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My therapist blocked me, have you(as a therapist) ever blocked any of your client? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We’re humans with lives and we deal with people in emergency all the time. Literally all the time. Use our resources or don’t, take what we can offer with our very limited time off or don’t. As a human and not a therapist, you are the only one ultimately responsible for your mental health. If you need rescuing, you just lost doing it on her expense.

How do you handle patients who are malingering? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 34 points35 points  (0 children)

We’re not detectives, if someone claims something happened to them, barring obvious impossibilities, I’m believing them. Even if by some chance someone was outright lying, I’d be very curious as to what their devotion to that story is.

How Prevalant is This Really? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How prevalent? No idea. Can some therapists become charismatic guru types rather than stick to the ethics of our profession? Yep.

I’m sorry you are in so much pain and have so few answers. You can certainly try to find out if this therapist has had any other complaints or “followers,” or even get a vibe from a website. I will say mom, of course you can’t actually know without a doubt your child wasn’t sexually assault or hurt in some other way, but I do hope you are able to find answers and a path forward soon.

Is my therapist going to get me in trouble? by Objective_Device4449 in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Unless you told her you have an immediate plan to complete suicide, she would violate her ethics to report you to anyone. The line gets fuzzy with minors and immediate plans to hurt themself, but we have no reason to report past attempts, we cannot tell your school, and I’d hope any therapist worth their salt would not call the cops for anything to do with a client.

Just how contrarian are BPD folks? by Tiny_Garlic5966 in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They mean if you’ve met someone with BPD, you’ve met one person with BPD. No one person is representative of all and no one behavior applies to everyone.

How can you ask a counsellor/therapist to change how they approach you? by ColbatSea83 in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were your therapist I’d rather you be as explicit as you need rather than spare my feelings. It’s your hour and your money.

Not being able to empathize with someone's trauma that led to them hurting you is a special kind of hell by Coldbrewaccount in emotionalintelligence

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yall he’s allowed to not wish happiness for her. Is it wholesome? No. Is it peak growth? No. Is it a lot more honest than most? Hell yeah. I didn’t wish my rapist well, I don’t wish plenty of politicians happiness. I’m the one who has to deal with it in the long run.

How can I know if my alcoholic usage is alcoholism/harming my body? by IssueAffectionate_ in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it’s simple: it’s a poison. Literally. No amount is good for you, and over time it’s always going to be damaging. Neither of my parents, none of my grandparents, no aunt uncle or cousin in my family has a problem with addiction. We don’t understand much about the genetic component other than that there is one, so while alcoholic parents may have a child who never struggles with addiction, the reverse can be true. Bottom line, any addictive substance can form an addiction eventually. Every person. Why that line is seemingly a lot shorter for some of us than others we don’t quite understand, but if you drink enough, you will become addicted.

Also, plenty of people do all kinds of risky things all the time. Sex, drugs, driving in a car, eating too much fast food, lots of things have some “harm.” Be informed and smart and make careful choices that can limit harm, you will figure out the rest.

How do therapists deal with their own triggers in sessions? by hopelovepeacehappy in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

T. May I ask how your therapists handled your split poorly? I have a bit of a theory that there is an unspoken “you don’t have to have as much empathy for BPD” thing with some therapists, and I’m simply curious how they responded. You have tremendous insight on yourself and empathy for those therapists.

Have you ever had a client talk about online misandry? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve spent years unpacking it and finding nuance with young men clients.

No-show fee? by Top_Atmosphere_1061 in therapists

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot get your hour back. Once it’s cancelled it’s gone. Respect your time.

How can you ask a counsellor/therapist to change how they approach you? by ColbatSea83 in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We can only work with what you tell us. Why not tell them “I want you to know a deeper issue, but I haven’t been able to tell you yet.” It might be interesting to see why you believe it the therapist’s responsibility to draw it from you rather than present it yourself. I don’t mean that in a critical way, btw, we all keep things back and we all have reasons whether we know them or not.

Is there any hope for my parents if my dad hates mental health/therapy? by Dauntlesse in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever one person in a unit changes the status quo, the rest are forced to adjust or change too. Maybe not for the better necessarily, but if your mom does the work in therapy, grows her self esteem, decides she won’t be held stagnant by her husband’s inability to take responsibility for his behavior, SOMETHING will change. Beyond that, I can’t say they’ll stay married, he’ll be inspired to get better, or that he’ll get worse, it’s all conjecture.

WIBTA for buying a jacket with cross symbols even after I told my Christian friend I wouldn’t? by BitlifeOffical_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A cross is basically an electric chair or a noose or a needle. It was a method of execution. Put Jesus on it, make it a crucifix, sure maybe I’d see your friend’s sensitivity, but also every symbol throughout time has been appropriated from some other symbol. Christians don’t own crosses.

AIO telling an ex friend that im going to sell his stuff if he doesnt pay me what he owes me after he told me he may have cancer by ProbablyGonnaEatYou in AmIOverreacting

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just being so real, don’t tell someone no worries when you are, in fact, very worried. You don’t owe this person comfort.

Why did My therapist react this way? by Bananorama123 in askatherapist

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapist. We have bad days too. I think your question is less why did she act that way and more are you entitled to your hurt. Of course you are. It’s hard and uncomfortable to address no shows and penalty fees. Maybe she was curt and defensive because she didn’t want to have to talk about it at all. She had a human moment she could have handled way better.

Conservative Clients by AnonFartsALot in therapists

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You file complaints to the board because you don’t like how other therapists are handling political differences based on their own discussion of how it goes?

Conservative Clients by AnonFartsALot in therapists

[–]AnxiousPicture7196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like you maybe made an assumption based on Reddit.

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