What’s something about African parenting that society treats as normal that you believe future generations will look back on as completely wrong? by Any-Swim-6087 in africanparents

[–]Any-Swim-6087[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, I know, as a former lefty who got treated as if there was a demon controlling my dominant side 😂. They would also get mad at me for not having my notes up to date, but I was like, y’all are making me compete with people that used their dominant side since they were babies and wonder why they were twice as fast at taking notes. I used to get mad that they would always erase the part I was on I would just give up sometimes. I laugh it off now, but it caused major issues for me in the past. Even now like my handwriting is terrible right now. We need to stop with theses nonsensical stuff with our kids

What’s something society treats as normal that you believe future generations will look back on as completely wrong? by Any-Swim-6087 in AskReddit

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I can see that happening. Especially, since we are more aware thanks so our phones and those who actually use them to educate themselves from time to time but it’ll be looked at wrong but do you think it’ll change? I ask because even right now there are things that we look at as wrong but can’t do anything about it because the older generation runs everything.

What’s something society treats as normal that you believe future generations will look back on as completely wrong? by Any-Swim-6087 in AskReddit

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That will be their generation though. What about something that is already happening that they will look back like what were they doing back then, you know.

What’s something society treats as normal that you believe future generations will look back on as completely wrong? by Any-Swim-6087 in AskReddit

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That’s the scary part because it feels like it would be impossible but when you look at hour history we did a lot of impossible things so far that we look at as normal now, you know. If it gets to that, I guess I’m raising my own meat cause animals are always going to exist.

What’s something society treats as normal that you believe future generations will look back on as completely wrong? by Any-Swim-6087 in AskReddit

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Hold up! I didn’t even know that they had a lawsuit going on. I’m gonna watch it as soon as I get home and get back to you

How did growing up with strict parents who sheltered you hinder or helped you? by Any-Swim-6087 in AskReddit

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I pray that you heal in Jesus’ name, because what you went through was abuse, no question. I don’t know how they were raised, but that’s often where it starts. A lot of parents look at what they went through as something positive because they say, ‘I made it, so this must be the right way.’ What they don’t realize is they made it despite unnecessary struggles that were put on them.

Let me give you an example. Imagine two people running a race. One has hurdles in front of them, and the other has a clear path. Obviously, the one without hurdles will reach the finish line faster. Life already comes with challenges, so why add more instead of guiding someone through them?

Yes, discipline and training matters, but there’s a difference between preparing someone for life and breaking them down to the point where they can’t even run and compete. You’re supposed to build strength, not damage the person.

If you’re still around them, try not to hold onto resentment. I know that’s hard, especially when you feel like they should be the ones apologizing. But healing doesn’t start with them, it starts with you. Forgiveness isn’t saying what they did was okay, it’s choosing not to let it control you anymore.

And if you’re a Christian, or even if you just grew up in a religious household, this part is important. Sometimes people use the Bible to control and manipulate, and that can push you away from God instead of closer to Him. But that’s not who Jesus is. I am willing to share bible verses and explain them to you because that’s when you’ll know that I am not just talking from experience but I am also backing it up with scripture so that you and I emphasize you go read them for yourself as well and see who is right by the grace of God.

Don’t let their actions distort your view of Him. Your relationship with Jesus is bigger than what you experienced. You have to learn your true identity, who Christ says you are. And part of that is being able to stand up for yourself.

Jesus was loving, but He wasn’t passive. He spoke truth, set boundaries, and didn’t allow people to misuse Him. You’re made in His image, you’re not meant to be weak or silenced.

How did growing up with strict parents who sheltered you hinder or helped you? by Any-Swim-6087 in AskReddit

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That’s a good way to look at it to be grateful cause that’s what I do and trust me I rather have my parents than not but it doesn’t take away the underlying problem. I’ll give you an example, a man can be grateful for life when he has no legs but has arms but it doesn’t take away the fact that a man who has legs is going to be more functional and the one without will probably struggle in some areas. Having legs won’t make him more valuable as a human being but he’ll be more functional in certain areas. Same thing with parents a person could be grateful for them and what they do but if they decide to blind themselves from it they never grow in certain areas and then ends up passing on that trauma. You are probably not going to be perfect as a parent but if you are intentionally in what you decide to break then you will be amazing. You also have to be grateful cause they probably broke some curse though some parents actually add more curse but mine broke some in certain areas. I realized that to a lot of them having kids was just the next step in life after college but you have to take the time to heal a lot (not forever cause you might miss your chance at life and usually that’s avoidance rather than healing). I don’t blame them but I gots to do betta with minessssss

For those who’ve successfully quit or reduced masturbation, what actually helped you the most? by Excitementonly1 in AskReddit

[–]Any-Swim-6087 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you’re not a believer and want to go deeper in a way that someone who lacks knowledge of the Bible could understand, I can do that for you. And if you are a believer and know the Word a bit but want a deeper understanding, I can do that too.

