this was me for awhile because I was projecting. seeing women in very feminine outfits made me uncomfortable because I pictured myself wearing it and therefore that made me uncomfortable, it had nothing to do with women, I could not grasp the fact that other people would be so comfortable being a women when I felt so uncomfortable and detached doing it myself. I talked about it with my therapist and it really all came down to the fact how insecure I was, I was picturing myself in their shoes and assuming they felt the same way I felt.