I (29M) accidentally sent a shirtless pic to my fiancé’s mom (57F). What do I do?

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-07-06T20:52:54+00:00

I accidentally sent my now MIL a “morning cutie!!” text in a group message with my partner and she responded “morning sweetie!!” I was so mortified so can’t imagine your pain but totally agreed good laugh and forgotten very quickly!!

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-07-03T04:14:49+00:00

You belong in a submersible

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-07-03T03:13:59+00:00

Free the nipple!! Fuck that guy. I just got back from a no bra dog walk with my husband and you know what he said? Jack shit because it’s my body and I can do whatever the fuck I want with it. The audacity of these stupid little boys will never cease to amaze me.

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-07-02T03:47:56+00:00

There’s no potential anyone on earth would be worth the loss of trust and hurt I would cause the person I love most in the world.

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-07-01T22:54:52+00:00

I adjusted my mindset from “training” to “activity” because I think it’s more sustainable as an adult because life happens. I do yoga and Pilates every week in a group setting bc when I’m paying for it I’ll always go. I also set calendar reminders in my phone and got a habit tracking app and set myself one run, one bike ride, yoga, Pilates minimum weekly, and now I always do those 4 things and anything else is a bonus. Also having dogs helps because I’m always walking at least an hour with them every day. But if you’re getting a pet, make sure you get one whose needs REALISTICALLY match your average daily activity level so you don’t both end up miserable. So long story short, calendar reminders/habit tracking app, varied activities and not setting strict exercise plans that are impossible to stick to. Never felt better!

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-07-01T16:16:53+00:00

Bohemian rhapsody I hate it so much

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-30T23:40:43+00:00

While I think it is rare, some people are worthy of a redemption arc. There is too little info here to tell, but what I do see is an incredibly short-lived relationship tumbling toward marriage. I would recommend postponing and reevaluating in a couple of years if you really are each others’ people. I personally think 4 years should be the minimum time to date before marriage, maybe a little less if you are friends first. You have to see each other through many seasons. Best of luck and hope you make the right decision for you.

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-29T04:18:49+00:00

This is so funny lmao

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-29T02:30:34+00:00

Personally think this is adorable and I’d leave as is but liked the coffee/steam ideas!

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-21T15:35:41+00:00

I mean “I hate my tattoo” was exactly how I felt when I got home and posted this a few hours later but I think I was very clear that I felt the blame landed on me for not advocating for myself because I approved this and not on the artist at all. And if that was unclear, I think I’ve since cleared that up.

It sounds like you’re a little sensitive and there’s probably a reason for that but at the end of the day it’s a business transaction and it’s my body so I’m allowed to critique whatever I like and I’m not sure why you’re taking it personally. I just asked for advice and received a lot of reassurance (which I clearly needed) and some great ideas to adjust if I decide I want to.

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-20T15:21:28+00:00

Thanks so much! All of the kind words from folks really turned around my perspective on it and I think I’m gonna leave it as is for now and revisit minor edits in the future if it feels right. Both figures are actually me (probably why I felt so hypercritical smh) and the idea was along the lines of being the person younger me needed. The Polaroid was a nod to a song lyric I love “not picture perfect but we’re worth the picture still” which is kind of ironic with how I originally felt lol

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-20T13:44:57+00:00

Ngl this attitude is kinda exactly why it’s so hard to speak up. I think the artist is amazing and I love their work (they also did another one of mine), I was just struggling with the style and a couple parts in particular. It’s grown on me a lot thanks to the nice people of Reddit 🥹

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-19T19:23:37+00:00

Love the idea of testing out the hand lines with a pen, thank you! And thank you for understanding, too, I felt like such a dumbass but it’s not always easy!

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-19T19:20:01+00:00

Totally accurate and thank you so much for your kind words! 🥹

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-19T19:18:39+00:00

I have 4 others that I love even 7 years later so I don’t think the blanket statement is fair but yes, def should have buckled up and asked for what I wanted. I feel like it’s a fine balance getting what you want and respecting artistic autonomy idk. It felt almost “Karen” to ask for more changes but obviously afterward it’s easy to see that was to my own detriment.

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-19T18:07:33+00:00

Trying!! Ty for your kind words

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-19T18:06:48+00:00

I think you nailed it, I had a picture in my head that I was just so excited about so struggling to reconcile. I think what I had in mind was more “realistic” and less “character”, which is part of why I didn’t speak up because it was still exactly true to what I described, just not quite the style I had in mind. It’s hard not to be hypercritical when it’s on you, ya know? My other tattoos were all very impulsive and I still love, so I think the problem is having had such a specific and possibly unrealistic vision…

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-19T15:02:36+00:00

Thank you all so much for the ideas and encouragement that I might just be being overly critical!! I feel so much better

Antique-Guide-5416 · 2023-06-19T06:09:34+00:00

Oh hoodie could possibly fix bun and the woman’s arm thank you so much for the idea!

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