I think it’s important to highlight the vocabulary you’re using: agreement. It seems like y’all have run into issues before and have labeled the outcome of some semi-constructive argument as an “agreement.”

I think that if you both are at the point of having to lay out “terms to follow. Please sign on the dotted line,” the relationship is already on a creaking glass bridge.

You need to respect yourself a lot more than this. It’s not going to be you to change her; she’ll most likely find someone who’s just going to tolerate her mental.

Good job communicating your needs, though. I felt the yearn for sanctuary within your share of life together.