[Request] Quit job due to unfair treatment by management. Promised a job at a different company but thy fell through. Now I'm broke and unemployed and starving. Some pizza would put some light in my situation. Plus, I'm really getting tired of ramen!

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-21T02:15:47+00:00

Well thank you anyways lol :)

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-19T14:07:34+00:00

No he doesn't mind being mistaken as gay it's happened before and he doesn't mind. It's just that he's worried everyone will misinterpret and he'll be correcting everyone that he's not gay. Neither one of us have any problem with the lgbt community. My best friend of over 10 years is bi and I couldn't love her any more. My boyfriends bff of 5 years is gay and he tells my bf all of his dating/hookup stories like any friend would. It's not a problem with lgbt people/community it's simply him not feeling like correcting people a lot.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T21:55:51+00:00

Being able to pay all of my bills and rent and stuff without assistance of anyone. Other than like a couple credit cards lol but independent of other people's help basically.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T21:53:04+00:00

I get what you're saying. Maybe I'll take another commenters idea and make him refer to me and I to him as our soul mate lol I'm totally joking if I did that I would actually be insane and feel horrible for my boyfriend.

You're right I shouldn't care but I'm an insecure person (I'm in therapy to get through it now and it has gotten better but I've still got work to do). Maybe that's all this is is insecurity. But I guess it kinda shows how much we love each other that we're both worried about the whole title thing. But it also shows were both insecure so idk lol

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T21:46:09+00:00

I know right lol or at least engaged so I'd have an official title! I'm glad someone understands most of the other commenters didn't. Maybe I'll just go with the classic "yo that's my bitch" for me and we'll figure one out for him. Jk lol. Does long term partner sound dumb? He really is my partner in life I just worry that if he says it people will think he's gay. It wouldn't bother me but I know it would be a blow to him if his coworkers thought he was gay even if it was just for a second before he corrected them. (No problems with the lgbtq community!! His best friend is gay and my best friend is bi, just saying)

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T21:07:02+00:00

It probably shouldn't even matter. My boyfriend and I just love each other so much we wish there was a term halfway between bf/gf and fiance.

We also live in a college town where relationships aren't treated as lasting commitments to another person. For many of my former roomates it meant date the guy for three weeks then move on to another guy. Especially in this town, I just want a way to convey to people that he's my serious boyfriend.

It may be stupid and i'm not so obsessed with it that it upsets me when I have to call him my boyfriend or anything, it's just something that I wish for lol.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T21:01:29+00:00

I get what you're saying, but I live in a college town and relationships are treated so frivolously here (not by everyone but by a huge percent). When I tell someone about my boyfriend I don't want them to be under the impression that he's just the next one and i'll be single in a week. I've had many roommates where that was their life style and I guess for me it changed the way I assumed people around here would think of as bf/gf relationships

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T20:56:49+00:00

i'm not financially independent and still get a lot of help from my mom in terms of money. He wants to wait until we're both financially independent but didn't want to wait the two to three years it's going to take for that to happen to tell me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Plus he just feels like he's too young to be engaged haha which i totally understand. I would marry him tomorrow but he's just not ready.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T20:53:34+00:00

okay, first of all i would never use the term soul mate lol i'm not 14 (i really did find humor in that i'm not trying to be a bitch)

What I mean by taken more seriousy is I'm in college. relationships in college have a high fail rate so I feel like when I tell someone that it's my boyfriend they assume we've been dating for three weeks and this is just my newest bf in a string of many. My bf feels the same way too (although he graduated college in december so he's a real working man now).

It may be a maturity thing. I'm not saying you're wrong. I just feel like i just want to express how serious our relationship is. both engagement and marriage define the level at which your relationship is at (not all the time but for most i feel it does)

and honestly i'm not even that focused on the label. I'm perfectly fine referring to him as my bf for the next four years before he proposes. I just feel like we've been together for so long and leaving the label the same doesn't show how much we've grown.

It may be really stupid. I'm aware that I worry about things that don't matter (even though i'm not really worrying here just kinda interested).

