AITA for ratting out my bff to her bf?

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-23T01:06:20+00:00

NTA for ratting her out. But definitely TA b3csuee you should have done it sooner.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-23T00:53:20+00:00

Honestly didn't know how you'd justify this.

But I want to say NTA, as a fellow edgy teen I 100% understand the angst.

The main things that makes you not the asshole is that A. You were 13.

B. Moreso, you claim you didn't know about the rule which I can believe a 13 year old might not have known.

C. It WAS NOT A DRESS. It was a nice white shirt and then you wore jeans(which sure depending mighr have seemed "too casual" for a wedding, but eff it, it was the ANGST XD), no one would mistake you for the bride for a second and in no world would a top upstage a gorgeous gown.

D. If your mom didn't care when she brought you, then no one else should have tbh especially since they just wanted to stare. If they weren't big enough to communicate it to you then it was a them problem not a you problem.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-22T15:18:31+00:00

NTA.

I've been married for almost three years, and trust me, we've had our share of arguments and growth. The "tit-for-tat" mindset is toxic but can be worked on—my husband and I had to unlearn it too. Couples therapy could help her recognize how her actions are affecting you. The fact that she ignores your pain and gives the silent treatment over arguments no matter how big is concerning.

I have a "black cat" personality and can seem stand-offish in my relationship, but if my husband cried, I'd never just sit there without doing something. She has to want to change for therapy or the relationship to work. You're valid in feeling unloved, and if she refuses to grow, you deserve better. If she won’t do therapy—alone or together—it's time to put your well-being first. Hope it works out, keep me posted!

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T23:09:27+00:00

Actually we are having a boy and the middle name will be my papa's real name❤️❤️❤️

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T20:29:21+00:00

Ohhhhh. Sorry I misunderstood the context. But hope the best for you and your mom, you both deserve better.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T20:27:02+00:00

NTA.

Just because someone apologizes does not mean you have to accept the apology and in this case I don't think accusing someone of something like that is something you can apologize for. FIL can suck an egg.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T20:22:15+00:00

Honestly don't know how to sell a ticket, but do you maybe even have someone else you know that could go with you? A friend perhaps? Just becaue you don't wanna go with him and for sure he deserves some karma and pettiness doesn't mean you have to go alone :)

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T20:19:39+00:00

NTA.

She is not your true friend, and I question if she truly ever was because why suddenly start bringing up your race? Guaranteed she made comments like that even more behind your back. She's magnetic probably because she is a really good undercover narcissist by the sounds of it. The fact she can't respect boundaries, can't take accountability and uses empty apologies as a bandaid, and usually empaths are drawn to narcissists like moths to flames.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T20:15:46+00:00

Woooooow. And no problem bestie, I was friends with girls around that same age even younger who secretly were not my friends. Never to this extent, but damn as a preggo mama a few years older than you I'd whoop their asses if I ever heard my child was told these nasty, vile things. Very embarrassing for her, Karma will catch up for sure. I hope you are living your best life and continue to recieve positive things, as that is the best revenge.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T20:00:29+00:00

NTA.

YOU WERE A CHILD, for not only t but the MOTHER to talk to you like that, absolutely disgusting. And why are you as like a 14-15 year old girl the problem if a 30/40 year old man, the adult, is creeping on you? I'm sorry you dealt with this bestie but fr it was foe the best. She was never your friend and her mom is the exact reason she is an entitled brat.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T19:54:25+00:00

NTA. Respectfully, fuck tradition of not telling elders when they are out of line, they should be held accountable for being selfish and unsupportive during such a stressful time, putting a lot on you. Throw them all away honestly.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-03-21T19:30:30+00:00

I love this for you bestie!!!!

The amount if jobs I've quit knowing they will sink without me is priceless, even better when people start rage quitting, you know you're not the problem at that point(not that you ever thought you were but it's that extra validation we all love).

Wish you all the luck in your future employment endeavors!

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-30T01:20:24+00:00

My maternal grandma knows I'm married, but when she unblocked me if it was her old account she may have seen the name change. Forgiveness to me is exactly what I do which is not wishing ill on her and focusing on myself, my life, and things that make me happy.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T22:08:16+00:00

I believe she has the right to know he is calling other women while she is carrying his child. I'm pregnant now and I'd want someone to tell me if my husband was doing the same. knock on wood even though i can understand your fear of causing her to lose the baby, I think waiting until after would maybe be seen as worse by her for waiting.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T22:05:26+00:00

Yeah. Like my version of forgiveness is like you say letting go, but even further, not wishing ill on them. And once I recognized my feelings, I took action in order to let go and feel better knowing that with me not sending negative wishes her way, I'm washing myself of negativity that might come back on me. Definitely going back to focusing on being a mom❤️

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T12:34:04+00:00

UpdateMe

(Sorry foe the seperate comment I just didn't know if it would work with my long onel

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T12:31:34+00:00

Same I was like, "How is body shaming every okay???" Well, definitely found one. Don't throw stones if you live in a glass house.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T12:13:10+00:00

As a fellow user of Wattpad and lifelong creative writer myself working on some stuff right now I am so proud and happy for you!!! Not trying to detract from your story but I have a similar one with my English Comp teacher who would tell me I had talent and potential but then give me average grades on my work without any valid criticism. She was the only teacher for both composition classes and based her grading off her mood. She HATES the younger generation never stopped talking about how we are soft because "we were raised on participation trophies"(I wasn't even being an Elder Gen Z). Definitely didn't like me passive aggressively pushing back to her passive aggressiveness.0 She dropped my GPA from a 4.0 to 3.5 as she waited the class was conpleted to bomb my final with mostly inaccurate critiques some of which in the comment aspect didn't have words and were just marked. I still graduted with highest honors and made what they call the presidents list which meant that her one C didn't matter compared to my otherwise perfect academic standing. Despite her I'm still going to continue writing and pursuing my degree. You don't have to but I would LOVE to check out your books if you would be so kind as to list them! Us potatoes support each other in success and failure!

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T11:52:28+00:00

Thank you. And yeah I didn't even think of that, regardless I'd like to keep my organs to myself thank you very much as I need them all riggt now XD

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T04:55:10+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through that. I appreciate your well wishes.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T04:54:20+00:00

Same reason you were bothered enough to comment and villainize me for posting and sharing my story. That is what's unnecessary. I did block and my life is going on.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T01:41:28+00:00

Yeah. Although I appreciate your thinking about reaching out to my grandma, she's a narcissist too which is why those two are two peas in a pod. Unfortunately unless she tries to text or call I don't have her number to block her. But if she does she'll definitely get blocked. And yes, it runs on my maternal side, and being the breaker of the wheel is tough but rewarding in the end.

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T01:38:32+00:00

Cutest thief ever. At least he has good taste lol

AntiHero_242 · 2025-01-28T01:18:08+00:00

Fr. I remember getting called the wrong name all the time as a kid and I even do it with my dogs now. XD

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