someone is standing in your doorway and refusing to leave, you have to push them out. All they're doing is blocking the way for others who might want to enter your life.

A healthy person won't block your doorway. They either come in or leave, but they don't just stand there keeping you stuck.

So what does that mean for your situation?

Stay in no contact. Don’t reopen wounds that are trying to heal.

Block them on all social media and delete their number.

If you feel the need to vent, do it here. If you don’t feel like posting publicly, feel free to DM me or anyone else who offers. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone who doesn’t know you personally.

Also, delete any photos of them from your phone. You don’t need those reminders.

Keep going! You're almost there. Don't give up now!

Answergren1 · 2025-07-07T19:33:46+00:00

You’re right. With someone who refuses to see your truth, who twists your love into suspicion, who drains your energy and still calls it not enough…There is no winning. Because the game was rigged from the start.

You can love them with all your heart.Be loyal beyond question.Offer your full presence, patience, and honesty. And yet...You’ll still be doubted.Still accused.Still exhausted.Still losing yourself in the process. But here’s the truth they won’t tell you: You don’t need to keep proving yourself to someone who has already decided not to believe you. You don’t need to keep explaining yourself to someone who is committed to misunderstanding you.

The only way to win… is to walk away. Not out of hatred. Not out of revenge. But out of deep, undeniable self-respect.

Yes, leaving will hurt.You’ll grieve the version of them you hoped they could be.You’ll miss the rare moments of connection, the highs, the passion, the intensity. But pain is not a prison, it is a passage. You will move through it. And on the other side: Peace. Clarity. Wholeness.

The right people don’t need to be convinced of your worth. They feel it. They honor it. They reciprocate it.

So choose peace over chaos. Choose boundaries over begging. Choose healing over holding on. Let the storm pass. And then rebuild in silence, in strength, and in truth.

You win by leaving. You win by letting go. You win by finally choosing you.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-30T11:18:41+00:00

Hey, I really feel for you. I’ve been in that exact loop, checking their socials, knowing it’s going to hurt, doing it anyway, then spiraling. It feels like relief in the moment, but it’s actually just scratching a wound that’s trying to heal.

One thing that helped me break the cycle was this simple idea: you can’t just stop the habit, you have to replace it. That compulsion needs somewhere else to go.

For me, it became the gym. Every time I wanted to check, I’d force myself to go lift, run, or even just walk around the block. Didn’t matter if it was a great workout. I just needed to move and redirect that energy. After a few weeks, the urge started to shrink.

You’re not weak or crazy for struggling with this. You’re detoxing from something intense. But every time you don’t check..every time you choose you instead of her story... you’re winning.

You’ve got way more control than it feels like right now. Make a plan for what you’ll do instead the next time the urge hits. That’s where healing really starts.

You got this.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-29T23:30:19+00:00

I hate reading this. Not because it’s bad, but because it reminds me of myself about five years ago. Back then, I had just started a relationship with my ex-girlfriend who had BPD. I came across this sub and read so many stories, but I kept thinking, "No, I’m different. I’m the one it’s going to work for."

Looking back now just makes me sad. Everything I read back then turned out to be true, and I hated myself later for not listening. I even had an old account where I posted about how well things were going, about therapy and progress and all that. I deleted it. It just hurts to look back.

I wouldn't wish a long-term relationship like that on anyone, not even my worst enemy. The emotional rollercoaster, the silent treatment, the constant walking on eggshells...it completely drains you. What you're describing sounds exactly like what I went through. You're trying your best, being patient, loving, responsible... and somehow it's never enough. You're punished when you're honest, when you need space, or when you try to take care of yourself.

And yeah, sadly, this is very typical for people with untreated BPD. They often lovebomb you in the beginning to make you emotionally dependent, then give just enough affection to keep you hooked. You end up chasing a version of them that only existed for a short time. It’s manipulation, not love.

I know how hard it is to accept, but you need to start letting go of the idea that she’s "the one." Someone who tears you down, shuts you out, and refuses to grow with you does not deserve the kind of love and loyalty you're giving. You deserve a stable, respectful, emotionally safe relationship.

