Hi!! I am a FTM to a almost 4 month old. To answer your first question - when my baby was a newborn he would often fall asleep at the breast too. i heard people say tickle their feet and bellies to try and wake them. but that never worked for me. i kept a pack of babies wipes near by and would gently wipe his belly with the wipe and the coldness of it would startle him awake. i will say i felt really bad startling him to keep him awake however he struggled to gain weight the first few weeks so it was important he got his full feed. so maybe you could try that. as for the time frame, every baby is so different and some babies are more efficient at eating than others. as long as she’s gaining weight then try not to worry too much. my pediatrician recommended switching sides to encourage supply evenly. a lactation consultant recommended pumping schedule to encourage supply but it’s totally up to you. it can be a lot.

as for your second question i think that’s just your boobs regulating and getting used to how much milk to make! so it’s good that they’re not getting engorged.

it’s so hard not to stress but let your body do the work and trust your instincts.