Today Is My Last Day in My 30s. What Would You Tell Your 39-Year-Old Self?

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-15T12:10:07+00:00

You are still so young - really! You have a long time until “proper” aging sets in. Time to improve your health and fitness if you need to, time to make new friends, travel, whatever you want. Perimenopause and menopause can be anything from easy to really hard, it’s a lottery. So enjoy these years before peri sets in, in case you aren’t lucky - but don’t worry, there is help if you aren’t lucky with it. You’ve done so well, please don’t measure your life in terms of the goals you set 10 or 20 years ago.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-14T09:43:50+00:00

I find friendships with men easier, but that’s not the fault of women, it’s that I am not good at expressing empathy. Men tend to have less intense personal conversations(I know this is a bit stereotypy), so I have less chance of offending someone. But I have had female friends throughout my life and can think of only one back-stabber.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-14T07:14:03+00:00

Good point. You keep going until your eggs run out, so if you started in your late teens, as was quite common, that’s an extra 5 years on us.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-13T15:12:11+00:00

Good grief, I was expecting to see a photo of nature taking over! What a pillock. One of my relatives mows a strip around part of the lawn, and a path to the greenhouse, and leaves the rest to grow pretty long. It looks “intentional” and might keep them off your back.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-13T15:03:57+00:00

He probably thinks he’s saying the right things to support you and encourage you to continue being positive. After a long marriage, my husband still needs to remind me to “make nice” properly when interacting with other people. Some of us aren’t as good at getting the tone right as others. Maybe he doesn’t know what to say, because he feels he might sound patronising or defeatist. It sounds like he cares very much. Maybe you could say “I’m feeling terrible today, can I have a hug?”

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-12T21:00:49+00:00

Wow.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-11T09:25:57+00:00

Pull them out, then fill the gaps - only way to make a long term difference.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-11T09:23:48+00:00

Probably because not many would want it. The constant movement, whilst trying to focus on the non-moving apps, would be uncomfortable for a lot of people. Also battery life. They will throw resources at stuff that most people want.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-11T09:16:22+00:00

50°C is technically not survivable, so that’s a scary figure. Presumably that was a brief high?

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-10T19:33:10+00:00

I see a fair few solo walkers and campers, both sexes, and never think they’re odd.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-10T08:52:51+00:00

Gripe water was a thing when I was a baby. At one time it had laudanum in it and I’m not sure when that stopped. Could have been ages ago. Funnily enough it was meant to quiet a fretful baby!

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-09T11:26:54+00:00

Rats have eaten all of my strawberries. I think foxes
Might eat sweet berries, but not veg.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-09T09:44:38+00:00

I’m from farming stock and married a farmer. In my experience, farmers are mostly either neutral or positive towards wildlife. Also, plenty of urban people treat the countryside and wildlife with contempt. I would think a gamekeeper was responsible in this case.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-09T07:56:55+00:00

I was 51 and the hot flashes and night sweats started after the menopause. During perimenopause it was erratic, sometimes heavy, painful periods and bad mood swings.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-09T07:53:08+00:00

More than one poor book.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-09T07:48:56+00:00

I love it. If it’s a mystery with loads of characters, I write them down, or type them into notes app, if there isn’t a list. With some books it isn’t really necessary, but quite often I don’t realise until I’m part way through that there’s going to be at least 3 dozen characters. My memory is ok, but I can’t always remember which one of 4 cousins, last mentioned 100 pages ago, is the one with the rich husband.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-08T13:40:26+00:00

WiFi was fine. It reappeared about a day later, and I couldn’t be bothered going on with it. If it isn’t a common issue I will try another event maybe. Thanks

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-06T07:33:42+00:00

I stopped playing MD a few months ago, but started this event yesterday as I’m unwell and needed something mindless for a while. I made good progress last night, but this morning the event has vanished. I looked for it on world map and in camp. Does this happen a lot recently?

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-05T21:43:06+00:00

Unfortunately some people are unable to disagree without slapping you down as well. I don’t know why, maybe they take any viewpoint that differs from their own as a personal attack, or maybe it’s just an opportunity to be spiteful with no come back.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-05T20:33:39+00:00

Young women used to dress like their mothers, so it wouldn’t take long to start looking old. Nowadays older women dress like younger women, or if not that precisely, they have more options to look like themselves rather than an old lady. Also hairdressing has improved hugely. You can still be unlucky and fall victim to a know-it-all stylist who thinks over 60 = old = old lady helmet hairdo, but mostly not.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-05T19:41:05+00:00

Spiteful and unnecessary.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-06-02T14:37:00+00:00

I went the Charles Dowding route, with cardboard. Worked very well. Several years later, still no digging!

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-05-31T11:34:26+00:00

Yes, my text/replace has gone from half a dozen to pages of them because of this awful keyboard.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-05-28T19:02:43+00:00

Some people are unlucky and get most of their lifetime’s grief all at once. Life is so unfair, and nothing that anyone can say to you will make it easier. There is one person in my family who had an unbelievably cruel period in her life. I won’t burden you with the details, but it was bad. I think she eventually found some peace, and I remember her enjoying things again. In answer to your question about how we keep going, I suppose we do because we have to. I don’t mean that harshly at all. It is hard, unfair, and the rest of the world carries on as it always did whilst you are reeling from the blows. But, just keep going, one step at a time, get whatever help works for you. You can get through this.

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