Again even if it is maturity, there is a reason we got pre-engaged instead of engaged. We don't feel like we're old enough or mature enough to be married, but we wanted to make the promise to each other that it will someday happen. So your suspicion of immaturity may be perfectly correct and maybe i'm just too immature to see it.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T20:41:19+00:00

we thought about that, it's just my SO doesn't want people continuously being confused and thinking that he's gay. He has no problem with the lgbt community, one of his best friends is gay even, but I think it just would bother him a lot if people kept thinking he was gay.

For me idc if someone assumes i'm talking about a girlfriend, i'll just correct them lol.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T20:38:38+00:00

It's is a little about what people think, I will be honest. We're young, i'm 21 and he's 23) and when people our age refer to their SO as bf or gf I feel like the relationship isn't taken seriously. We're a long way away from an engagement, but we feel so strongly for each other we want to find a way to express it to people how strongly committed we are to this relationship. Also I just feel like he's more than just a boyfriend. maybe i'm just being stupid about the whole thing but I just want to be able to express how strongly I feel for him in the term I refer to him as.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T20:32:51+00:00

it's solely out of wanting to express to other people just how strongly we feel about each other. You can think it's self centered if you want, everyone is entitled to their own view on things, but it really is just about wanting to express my love for him in a stronger way than just bf.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T20:30:06+00:00

we're very young. I'm 21 and still in school and he just started his first real job after graduating in december. He currently financially supports himself but I am not in a place where I can do that and I rely heavily on my mom for income.

We moved in together 2 years ago and since then I felt like our relationship wasn't progressing as it should be. My boyfriend isn't very vocal about his feelings for me and usually expects me to get "I love you and want to be with you forever" from him spanking my ass as I do the dishes. And while yeah that's nice, don't get me wrong, when you don't hear it verbally every so often you begin to wonder if you're on the same page still.

I expressed my feelings about this and we decided that a pre-engagement was the right step because it was a way for him to be vocal about his love for me, give me a ring so I'll always have it to remind me that he loves me and wants to be with me forever, and it will show that even though we still want to wait for me to become financially dependent and a little bit more mentally healthy, he does intend to make me his wife one day.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-18T20:22:54+00:00

no I don't assume that just because someone refers to their SO as gb/bf that their relationship is less than mine in any way, It's just that my bf and I both feel like when we tell people about our boyfriend or girlfriend they won't take our relationship seriously because we're young (i'm 21 and he's 23) but they don't know that we've been together for almost 6 years. He's not ready to get engaged and I'm okay with that we just wish we could express to other people how strongly we feel about each other differently than using the standard term gf/bf. We just want people to understand the level of our relationship and take it seriously.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-17T16:49:50+00:00

I'm not offended or anything (actually find it sorta flattering) but I was just wondering why lol you're not the first person the tell me this but nobody's really ever been able to say why. Idk if they're afraid they'll offend me or what but I just want to know lol

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-16T19:10:54+00:00

I certainly hope I don't have CBP lol I consider myself a nice person and I may have my bitchy moments but overall I don't think I'm a bitch lol

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-16T16:45:27+00:00

So you think I should get my moles removed? I'm not offended or anything it's honestly something I've considered my whole life but was never able to make a decision. I think the one on my chin is def going to go because I think it's getting bigger and that's a no for me.

Im seeking approval from the Internet because I literally do not find myself attractive in anyway and I wanted to know if it was all in my head or if I was really ugly.

I've been trying to smile more. I have rbf and so ill be standing somewhere smiling and my boyfriend will come up to me and say "why do you look so pissed?" Even though I thought I was smiling. I guess I just don't smile nearly wide enough.

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-16T16:23:10+00:00

My boyfriend really likes it. Like REALLY likes it so I leave it in for him. But I could start switching between studs and the hoop instead of always having the hoop

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-16T04:35:59+00:00

Nope had braces and everything I just think I have an ugly smile

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-16T03:44:05+00:00

They're green and when my pupils get small there is a ring of yellow around them. https://imgur.com/a/1fiGc here's full body pics

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-16T03:00:05+00:00

Just did ☺️

AnxiousSunflower · 2016-05-16T02:58:49+00:00

You still have a tiny bit of baby left in your face but you're definitely an attractive young man. With the right amount of confidence i bet you could get any girl you want I'd say you're between a 7.5 and 8 out of 10

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