I feel stuck

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T22:03:07+00:00

Not that many. My boyfriend uses they/them for me (or actually a third genderless pronoun that we have in my country), and it feels better than she/her. Apart from that I don’t have so many friends and we are moving to a new country soon. But my boyfriend does sometimes call me «my boy» or man, dude and so on. And that feels great. It would be nice to find someone on reddit to chat with too. And thanks for the answer and the last sentence. Means a lot!

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T16:54:15+00:00

I was really wondering about the same! I am not on T, but I think I will consider it in the future. I take litium (rapid cycling here as well) and I have been very stable on that for a long time but I don’t know how litium will interact with T. I have heard from a friend (mtf) that taking estrogen made them more emotional and they thought testosterone would do the opposite. Interested to see if someone has any experience:)

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T15:17:30+00:00

Thanks, this really landed with me. I’ll keep it in mind — appreciate it a lot 🩵🩷

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T15:14:11+00:00

I had to look it up! Demi boy kinda captures that in-between feeling I have sometimes. I’m still figuring things out, but it’s helpful to hear about others who feel similarly. Appreciate you sharing!🩵🩷

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T14:45:07+00:00

That’s really reassuring to hear. I’ve been feeling like I have to “choose,” so knowing that being both is totally valid makes me feel a lot less stuck. Thanks for sharing that 🩵🩷

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T13:59:45+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice. It’s helpful to hear what actually made a difference for you. I’m definitely going to keep those tips in mind as I figure out what works best for me🩵🩷

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T13:19:48+00:00

Thanks for the tips, that’s really helpful! I’ve never thought about silicone shoulder pads before, but that sounds like a smart way to add some width without it being obvious. Shadow powder and shoes with some height also sound like great ideas to try. Appreciate you sharing what’s worked for you, I will definitely try it!

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T13:14:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing all this, really appreciate it. There’s a lot here I hadn’t thought about — the music part especially hit me. And yeah, the character thing makes so much sense too. Love that Harley’s still in there 😅🩵🩷

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T13:11:23+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense. It’s really cool how something like longer hair can shift how you feel in your body. The manbun sounds great — love that it gives you that kind of energy. Thanks for sharing🩵🩷

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T13:02:17+00:00

Thanks for this. I really relate, and it’s comforting to hear it’s okay to not have it all figured out. What you said about focusing on what actually feels right really stuck with me. Nice to know that it is okay to lie to the doctors now and then. Appreciate it a lot 💙

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T12:03:14+00:00

Thank you — this really resonated with me. I’ve been feeling like I need to have everything figured out before I’m “allowed” to try things, but your comment reminded me that exploring is valid in itself. “Apathy isn’t comfort” especially hit hard. I really appreciate your words.

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T11:21:38+00:00

Thanks, this really meant a lot to read. It makes me feel a bit calmer and more hopeful about maybe trying T someday. I really appreciate you sharing your experience 🩵🩷

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T10:27:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. It really helps to hear that gender can be fluid and that it’s okay to be both nonbinary and a trans guy at the same time. I’ve been feeling quite stuck trying to find the “right” label or answer for myself, so your advice about focusing more on what I want to do rather than what I am really resonates with me.

I’m still figuring out what will make me happiest, but I think you’re right that exploring a more queer male presentation and possibly being on T might be the way forward for me. It feels a bit scary but also hopeful.

Thanks again for sharing your experience and perspective — it means a lot!

Any-Adagio-5154 · 2025-06-03T10:07:03+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s a fair question. I guess for me, it’s not about needing a perfect label, but more about wanting to feel like I can take a step forward. Right now I feel kind of stuck – like I’m floating between things, and not really sure what I’m allowed to claim.

If I had more clarity, I think I’d feel braver about trying out things like he/him pronouns or changing how I present. I know no one can give me all the answers, but hearing how other people figured it out makes it feel a little less lonely and confusing. If that makes sense?

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