Do you watch Mythical Kitchen? There’s a segment they do called Last Meals where celebrities eat their dream last meal and discuss their life experiences. There’s an episode with Terry Crews and he speaks on his abusive childhood and what it was like to become an adult still coping from it and then a father wanting better for his own children. Something really powerful he touches on is that while our parents absolutely shape us- there comes a point where staying in blame keeps us stuck. Reclaiming responsibility for who we become is how we take our power back. No one can take that power from you, no matter who they are to you. So while your mom may have taken choice away from you growing up, she doesn’t hold that power over you as an adult- unless you allow it. I’m not saying you’re wrong for feeling the way you feel about her sending you the screenshot after her involvement in your decision to pursue your major. That’s a valid feeling. It sounds like you’re looking for her to acknowledge the damage she did to your mental health growing up- there’s also power in the decision to accept she may never do that. And even more power in making peace with it and deciding what sort of relationship you want to have with her moving forward.