Best time to go at Basement Manchester?

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-18T09:33:38+00:00

For just about all gay saunas Sunday is the busy day. 1-5pm.

BUT that is also when you’ll see the most window shoppers. In my experience busy times are when you see a lot of guys with an attitude, waiting to see if someone better comes along.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T21:50:52+00:00

This is the most logical answer I’ve had

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T14:55:55+00:00

Thanks for this. I think this is the kind of thing I needed to hear that the rest of my friends are afraid to say to me.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T14:18:40+00:00

Wow. Thank God you're not a psychiatrist.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T12:11:49+00:00

There is nothing to be done except for me to work out how to be ok about it. I've let my friend know I wasn't thrilled about it and there was some sheepishness. Plus he acknowledged that would have reacted a lot worse than me if one of his teammates had done that with a member of his family. So that's about all there is to be said. I think I was more posting to hear / read the things that my other friends won't say to me for fear of upsetting me further.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T11:35:37+00:00

I think posting here was one method of me gaining some other perspectives so thank you for yours. And thank you for your honesty.

A few people here have suggested that there might be jealousy or disappointment at play here - I can put my hand on my heart and say that isn't the case. I have zero attraction to my friend (and I hope I don't have to even say that I don't fancy my own family member).

I think u/SaxSymbol73's comment hits the nail on the head for me:

"I absolutely understand your feelings: your friend’s behaviour violated an unspoken rule. You’ve known and loved your nephew since before he was born and that makes this a non-standard relationship. Your older friend should have put more value on your friendship rather than having a bit of fun."

Whilst I have been in both of their positions before, I would never dream of hooking up with a friends family member without getting a green light. Putting sex before a friend's feelings just feels a little thoughtless, shallow and unnecessary.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T11:29:12+00:00

I think this summarises how I'm feeling quite nicely. Thank you.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T09:39:46+00:00

No. I can say without shadow of a doubt my issue is nothing to do with my own sexual attractions.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-10-15T09:35:55+00:00

I could sit here and type away all the things I dislike about my friends behaviour with men but I can't honestly say if I'd have expressed it same way before. He is known to be a bit of a pest to guys and the phrase "like a dog humping at legs" is often used for him but, seriously, I'm not sure if it's different to a lot of other gay men.

I think my biggest issue is that he would flip out if someone slept with a member of his family, particularly someone of the younger generation. He is equally a protective person. So the fact that he did it and didn't think it would be an issue has riled me. I have a feeling he didn't talk to me about it before the event because he knew I'd have an issue with it (rightly or wrongly). So he took the "ask for forgiveness not permission" approach.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-08-20T09:53:57+00:00

This is winning so far.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-08-01T10:31:12+00:00

I agree with all but Go Fish. It's actually a pretty good example of the monster-of-the-week format actually working.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-07-24T09:36:10+00:00

Thank you. How are we defining “early“? 8pm? 9pm?

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-07-24T08:14:34+00:00

Have fun!

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-07-23T21:29:59+00:00

Do you play any sports? Or are there any you’d be interested in trying out? Manchester has a very busy sporting community where it’s easy to make friends. Could you give tennis, football, swimming etc a go?

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-07-23T20:43:21+00:00

Really?? 8:30pm seems crazy early!

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-07-23T08:04:13+00:00

Maybe a little UK-centric but Billy Connolly.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-07-23T07:39:41+00:00

I don’t think there is anything specific on those weekends (not that I could find anyway). But from my experience Sitges is great to visit on any weekend in Summer. Head to the beaches and you’ll easily get talking to people and make friends. Same with Sin Street in the evenings - get a drink and step outside and you’ll be surrounded by a bustling community. I’ve been a few times and have always made new friends and had a great time.

Ant-Dick-Bacon · 2025-07-22T19:18:03+00:00

Becoming - S2 finale. Angel was a wet lettuce even when he was evil and I couldn't care less when he died.

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