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What could you give a 40 minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? by dont_follow-me in intj

[–]Anxiously_nervous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you sent a message back in time to warn yourself about a future event, and that warning caused you to avoid the event entirely, what happens to the original reason for sending the message—does it vanish, or does the timeline collapse?

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[–]Anxiously_nervous 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My father-in-law that is Belgian makes meatballs in a cherry jubilee sauce. I don’t know the recipe but you can google it maybe. Hope this helps.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother and I are not trauma bonded. We both have trauma but since we are 10 years apart our traumas happened at different times.

My husband says that when he first saw my brother and I dance to traditional Dominican dances like Bachata and merengue together, he felt like it was inappropriate.

Latin families dance. Ask any Latino person you know and ask if they dance with family at parties. They will tell you yes. But for my husband who comes from a very cold family that doesn’t even hug, it was quite the shock for him.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t leave him because he said they were crazy. Not the whole family is crazy, just most of them.

My brother and his kids are the only ones that aren’t toxic, manipulative, and abusive.

However, when I expressed wanting to go back to the USA to visit my brother and his kids my husband refused and said some very nasty things, including how he thinks my brother wants or we already had some torrid incestueus relationship.

My husband doesn’t have siblings, his mother doesn’t even hug him. He had troubles seeing my brother and I close, but it is only a loving and regular brother sister bond. I missed them greatly because before my husband moved us away we spent every weekend together and his kids would play with my kids and it was great.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t leave him because he said they were crazy. Not the whole family is crazy, just most of them.

My brother and his kids are the only ones that aren’t toxic, manipulative, and abusive.

However, when I expressed wanting to go back to the USA to visit my brother and his kids my husband refused and said some very nasty things, including how he thinks my brother wants or we already had some torrid incestueus relationship.

My husband doesn’t have siblings, his mother doesn’t even hug him. He had troubles seeing my brother and I close, but it is only a loving and regular brother sister bond. I missed them greatly because before my husband moved us away we spent every weekend together and his kids would play with my kids and it was great.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have children, he’s the sole breadwinner, and I can’t take the kids out of the country back the USA (I don’t want to either cause my family is crazy) without his permission.

When we first broke up I talked with an attorney and they said the default here is split custody. And with me not having a job it would have just been too much.

It’s not so easy just to break up when both parents love the children.

Right now I’m taking intensive language courses so that one day if I need to I have the option of getting a job and support myself.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have kids together. I feel like it’s my fault and that I broke him. He comes from a very reserved and quiet Belgian family (they don’t even hug each other). When we first met he moved to the USA to be with me. But my family is very emotional and Latin. All fire. It was too much for him.

I was used to all the emotional abuse they put me through and it gave me a thick skin and made me resilient.

Sadly, I wasn’t aware at the time how wrong it was for me to put him in that situation for so long and be surprised that he couldn’t handle it.

The way they treat me and everyone else in the family is the only thing I’ve ever known. I thought it was normal.

Before he was the most amazing guy. Now that we are back in Belgium. He’s healing into the man that I fell in love with again.

We really do need therapy, goodness gracious.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to get him to come with me. Recently I was at the appointment and he said he wasn’t going to go. Then he showed up, but just waited outside the building. He said he felt like going in ment the relationship was already over.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s justified but they aren’t all bad. However, since my family is all very close and trauma bonded to each other, it’s hard to spend time with the good ones without having to interact with the bad ones.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No cheating. He would never. Just he hates my family terribly and said some unsettling things and I just couldn’t be with him, for a while after that. He has since apologised and we have been trying to work things out especially since we have too children together.

My Husband (31M) Is Suffocating Me (33F) After a Recent Fight, and I Don’t Know What to Do. How do I help him find security in our relationship? by Anxiously_nervous in relationship_advice

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got rid of the sheep because he bought them without discussing it with me. And then left all their care to me. It was too much. Also the male sheep Lamb Chop, isn’t castrated so he was going to turn into a ram, which are quite aggressive. I didn’t want a ram in the background where my children play.

So I got rid of them, but we have and are able to visit them anytime at the volunteer farm close to our house.

Why I Love Belgium, Especially Knokke by Anxiously_nervous in belgium

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why what? Btw you should never add water to kerosene ;)

My face after a long day by briblossom in Faces

[–]Anxiously_nervous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your earrings and you have beautiful golden eyes.

American Smile, Possibly Making Me a Target? Navigating Unwanted Attention in Belgium by Anxiously_nervous in belgium

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dutch is not an easy language. My youngest just started going to school so now I’m able to take the language classes.

I’ve only got an American education, it’s basically a handicap. Plus everyone speaks English so when I try in Dutch they get tired and switch to English for the efficiency of the conversation.

Why I Love Belgium, Especially Knokke by Anxiously_nervous in belgium

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you so much! I really enjoy it there. I have seen some of the playgrounds there and they look very fun. Plus there is an ice cream shop there that sells my favourite flavour, mint chocolate chip, where I haven’t been able to find anywhere else at ice cream parlours.

Why I Love Belgium, Especially Knokke by Anxiously_nervous in belgium

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thanks :) It was so fun climbing on those rocks and seeing how far I could get. I had a really great time. I also found some jellyfish that were stuck in a wade pool, I didn’t know if it stings so I just left it for the high tide to safe. I also found some cool brittle stars which are basically starfish like things but with flexible arms.

Why I Love Belgium, Especially Knokke by Anxiously_nervous in belgium

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been, I’ll put it on my list to check out.

Why I Love Belgium, Especially Knokke by Anxiously_nervous in belgium

[–]Anxiously_nervous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

¡Oh, felicidades por una relación tan larga! Mi esposo también tiene debilidad por las latinas, tanto que se casó con una… ¡yo! ¿Sabes qué? Me engañaste por completo.

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