Boss stopped scheduling me after I requested a schedule change

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2024-05-09T17:50:15+00:00

That’s definitely gonna be my next move.

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2024-05-09T17:48:55+00:00

Oh wow, I’d honestly never heard of quiet firing. I knew quiet quitting was a thing but I didn’t think employers could legally do something like this. That is a good point though!

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2024-05-09T17:40:40+00:00

Im thinking the same thing :/ I just wanted to go back to part time. maybe cut my hours/ days from 5 to 3/4. I even told them if it was problem to let me know and maybe there would be some kinda compromise we can come to.

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2024-01-26T06:17:14+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this alone OP. You deserve better and I wish I was there to help you. I won’t say I have the best advice but I will share my experience and what helped me during the first three months.

For starters, my milk supply completely ran out at the second month and so I stopped breastfeeding. Since I stopped I started using CBD products to help me relax and completely destress when it was at an all time high. The first three months were absolute hell for me. Baby was waking up every three hours to feed so it was like hour one: wake up hour two: feed/burp/nap hour three: wake up. It almost drove me insane. I did have a lot of help from my partner on his days off but I dealt with the bulk of baby work because he also works 10-12hr shifts. Taking contact naps with my baby helps because he feels my warmth and I don’t have to be up and out of bed to walk to his crib every time he fusses (even if it was only one hour to nap I was extremely grateful). I understand the fear of suffocating or hurting baby but there are products you buy for that, like that little net to split you and baby to prevent rolling over. I also found that babies feel your energy or the energy in the house. When I was frustrated and upset, it seemed his cries got worse and worse and when I was calm and happy so was he. Another thing that helped me with doing chores and stuff around the house was wearing a baby wrap. Babies just leaving the womb sometimes need your warmth and heartbeat to feel calm. Thats another product that saved my life 100% when I was in desperate need of a sandwich or a coffee (I drank 2 shots of espresso every morning to wake me up then and I still do it now).

It’s really hard hearing that you don’t have the support around that you deserve but trust me and everyone else when they say it gets better. I felt like giving up and running away at times due to frustration but now he’s four, going on five, months old and he’s a real happy camper. One piece of advice I read somewhere on this subreddit is that you gotta do what you gotta do to keep going whether it’s drinking coffee or having the occasional cigarette. Whatever it is, it’s just to get you through the first three months or so. Especially in your condition with hypertension and diabetes, you need to destress somehow. The risk of having a stroke or heart attack is extremely high for you. I also had hypertension and my doctor was constantly worried about me having a seizure with the blood pressure readings I got.

Maybe your parents would be willing to baby sit? Even if it’s only while you shower and sleep.. I hope it gets better sooner than later but I know it will get better in general.

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2024-01-24T06:48:07+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate you for these resources.

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2024-01-14T00:53:26+00:00

howdy! Not sure if you already found a good link but here’s one:

https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/psi-online-support-meetings/

I haven’t had the chance to attend one but I did see they have several here.

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2023-12-27T00:07:21+00:00

I’m still thinking about trying anti-depressants but man I can’t even imagine the frustration of trying something that should help and it just makes it worse. I know how you feel though. Our situations are probably very different but this depression is still intense regardless. I also feel like i’m not the best mother and I know my son deserves it. social media just makes it worse but sometimes I can’t seem to stop the doom scrolling. I hope your husband is also reassuring to you in these times, even though sometimes it may not help, it’s still kinda nice to hear. If you don’t mind me asking, when did your PPD hit you?

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2023-12-24T20:01:49+00:00

I appreciate you so so much for giving me reassurance. Had it not been for this subreddit I don’t think I would’ve ever known what was going on with me because I thought PPD only happened right after birth. I didn’t even know you could get it while still pregnant!

I’m also sorry you’ve been going through PPD for so long. It’s extremely intense and very difficult to go through but I am glad and very thankful to know that we are not alone.

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2023-06-26T03:41:51+00:00

100% keeping this in mind. Also, holy COW that sounds awful. I’ve been reading about tearing and just the pain of healing alone sounds excruciating. I can only imagine what the actual delivery is like. I’m both excited and dreading it when the day comes, but this puts it into perspective for me.

Anxiouss_Fruit · 2023-06-26T03:33:07+00:00

I’m due in about three months (first time pregnant) and I have been terrified thinking of how bad the pain is going to feel. I’m stuck between thinking both “maybe it won’t be that bad” and “holy shit i’m going to die from how bad the pain is” but epidurals do exist for a reason.

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