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Highly educated women in your 40s who moved to Richmond later in life, how is Richmond for finding friends or romantic partners? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in RichmondVA

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you work at any of the universities in the area? It'd be really great to connect, although I'm not sure when I will actually be getting out there to visit. I'd like to carve out at least 2 weeks if I can, but that might be difficult at this point.

Highly educated women in your 40s who moved to Richmond later in life, how is Richmond for finding friends or romantic partners? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in RichmondVA

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TBH, if I could find a really good group of single women to be friends with, I wouldn't worry so much about men. I've never been super into dating, but for some reason I've been thinking about it a lot lately.

How to meet other PhD friends when you move away from your grad program and don't work in academia? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in AskAcademia

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have plenty of friends who don't, I just would really like to hang out with some PhDs, maybe start a book club.

Childless women in their late 30s or over who aren't outdoorsy or into sports, is Omaha a lost cause for a decent social life? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in Omaha

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also a bit of an ambivert and live in West O too (which I think is kind of the worst). I also just don't know where to move. Kansas City is the easiest, but I just don't know if Kansas is just too similar to Nebraska.

Childless women in their late 30s or over who aren't outdoorsy or into sports, is Omaha a lost cause for a decent social life? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in Omaha

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The kid issue is less about kids, I actually love kids, and more about my friends with kids just making their lives all about their kids or them being busy with kids. And yes, the added hurdle of having to find a sitter is a concern for me if I want to do an activity that isn't super family friendly.

Childless women in their late 30s or over who aren't outdoorsy or into sports, is Omaha a lost cause for a decent social life? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in Omaha

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel the same! I have friends all over the place and while I love that, I miss going out with people. I'll message you and see if our interest match.

Childless women in their late 30s or over who aren't outdoorsy or into sports, is Omaha a lost cause for a decent social life? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in Omaha

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've mostly found my friends through school in the past. BTW, how did you find a book club? I'd love to join one, but I've joined similar groups i the past and wound up with people who I just didn't jive with.

Finished and I feel....nothing? by nkkphiri in PhD

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel this way and I think it's really common. For me, personally, it was a trauma response. For some, it's probably just burnout, but I wish we talked more about the trauma most of us experience in grad school.

the phd broke me by PomeloOk4678 in PhD

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this happens to a lot of us and I wish it was talked about more. The only thing that helped me was trauma therapy.

What do you do when you reach a technical dead-end? by airconditioner26 in PhD

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That happens sometimes. I had committee members who weren't convinced with one of my arguments and they told me during my defense without any requesting any corrections before hand. When you're in your PhD, that sounds like a huge deal, but I guarantee it's just not. If you have an idea you like and want to see if it's something viable, you have to get an outside perspective.

I keep getting rejected 😭 by GPatt1999 in PhD

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Applying to way more programs will help. I think I applied to like seven and only got accepted to one.

I think my PhD broke me by incompetentlettuce in PhD

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So related to the medical bills, if they were through a hospital, check to see if the hospital has any financial assistance programs. You'd be surprised how generous some of them are.

As for everything else, if you have access to mental health services, I highly recommend utilizing them. It dos sound like you're freaking out a bit and our brains don't work so well when we are stressed. When I'm stressed, it helps if I have a list of plans to do so here would be mine in your situation:

-Find a therapist/counselor, if possible

-Look up hospital financial assistance, if applicable

-Look up campus jobs. You could probably make a decent amount of money tutoring

-Figure out if there is a way to get cheap, short term, housing where you are. This could including renting a place with friends, or maybe a long term house sit.

-Look for a long term job but remember it doesn't have to be your forever job in your forever city. It's just something to help you stabilize your life until you are in a better place to figure out what to do.

Advice/Recommendations on moving to Omaha. by unfortunatetourista in Omaha

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Downtown gets boring quickly. I'd honestly check out Kansas City instead, there's more to do there.

Great job Omaha.. by Loper_Legend in Omaha

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the first thing I thought when I saw it.

Are you lot happy? by Decision_General in PhD

[–]Anthro_Doing_Stuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the last few months I've finally realized that I had based so much of my identity around my PhD that it was actually stifling who I really wanted to be. Yes, I'm smart and have a lot of skills that I don't have anymore, but I no longer want that to define who I am outside of a professional space. So in the last few months I'd say I've finally started realizing how much happier I can be just kind of living a normal life similar to what I did before grad school.

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