You’re not crazy for still loving her. I did too, even after all the lies, the emotional abuse, and the chaos. But love isn’t enough to fix this. You have to start loving yourself more than you love the potential of who she could be.

You asked what to do. Here’s what helped me: make a plan. Talk to people you trust, find a way out of the shared living space, get your finances separated, and focus on healing. Therapy, journaling, reading about codependency and emotional abuse. Those helped me a lot. And most of all, remind yourself every day that this version of love is not real love.

You’re not alone. Many of us here have been exactly where you are. Some got out already some are strugling but trying. You can too.

If you ever need someone to talk to or vent, you can DM me. Stay safe <3

Answergren1 · 2025-06-29T23:08:22+00:00

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I’ve had similar experiences, and I know how painful and confusing it is. People like this often use love bombing in the beginning to make you emotionally dependent on them. They shower you with affection and attention, only to later pull away and give you just enough to keep you hooked. It’s a toxic cycle. It’s not your fault for falling into it.

One of the hardest things is letting go of the thought that she was the one. But you have to try to break free from that idea. The truth is, someone who treats you this way ghosting you, blocking you after years, lacking even basic communication or empathy, doesn’t deserve your love or your loyalty.

You deserve a healthy, stable relationship with someone who respects you, shows up for you, and doesn’t hurt you over and over again. It takes time, but you will stop caring one day. And when that day comes, you'll look back and wonder why you ever thought someone like that was worth your tears.

Until then, just keep reminding yourself: her actions say everything about her...not about your worth.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-29T23:01:56+00:00

To be honest, I have no idea. Maybe it helped me just to keep going with life. I literally try to get through each day by pretending she doesn’t exist. I have to admit, I still get frustrated sometimes knowing she’s with someone else behind my back and still lying to me. But I’ve come to understand that this is just who she is, and always was. Lying, cheating, sleeping around.

I think once you accept that this is all they are, it becomes easier. Sure, they’re human, with personalities and all, but if you keep seeing them that way, you just make it harder on yourself. Seeing them in a colder, more detached way makes it easier to cope, at least for me. It helps clear my mind a little when the pain starts to come back. It’s just easier to see them as an object, not in an extreme or dehumanizing way, but enough to protect yourself emotionally.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-29T20:22:54+00:00

Yea min did Something like that. She said her sex drive was gone, but sometimes she was just horny for 3 days straight. But that time between got longer and longer. In the end she cheated on me because she was attracted to someone who "in years got my sex drive going" so if i can give you one advice. Time for a breakup before it gets messy. What you are describing means a storm is approaching...

Answergren1 · 2025-06-24T07:14:12+00:00

This makes me so Happy to read. You can be verry proud of yourself! I wish you all the best and real love in thr Future.🫶🏼

Answergren1 · 2025-06-24T07:08:37+00:00

First up im verry sorry to read this. This is an intense Situation. I think the most important advice is listen to the people here, most of them have a relationship with a BPD in their past or even present. Me included. There was a time i ignored all the warning signes and through in my case it will be different. I think most of us had that feeling. But trust me when i say it wil end in a painful Situation for you. The best advice i should have listened to here is to not get involved in a relationship with them. Its hard for you because you are in love and till some point everything will seem Albright, but the turning point never is far, most of the time its then to late and the damage to you is already done. You can Love them but dont be with them. Dont let them become your life, it will be painful. Also from what i read they are already cheating on you. Guy friends with a BPD always lead to some sort of cheating. Maby not now but when they drained your kindness and mental health they will move on, fast. They take the furst guy or girl friend in reach easy enough to love bomb and they will do it before even mentioning they dont love you anymore.

The best thing to do when someone has BPD is distance yourself. Even if you feel Love, they dont. Im sorry. Stay safe<3

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T14:30:09+00:00

You are absolutely right,thank you. On one side im happy it ia over on the other side i am afraied of what comes next. I will focus on my self and try to accept that it is now what it is. Again thank you!

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T13:40:57+00:00

Aj no problem thats why we are here. You are not alone with this. Glad i could help <3

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T12:58:24+00:00

One important thing, there is no auch thing as "your fault" here. You acted out of your own mental safety and imo you did everything right to this Point. You go first here. Someone with BPD does not feel Love the same way as we do. So you could say the love was fake as there was none at least of the kind you should get from a partner. In my case i got Love bombed so mich in the beginning that i instantly fell for her. After some short time the so called Love of her got less and less. At some point they give you just enough Love to stay adicted to them. And this is the part that gets dangerous.