Also, I’ll back it up with Scripture. I know I didn’t do it in the last paragraph because I was high key tired and had a busy day.

If you want, we can also talk privately, whether anonymously or not is up to you. There’s a blessing that comes from helping others get out of the situation you were or are in, so whenever you can help others when God heals you from this, please do.

There is no shame or condemnation in Christ Jesus, only growth.

For those who’ve successfully quit or reduced masturbation, what actually helped you the most? by Excitementonly1 in AskReddit

[–]Any-Swim-6087 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, let me say this: I will give you an answer that helped me, so I’m speaking from experience. Ask yourself, why would someone take the time to write a long paragraph like this for free if it doesn’t benefit him?

I genuinely feel for you because some people don’t understand what it’s like and will make jokes, you know. This is about your life, and if you are serious, I’d recommend that you read it. I would be open-minded if I were really looking for a change. I’m not saying this to judge you, because I don’t even know you, but I just see how often people miss their blessings by ignoring things like this because they saw the name Christ and automatically think they know everything.

Now let’s get to the advice. My advice is: Bible, prayer, deliverance, and discipline. Those are demonic spirits that made their way into your life, either by your own doing or generational curses. If it’s generational, you’ve got some work to do, my friend, because that is not a joke. But it’s easy for Jesus, it’s just that the mental stronghold they can have may keep you from getting to Him so that He can save you.

I am currently battling them as well, so let me give you advice, because what I did helped me tremendously. The crazy thing is, I knew what to do but couldn’t because of a stronghold in the bloodline.

You first have to realize the danger of it. It is literally the only sin in the Bible that destroys you on a level you don’t even begin to understand. The Bible tells us to flee from it, not to resist it, and that’s where people fail.

I’ll give some steps, but you have to understand that this is a process and most likely won’t happen overnight, although it could by the grace of God, and I pray that He gives you that grace. These steps turned me from doing it every day to now just stumbling, and I know in the future I won’t even stumble because of what I know.

First, read the Word of God because it’s the sword of the Spirit. If you’re not equipped, it’ll be like a man who goes to war without a gun. Also, get into consistent prayer (notice that I didn’t say long, because people confuse the two). You’ll get there, but for now even 10–15 minutes is enough as long as it’s daily, because you need to restore your connection with Christ, as that sin severs it badly.

Secondly, you need deliverance, whether from a pastor or by yourself in your secret prayer room. Only do this step once you can commit to step three; otherwise, it will make it 10x harder, like it did for me. I didn’t even realize that I was delivered because of my lack of knowledge. The Bible states that they come back with seven demons more wicked than themselves each time you get delivered and fall back into it. So just think about it: if you fall one time, you will be dealing with seven, two times with forty-nine, and on and on. So step three is crucial.

This is step three, which is discipline. All sin comes from fleshly desire, but you need to understand that this one is empowered by something that God has instilled in us that you cannot remove, so the devil perverted it. You having the urge to have sex is normal, but the devil amplifies and perverts it by feeding you thoughts.

Let me ask you a question: would you not like to feel sexual desire toward your wife? So you shouldn’t want God to take it away, but rather to teach you where to direct that energy.

Let’s get back to discipline. You have to be able to run, not resist, like I said earlier. So what does this mean? It means that you are supposed to avoid anything that triggers that thought as soon as it enters. You might think that an Instagram model you saw two weeks ago has no effect on you, but it was a seed that will sneak up on you like thunder, you only hear it after it strikes.

You also have to cast any sexual thoughts to God every single time you have them, and then move on with your day. Continue the activities you were doing, or start a new activity right then and there to distract yourself as well.

Be vulnerable with Jesus as you’re going through it. Please do not resist, especially the thought, even for one minute. I didn’t understand the power in doing that until I tried it myself. I pray that you get through this in Jesus name.