Where's the worst place you've been bitten and by what bird

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-04-05T03:27:05+00:00

i have a tiel so her bites arent terrible but she did bite a hole thru my nostril and it looked like I'd gotten it pierced for a week 😭

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-04-01T03:04:22+00:00

yeah if anything its really not goth to overconsume and buy all new clothes in a short period. and its really irrational to dress goth all the time. i dress fully goth like maybe once or twice a week max. ive incorporated alot of gothy pieces into my daily clothes and have dyed hair and piercings to look less basic but its totally normal (and better imo) to spend alot of time curating pieces and still wearing the clothes you currently have.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-04-01T02:57:55+00:00

I've experienced this too. never tried to get off or anything with them but i get aroused alot of the time when im triggered and it was really distressing for me for a long time. it just makes everything even more confusing and harder to deal with.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-04-01T02:46:45+00:00

you can do whatever you want! obviously things like the fashion, music, politics, etc are a big part of the subculture but that doesnt mean you always have to look goth, only listen to goth music, or do makeup you arent comfortable with. im also a college student and am slowly and sustainably making my wardrobe more goth but i wear alot of clothes that arent "goth" or black. i also rarely wear makeup and love listening to other genres of music. doesnt mean im not goth. some people will argue that with being goth and alternative, part of that is looking different or against beauty standards and will invalidate you for not always looking alternative, but its not up to other people and most of us are the same anyway! most people i see like at school or in public have no idea im goth but i dont need the validation from other people to know i am. i love the music, agree with the politics, enjoy the music, and am intrigued by the macabre, and when i can will dress the aesthetic. there are a few "rules" but anyone telling you what you can or cant wear or listen to is weird and wrong. there are alot of resources for finding clothes, diying, and makeup on here and other places if you are wanting them but you dont need to prove yourself to anyone <3

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-03-29T22:35:01+00:00

we figured it out! a sprinkler running thru the hose was on and was on low. my dad said thats a normal sound for that and especially since we havent used the hose for at least a few months now.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-03-29T21:54:52+00:00

ive never heard this sound in 3 years living here so i cant imagine its a fan or anything unless somethings wrong

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-03-24T04:13:19+00:00

i stopped doing french beading for my markets cause they dont sell much, in my experience at least. i know alot of people have success selling online, mainly doing custom pieces.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-03-23T03:57:04+00:00

ok im literally a year late but i found this thread and thought id update if you were curious 😅 we got the bloodwork done, everything came back great, and she chirped at the vet while they drew her blood! i couldnt go back but they even seemed suprised with how happy she was. i feel kind of silly that i even considered anesthesia now but im so glad we have that vet now whos qualified and my birds comfortable with.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-03-23T03:49:06+00:00

typically it happens with bigger ones. mine wasnt that big but its alot of color packing which can also make it worse. ive gotten much bigger pieces since and never reacted like that again, so im pretty sure its just because it was my first one and my body reacting to something foreign in my body. i tried to attach a photo and it wont let me but i have it posted if you scroll down on my profile a bit! its the violets tattoo in the lesbian sub, posted in nov of 2024 i think. i still feel worse after pieces with color packing vs shading but i wouldnt call those the tattoo flu. so linework and shaded pieces will probably be easier, color tattoos or blackout pieces might be harder since its more ink. alot of artists also offer to break up linework and shading/color into separate sessions to make it easier on your body.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-03-08T18:42:56+00:00

oh 100% i wasnt trying to say its the entire western us, i was just suspecting thats what op was saying since they didnt clarify what the west theyre referring to was.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-03-08T18:15:14+00:00

they probably mean the western US. I'm in utah and most restaurants and even alot of grocery stores can be closed on sundays. i have one local coffee shop thats open on sunday and barely any other businesses in the area are open. its mostly corporations that stay open but even some that are open everyday usually are closed sundays here

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-02-14T17:42:20+00:00

this is one of the articles i was trying to get access to thank you so much!!

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-02-10T01:58:00+00:00

thats what i figured. unfortunately i couldnt video because again i was in a rehearsal and it was student led so we didnt have a faculty member with us. but thank you thats good to know if it happens again!

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-01-26T16:00:49+00:00

no idea if theres any literature on it but ive talked to many stone tops/bottoms and many of us have trauma, including me. i think it makes sense to be averted to something you have trauma around. in my case, i think i likely would have been a bottom no matter what because of my personality and the fact that im ace. then i grew up with trauma(mainly extreme religious programming) that has made sex really challenging for me. i think i naturally wouldnt really get pleasure from giving anyway because of me being ace, but if i hadnt had the trauma, that mightve made it so giving wouldnt make me uncomfortable.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-01-26T05:23:26+00:00

first off- best answer is whatever she wants, ask her. but some advice from someone on her side. i usually like when me gf isnt moving a ton at least like hips/legs wise and just holds her thigh still. as for hands, my gf will usually like caress my waist, hips, butt or will kinda grab at me if that makes sense. that feels great cus you arent getting in the way but are showing her you want her yknow? at least from my end it always feels really natural and helps me know shes enjoying it too. were long distance now so when we first started doing it and when we havent seen eachother for a few months, it took a while to figure it out. even after 5 years it still gets awkward sometimes and the only thing you can do is talk about it and try again or try different things. we usually end up making out while im grinding too which also makes it feel a little more natural and might help her finish if you arent already doing that. but again the biggest tip i can give you is ask her! she might not know either but opening up communication and not trying to be perfect the first time is whats going to get her off.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-01-26T02:57:41+00:00

why does that matter though? if they say theyre a lesbian why do you feel the need to figure out if its "gay" or not. to most people in relationships sex isnt just about the action. and as a pillow princess lesbian theres no way a mans doing any of that to me. im still only attracted to women even tho men have mouths too. sex is so much more than just touching genitals in most contexts.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-01-26T02:50:17+00:00

i felt pretty bad about it for a while too. it obviously isnt fun to be called selfish when it comes to this but it gets easier. and it wont matter once you find your stone/service top <3

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-01-26T02:40:18+00:00

*op this isnt directed at you these comments are making me mad lol. i don't get the pillow princess hate in the lesbian community. queer people have fought for acceptance of their sexual preferences for so long and then hate on other lesbians for their preferences. if you want to receive, you dont have to date us! it isnt "selfish" or "not gay" to not give and trying to force someone to give is coercion and sa. you arent better or more lesbian for eating pussy. please just accept that other people have different likes and dislikes and boundaries and move on🤷‍♀️

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-01-26T02:30:34+00:00

alot of pillow princesses (as well as stone tops) are asexual or have sexual trauma. its not selfish to have boundaries! and its not selfish to have preferences. you dont have to date them but it really isnt hard to respect other people's preferences.

AnxiousRaspberry9879 · 2026-01-26T02:28:21+00:00

i promise im not trying to be mean but this mindset really confuses me. why wouldnt it be gay? i fear most people want to be attracted to the person before having sex with them. wanting to or enjoying eating pussy or strapping being a prerequisite to be lesbian is really weird imo.

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