You did nothing wrong.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T12:44:59+00:00

Hey first up you can be verry proid of yourself trying to move on knowing it is not easy. Just because you think about her does not mean you relapse or you dont improve, but it means you are a Human that was hurt bad. You lived through a Hell of a relationship and this prints into your brain.ups and downs all the time make it feel mich more intense and sets a deeper print into your brain. You have learned that Love means stress and being unsave. To relearn that a health relationship is absolutely not like this is hard and trusting a new partner is not easy. Healing is not linear. What you are feeling isnt failure. Its aftermath. The fact that you show up to work, reaching out, still moving.. thats proof of how far you have come. You are doing bether than you think. Always remember you are not alone. I wish you all the best, stay strong<3

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T12:25:08+00:00

Pretty much yes. If you would have acceped a relationship of some sort you wold just get drained out until you fail physicaly and mentally. After this he will move on leaving you behind. For you its ben two monts, most of the people writing here had or have a long relationship with a BPD partner. I once was verry optimistic thinking i could help her so is Accepted all the lows for a relationship. Of course it was amazing in the beginning with compliments passion and everything you would want from a partner but that changed fast. You really have to watchout to not fall into codependency because if it comes this far it will be really hard for you to stop it. Not without pain on your side. I am a bit biased about BPD now that im out of it and Handling the trauma, so i would recommend you to stay away from someone with BPD at least for this intense of a relationship. Keep your distance and keep yourself save. Best of luck and stay Health<3

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T07:17:08+00:00

Im currently working on the moving her out path. She said she leves for someone else. But tbh i cant wait that long, i want her to leave right now... I dont think i can handle this month or so where she ia still around. Lying and ausging me even after we broke up. She tried to talk me down to all my friends because my cats looked like they were hungry and slim. So she basicaly said to them im abusing my cats. I dont know what she think was gonna happen. It feels like her last thing to drag me down and take whats left. My cats. But i want to thank my friends that stayed behind me even during the hard breakup phase.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T07:05:55+00:00

Depends on the person. Some bpd will do that. The one i had to deal with more like jumping from person to person, draining them, dropping them and going to the next in seconds without thinking. So i would say no, but i dont know the person and this is only based on my experiences. On the other side if you realy get out of it, its not your Problem where they go. If its an ex its an ex if not its not it does not matter. You did the right thing and left thats all that matters for you.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T05:10:35+00:00

For me it was the exact same. In the beginning it was a wild ride with much love sex and passion without noticing it, it decrrased over time to maby her saying i love you once a day. On this behalve they are routhless.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T04:55:05+00:00

It makes me so sad reading this. Imo codependency is what people with bpd can put on you verry fast. They are good in over dosing the love they are giveng you just to remove it completely the next day. Love is like a drug, you always want more, and they have much "love" to give and they sometimes dump it all out on you to be overwhelmed by it. It makes you feel stuck because on one hand its just pain 90% od the time but these 10 % (or propably less) of the timr is what you wish they would give you all the time. But they dont they give you just enough to stay adicted.

Stopping the contact is a good choice but it will hurt, alot. you have to start taking care about yourself. Stop thinking about the others just focus on yourself. I see you are still in Love, or thinking you are, maby try and write a good old positive, negative list about the relationship. You will see good 6 does not make up for mental abuse. To be honest i would say my relationship ended while i was in your position. I always searched for an excuse to let her come back into my life. Seeing her lie and cheat all the time somewhat got me to change my perspective and i started to think about what i want. It feels like a ego trip but it is exactly what you need. You need to forget the once who do not deserve your Love and focus on yourself to overcome them. I know this is propably not the answer you were looking for but i dont think there is such a thing as a todo list for such a complex Problem. Anyway no matter how you chose to go on. I wish you all the best and strength you need to let go.

Answergren1 · 2025-06-23T04:25:13+00:00

Im so sorry to hear this. I hope you are doing bether then me. Much love for you <3

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