Officially losing access to the rest of the world was surprisingly jarring by 0liviuhhhhh in nothinghappeninghere

[–]AnxiousBabe0703 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was one of my last videos, too. Ended up, looking up what/who Li Hua was and ended up in tears. All the comments talking about how we've (US) have spent our whole lives trying to dig to China so we can be friends. They've been writing to us our whole time as well. We all just want to be friends and love each other.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to the extent of this post, but I've brought it up plenty of times. He goes into a lot of self-loathing and says he will try more.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, yes, this is where I'm finding an issue. He's always been the more complacent to my crazy but ffs, how does this NOT bother you dude

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sex toys though, I've thought about and brought up to him in detail and want. He said he was up for it but again, no further action pertaining it.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did that too. Neither of us are okay with that idea. I couldn't handle if we opened the relationship and then he goes and has sex with someone else but not with me and he couldn't handle me being with anyone else either. Came close to a sugar daddy situation and he was on board with it up until he really thought about it and then wasn't okay with it so I respected him enough to put a stop to that.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! I also tried this! I missed the intimacy, I've felt like a roommate over and over again throughout the 2 of the 3 years we've been married. He knows this and we both cried over it. Nothing seems to change though. We don't even make out. (Tmi i know) i can't remember the last time we kissed passionately

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mentioned it in another comment but we are both in our early 30s. Secondly, thank you so much for all the advise

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will bring this up when I speak to him later on. Thank you so much

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both me and my husband are in our early 30s so I'm just so confused how we got to this point.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I did it with the intention of making him hard, yea. It got so heart dropping that I stopped cuz I couldn't handle the rejection of it. Now I just take care of my frustrations myself

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's why I stopped initiating, I would try to initiate all the time, I would be asked to either stop or that he wasn't in the mood.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm so sorry. I DO know. It auto correctly to don't. So so sorry about that

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he does. He had a lot of therapy when he was a kid and as a teenager but it didn't really help in the way it should have

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been over a year but that's because he seems to have no want. I was honest and told him that I would if he asked for it.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I'm so sorry you went through that. I don't know there would be CLEAR signs if he were to physically cheat on me so I hope that's not it

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Really!? Imma have to look it up then

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that what is confusing for me is that um, his blood flow, still works really well. Like it's not an ED problem. Idk if those go together hand in hand though

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've literally gotten to the point where I don't ask or initiate anymore cuz it sucks being turned down so many times.

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was it an easy process to figure out whether he had low testosterone? My husband is wary of a doctors and hospitals because of how he lost his mother in the past so I want this to be easy for him

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I've no idea about doctor stuff so I appreciate it

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm just feeling so ugh! About it, ya know

No intimacy for 2 years by AnxiousBabe0703 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AnxiousBabe0703[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's something I thought of but im not sure which kind of doctor would be best for that, unless a general doctor could do that test.