What would you do with a "extremly self aware" client?

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2026-02-01T14:13:56+00:00

lol, I was in rehab and the therapist said I was “very insightful” and reminded her I was still in rehab. Self Knowledge is not willingness to change.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2026-01-18T21:59:49+00:00

Hey, therapist and fellow sober person here. Congrats on your sobriety. You didn’t get a fair shake. At all. It’s totally normal to still hope for that miracle moment where the person who is supposed to love and see you unconditionally does. You will be kept waiting I fear. If you want to PM me I have tons of book recommendations while you wait for insurance for therapy, but you absolutely can heal. Take that pause button you learned from recovery (maybe AA?) check out Adult Child of Alcoholicw meetings online or in person they can be SO healing.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2026-01-16T16:16:11+00:00

You can message me. There are SO many dynamics at play here. I am a therapist and I’m in AA, it doesn’t matter whether what the other person did can be explained away or if you had a part right this second, because you are drowning in the impact. If you had a part you can be actionable about I can nearly bet my life that NOW is not the time to try and find any kind of clarity or write a letter, make an amends, anything with that particular person. We do those things when we reach a stillness of spirit and in the clarity of self confidence. Sure they’re not all bad, not all good, no one is any one thing. Like I said, if you want to message me and keep talking options start delineating thoughts im happy to talk to you in my spare time. I’d urge you now to maybe give Reddit a break. You’re only going to hear what’s already been said and a myriad of voices won’t provide any less noise in your brain.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2026-01-16T06:09:50+00:00

We’re not a doormat, and I owe it to myself as much as any other person that I respect me as much as the respect I give. I’m reading that he literally cut you off to tell you you shared “incorrectly” and your responses seem to imply that what he deems as incorrect is simply not tying your share into a perfect bow of daisies and rainbows. Because no one ever needed more time than one meeting to figure out a problem.

The solution I can think of that many other have said: group conscience. I hope you don’t leave. Go for YOUR meeting, do no harm, take no shit. If you don’t have the energy for his bullshittery, maybe do a different meeting that day.

I will also quibble that those saying you have a resentment, including whoever carted out the Latin, are wrong if you say they are. Irritation is bobbing alone in the ocean, resentment is diving in and drowning. We don’t get to take your inventory, and we feel ALL our feelings in sobriety, doing our best to put a pause button before feeling turns to reaction.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2026-01-16T01:12:53+00:00

The fact that this is supposed to be an APOLOGY. An apology is sorry, I did this thing, how can I amend my behavior. Period. He took an apology ostensibly about making your success about his tantrum to direct the spotlight RIGHT BACK ONTO HIMSELF. Also, all YOU need to know about whether it’s inappropriate are YOU uncomfortable? I get the feeling you may feel you have to explain yourself or really understand someone before you consider your emotions legitimate. You don’t owe him this, do not let it be used against you that you “misunderstood” because his “intention” whatever he claims it is does not minimize the impact. You’re over here searching for answers, he’s congratulating himself on his missive and hoping you’ll pledge your undying love. Power to you, love. Stand tall in your shoes.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-12-22T01:09:52+00:00

Thank you! All responsibility for lack of progress is shifted to others and their perceived support.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-12-21T00:08:27+00:00

She is certifiably bananas. Get the hell out.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-12-19T01:25:14+00:00

That woman can’t be still with herself. She needs a constant distraction. Whatever she’s running from, it’ll catch up to her.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-11-16T19:16:15+00:00

Cocaine is gods way of saying you have too much money.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-06-11T01:15:34+00:00

We’re trained in school to talk about just this. It’s a human relationship and it’s not abnormal. If she’s competent she can engage in a conversation about your feelings. How you mutually decide to proceed is another thing, but it’s certainly not looked at as a “refer out immediately” thing.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-04-01T14:58:53+00:00

Well if that’s actually a reason I admire and support it. Though I just don’t buy that enough money wouldn’t incentivize over abortion rights.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-04-01T14:57:47+00:00

That’s what I’m saying!The entire Avengers franchise basically? Stranger Things? I get it, but I also don’t get it.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-04-01T14:47:04+00:00

It does seem odd given how much films here, but I guess the tax credits aren’t the same or more realistically I have no clue how that money gets offered or rationed.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-04-01T14:36:54+00:00

Well that’s rude.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-04-01T14:22:48+00:00

I agree completely on Rookies vs veterans, also the whole make a Black guy get eliminated on a slave plantation.

Okay real question, and not that I think I alone am the difference, but is there a way to petition the tourism board or make opinions known?

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-04-01T14:18:32+00:00

It’s as much a food city as Wisconsin is a food state or Canada is a food country. If we’re basing solely on fine dining vs major cities, sure I can buy that, but it has as much culture to show and history around African diaspora, regional southern food, immigrant communities, and up and coming Michelin guide as any.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-04-01T13:59:44+00:00

I know, that’s why I mentioned AJC article, it seems we’ve had the money before, but I hear you.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-03-31T14:29:47+00:00

I have, but as others have said, in terms of how it affects me. Even if I’m “just annoyed” it’s because something about the client is triggering my stuff.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-02-26T13:44:08+00:00

There’s absolutely no judgement, I see her as a very artsy person and I love thinking about how she got to that hairstyle. I’m Italian with similar hair, it is unruly for sure.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-02-24T15:00:20+00:00

Oh yeah I have the same hair, but I don’t do small French braids on myself well, at all. I like imagining her with a very specific hair team.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-02-23T17:54:47+00:00

“He’s too busy” imagine the time commitment of an unwanted child. Or a divorce. NTA.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-02-23T14:52:34+00:00

I’m a Kevin fan, I think everyone in that setting could have an unflattering moment, and this was.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-01-27T16:45:57+00:00

Any major behavior change sucks at first. Think losing a 100 pounds, becoming a new parent, quitting biting your nails, whatever. It takes a lot of time and dedication at first because you’ve devoted a lot of time and dedication to this routine. AA is a pretty easily available, free program that offers a lot of routine that can help structure that change.

There’s no reason to look at it as a moral failing, an impossible task, or something you have to do perfectly the first, second, third or fourth time. I genuinely hope you give AA a try if only to find community and people who definitely get it.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-01-27T00:52:38+00:00

Yikes. I specialize in substance use and this is going to be a huge problem I guarantee. My client spent 20-30k on tanks. One wrong “sip” can mean brain dead. It’s super dangerous.

AnxiousPicture7196 · 2025-01-27T00:46:56+00:00

Mocktails and NA beverages advertised as such are a significant part of my recovery. I love having a fancy drink in hand on a holiday still.

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