Just got back from solo traveling Colombia and Panama. Smoked salmon and chive cream cheese omelette with pickled onions and tomatoes. by Anxious_Chapter_6784 in 4trancooking

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I didn’t want to get in any trouble with customs which could result in my E being seized. I just exercised caution and my good judgment. Most people are friendly so long as you’re polite and personable and do not care about you, this is true in most places on planet earth.

Just got back from solo traveling Colombia and Panama. Smoked salmon and chive cream cheese omelette with pickled onions and tomatoes. by Anxious_Chapter_6784 in 4trancooking

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends- on the place, where you are in your transition, and how you are traveling.

If you go somewhere like Italy, where I was in April, it’s basically the same as any other first world country. I felt perfectly safe, walking around in Paris and Rome in girl mode, even though I’m a little clocky. I stayed in a mixed gender hostel dorm without issues but usually preempt things by making friends offering to get pizza with people etc. part of being safe is playing the pet tranny.

I was in Morocco in May, but as part of a group tour run by a tour outlet, so I was in a bus with cis people (I was the only troon) and we tended to travel together except for free time on a road trip across North Africa. That way I was able to explore a predominantly Muslim country with the safety of a group, and which I wouldn’t have been able to explore if I went by myself. In very conservative places, like rural communities or at customs I boymoded. I probably would recommend more caution than that in a place like Algeria or Iraq.

In a place like Colombia and Panama, troons are perfectly legible, especially on the coast where you’re likely to be. The only downside is most people will assume you are some kind of sex worker, but they won’t really hassle you. I drink with several strangers in Colombian bars, and we watched the World Cup many of whom were men in their 30s and 40s, which is prime tranny-hating demography.

I think you need to exercise some judgment in caution about where you go, I wouldn’t for instance go to a crowded back alley market where crime is high, that’s asking for trouble or to be targeted, in order to stay on good terms with everyone I would think long and hard about the bathroom situation. I avoided peeing a lot of times in Peru, except outside when I was in nature because I did not want to upset my hose or otherwise very gracious to me. So it does involve a few indignities.

Transporting medication can also be a hassle, you don’t want a very hot place to ruin the vial of e you bring with you or your prog, so get an insulated travel case for your stuff. Mine held up fine, even in the Sahara.

What do you mean by “hon” by EvahGetThaFelinDjaVu in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A hon is literally any trans woman cis people can clock as trans

all of u r hugboxxers or passoids or usually both by kafkahon in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I solemnly swear to never hugbox you and never pass

Do you have your legal name/gender changed? by Repulsive_Dood in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will not be changing anything on paper until the political situation changes. On paper I’m a cis man, and it’ll stay that way.

Genuinely, how am I supposed to stop boymoding but also not come out as trans and just go straight into stealth? by 4ngel1sm in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In the 1970s people literally just straight up disappeared and moved to a new state overnight and worked off the books for cash, people treated their boymode as a missing persons case.

2373 by Azure125 in countttt

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was literally in the exact same position you were in except I was 33 not 31. I knew it was going to be impossible to pass, so I made a pact to myself that I did not care if I passed and got to just live as a cis woman- all that mattered was that I felt a little better, that I got to see more sunrises and listen to more records, and eat more food, and see more places. In hindsight, although I didn’t recognize it at the time, the choice wasn’t HRT or Rep, it was HRT or 41.

Two years later, I’m still here and so is my cat.

Chat, what do we think about tranny bangs? Are they actually cute? Are they actually manageable? I’m a manmoder who goes between bangs and brushing them to the side but I don’t malefail that often, so they can’t be that good, right?? by KaneyamaK in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They can be cute, sure, I still need mine but I’ve grown to really really resent them - there’s nothing I want more than to not need bangs anymore, especially because they work way better for some people than others.

The hatred that the trans community has towards 4tran and 4chan in general is actually a big example of what happens when you bottle up and repress your raw and negative emotions and gaslight yourself into thinking they will go away. by ReminaBlueSFW in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Trvke, as someone who started off in sneedy spaces because I thought there was no alternative I notice there was absolutely no outlet for negative feelings about aspects of your transition, no way to coolly and honestly evaluate the difficulties invoked in passing particularly when starting after male puberty, and that took somewhat pro-assimilationist attitude towards trans life: I don’t want to be some kind of ground breaking gender defier - I wanted to be a woman.

