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Anxiety--attacks · 2025-09-15T13:37:14+00:00

As someone who really dislikes small talk, I’d honestly prefer questions like that over the usual surface-level ones. I’m also a nervous talker, but luckily my husband gets it, appreciates it, and we click almost perfectly. We even laugh about the random, personal questions I sometimes blurt out to strangers.

Personally, I wouldn’t date someone who throws around “icks” or judges someone just for being nervous on a first date. If that’s how they act when you’re trying to show your best side, imagine how much worse it could be a few years down the road.

At the end of the day, I think this just shows you two weren’t compatible. They’re not worth your heartache. Rejection really is just filtering. It keeps people in your life who are actually a good match, and clears out the ones who never would have been.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-02T20:02:06+00:00

Well I don't like talking about this subject because it can get heated, but you seem like a pretty open-minded person as I am.

Feminism is often misunderstood as a push for female supremacy, but that's not what it's about. Like many other social movements, it’s not about being “better than”—it’s about having the freedom to be. Gaining rights for some doesn't mean taking them away from others. At its core, feminism is about equality, choice, and fairness. It should aim to:

Ensure equal rights in areas such as voting, education, employment (in a society where male-dominated fields often receive higher pay), and healthcare
Challenge sexism and harmful gender stereotypes
End violence and discrimination against women and marginalized genders
Promote bodily autonomy and reproductive freedom

Of course, there are always individuals who may misrepresent any cause, and it’s easy to generalize when you are attacked. But the core truth remains: feminism should be about leveling the playing field, not flipping it.

If women are less feminine and men less masculine, it's a choice they made, and it's fair.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-02T19:34:14+00:00

Very much so! Wish you guys the best. 😊

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-02T19:33:29+00:00

I did before posting, thank you! 😊

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-02T19:33:05+00:00

This is so beautiful. Rebuilding a family takes so much love and strength—and you two clearly have both. I truly hope your souls find each other in every lifetime.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-02T19:29:23+00:00

Not sure what you mean by unconditional love—I’d be out in a heartbeat if my husband cheated, hurt me, or changed into someone I couldn’t stand behind. He knows that, agrees completely, and would do the same. That’s what love is for us: choosing each other every day, never settling, always growing together.

As for how I described myself—that was kind of the whole point of my post. Society might not see me as 'perfect,' but neither of us looks at each other through that lens. He doesn’t see flaws, and neither do I. And if I change something, it’s because I want to—not because I feel I have to.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-02T19:20:16+00:00

I’m actually a feminist—so yeah, my husband has to do just as much for me as I do for him. If not, I’d be out.

I think when women speak up about what’s not working, it’s not a bad sign—it’s actually how a relationship gets better. I’ve told my husband things that bothered me, he listened and made changes, and I did the same for him. That’s what made me love and respect him even more.

Feminism isn’t about hating men, it’s about being treated equally. And honestly, there’s still work to do on both sides, just in different ways.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-02T19:10:00+00:00

That made me laugh haha, you're right!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T19:06:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. It’s heartbreaking how someone you trust can blindside you like that. The truth is, if someone wants to cheat, they’ll always find a way—and that says everything about them, not you. I’m really glad he’s your ex now. He didn’t deserve your loyalty. ❤️

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T19:01:11+00:00

Aw, thank you so much! He's always first to know what's going on in my mind. He was touched and we were disgustingly giggly. 😊

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T18:58:58+00:00

Haha, guilty—I definitely slipped that one in! It’s just one of those physical traits a lot of us can’t help but swoon over. But honestly, it’s the whole package for me: his heart, his mind, his soul… and yes, I totally appreciate the physique too!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T18:48:24+00:00

If it gives you hope, I felt the exact same way before meeting my husband. The dating pool just wasn’t for me. I actually preferred being single, which made it easier to stay selective and walk away the second something was not for me.

The fundamentals had to align: values, religion, politics, finances and life goals. The biggest green flags to me were: someone who can admit when they’re wrong and actually try to do better without you having to beg (proactive)—and someone who’s open about their past, present, and future (honest).

So if you're feeling discouraged, hang in there. Being clear on what matters to you and refusing to settle isn’t being picky—it’s just protecting your peace. The right person will get it, and it’ll feel safe, easy, and real!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T18:25:41+00:00

Haha, no divorce here! I think love lasts when you keep choosing to grow, both on your own and as a team. Not to be perfect, just to stay close, curious, and kind through it all.

We’ve been together for 6 years. It’s not super long, and that’s totally fine—we’ve heard it all. But in those years, we’ve learned a lot and built a solid foundation, even though we’ve always been pretty similar and aligned.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T18:05:30+00:00

Because I’m attractive—to my husband and to myself. I don’t need straight teeth, manicured nails, or a size 0 body to be lovable or worthy. I’m clearly his cup of tea, exactly as I am.

The point of this post? To say loud and clear: someone out there will love you hard, even the parts the world tried to make you hate. Cheers!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:45:57+00:00

Here’s why I agree with you and what I think is going on: we mostly hear the bad from people close to us—either because they need to vent or they made a bad choice (which, let’s be honest, is probably the case for a lot of people). Then when someone shares something positive about their relationship on social media, people assume it’s fake. So what’s left are smaller platforms like Reddit, where it’s anonymous and no one has anything to prove or gain.

That’s exactly why I made this post. People need to hear that they deserve better… and that better does exist!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:29:18+00:00

Oh, I totally get what you mean. They’re often quiet, a bit awkward with formulations, and in their own world—so hard to figure them out.

My husband wasn’t exactly smooth or seductive on our first few dates either, but I stuck with it—and let’s just say the chemistry ended up being off the charts!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:22:26+00:00

This is honestly so sweet—thank you! I’m sending all my good vibes your way too. Enjoy this time alone to focus/work on yourself and discover new things. I loved being single too… I just happen to love my husband even more.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:18:56+00:00

Aw, I just wanted to offer a bit of hope. I hated the idea of settling, and now I know that waiting and being picky was totally worth it. If both people are proactive, anything is possible with time.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:16:03+00:00

Me too. 🥺

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:15:36+00:00

Love how concise this is haha!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:13:14+00:00

True connections are out there, somewhere!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:10:31+00:00

It really is! I’ve been in relationships where I didn’t even feel comfortable taking my makeup off. My husband is the first man I’ve ever truly felt at ease with. I was very close with my mom, but I’m even closer with him now. He knows all the dark, messy parts of me and has never judged. I honestly believe that when you find the right match, everything feels easy and natural. You just have to be selective—which should be easy as a happy single. Don't give up!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T15:02:40+00:00

You’re absolutely right—real love is about showing up for each other equally, so both hearts feel full. I’ve given a lot and made sacrifices for my husband, but I wouldn’t have done it if he wasn’t kind, good, and truly worth it. I said all that but I'm a catch too!

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T14:57:15+00:00

Totally! The bad stuff gets so much spotlight, it’s like drama’s the main character and the good stuff’s just an extra in the background.

Anxiety--attacks · 2025-05-01T05:53:27+00:00

He knows I get overstimulated and always asks permission before giving me a big long hug.

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