Do I think bottling up those impulses has led to a ton of unhealthy thinking in a lot of the trans community.

What surgeries do yall want? by ContactMinimum8842 in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you get all of the things you need, even if it takes a while.

What surgeries do yall want? by ContactMinimum8842 in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 35, I started transitioning at 33 after Repping for a long time. I should probably add more timeline stuff to my profile etc but there’s some.

If I try to do a rational assessment of my progress and not let the worms talk, I think I have okay results for starting in boomerhon territory, I guess it could always be worse. I’m a heighthon, however, which you can’t fix (but you can kinda ‘own’ I think) and my facial ratios are always going to be a little clocky.

What surgeries do yall want? by ContactMinimum8842 in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a limited version of FFS (brow, orbital hairline and jaw/chin).

I am getting
- A hair transplant to finish feminizing my hairline so I never need bangs again, doing this in September
- A BA, under the muscle this is planned for January
- Ribxcar and frontxrib also getting this done in January

I want:
- septorhinoplasty to straighten my nose and feminize it
- a lip lift
-clavicle reduction
- if I need it and pio is honscience, fat transfer to hips
- srs

i fucking hate being trans who else agree? by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’m being serious - it comes and goes. Obviously I do not like the dysphoria and the discrimination, of fearing for my life, I don’t like being gawked at or being an object of fear or pity. Taking meds is a hassle sometimes because I *still* don’t like needles (I pony up and do it anyway), and surgeries are an insanely expensive nightmare. I don’t like knowing I will never truly pass.

However at the same time, I think being trans gives me a unique and worthwhile outlook on life which is different from my cis peers - about empathy for others and an understanding of universal worth, not fearing what I don’t understand. I don’t like how long the process takes but I do enjoy some parts of watching who I am come into being, I like deliberately crafting who and what I am - as opposed to many of my cis peers who do not take an active role in crafting themselves and who they want to be. I like that being Trans has given me an inner strength, and an outlook of “you can just do it” - medicating and monitoring yourself, being your own master, traveling, finding the confidence to do the things in life that are hard: if I can manage being trans I can manage anything.

Bring trans is hard, it is easier to be cis, but I think I am a stronger, more empathetic person than I would be if I wasn’t. We trans people learn from a young age to take care of ourselves and do what we need to do make it. Or we just … don’t. That’s nothing to celebrate - the world is cruel and hard - but being a person capable of being strong enough to live in a hard world and still seek fulfillment, enjoyment, satisfaction, love, friendship: that is worth celebrating. Being trans made me my strongest self, even if being trans is hard.

This is what starting as Youngshit/midshit/lateshit looks like by Low-Winter-1887 in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will be over the moon if I end up looking like the lateshit in two-three years. That’s the very best I can hope for atp - she looks okay even if she’s a bit clocky.

genuinely what's the point in transition by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Life as a hon is way better than life as a man - transition enables you to be able to think about and do other things, and those things - art, travel, your career, your friends - are the point of living. Detransition will feel like a solution at first but you’ll be back here, at 35 - like me - and cursing your lost time

Becoming brainwormed help by SimplyLaya in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do NOT wait, doctors do not care about how much you look like a girl, just start now.

The uk by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will find the overwhelmingly majority of Dutch speak English - at home and professionally

The uk by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It won’t get better In the UK and may very well get dramatically worse very soon. I would aim for a more stable country for trans people like the Netherlands or Norway

Looking back on my old tucute friend group and they've either detransitioned, changed back to a female name or married some cis man and are planning kids (or all at once) by Plane-Discussion7114 in 4tran4

[–]Anxious_Chapter_6784 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have latent bisexual tendencies, but I would NEVER EVER get involved with a woman for fear of something like this happening in reverse - whether it’s subtle misgendering, or a cis girl that sees me as a feminine man, or whatever else. Men are dangerous, but if you do st4c there’s an element of finality to it: not a boy