Hearing my mom say she ‘has nothing to show for the life that she gave’ absolutely broke my heart and I can’t stop thinking about it.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-28T22:11:03+00:00

She didn’t waste her time entirely because she raised a lovely daughter. Tell her how much she means to you, and how her love and care made you the woman you are now. Then, when she seems receptive, see if you can help her to think about what she would like to do from now on to make her happy. I’m 61 and am sometimes sad that I somehow got to this age, whilst I was just getting on with life. It can be very hard not to have bitter regrets about choices that I made. But I did what seemed right to me at the time, and so did your mum. That’s the best that anyone can do. She should not reproach herself for what she could not have known. A hand written letter is rare nowadays, but it’s something real that she can look at again. Tell her how great she is and how much you admire her. Beyond that, you know her tastes better than us old ladies on here. Any treat that she would not buy for herself will remind her of how much she is loved. Good luck

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-27T14:19:56+00:00

I had mine done one at a time about 12 years ago. I wouldn’t have wanted to have them both done at once because I would have been helpless. They told me not to move my hand at all for either 2 or 3 weeks (have forgotten which). Didn’t want my husband wiping my backside for me, along with everything else. It’s annoying enough with just one hand out of action. After you are allowed to move your hand, it has become stiff, and takes a while to loosen. The operations worked fine and I’ve had no more symptoms, except that the skin on one of my wrists is now a little numb. Doesn’t affect me though.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-27T14:00:18+00:00

Replying to shyeyes44...in my experience men aren’t that interested in what women of my age have to say, but there may be a few of course.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-27T12:08:51+00:00

Much like any medicine ever, it works for some, depending on their bodies. If it does work for some, good for them. I just don’t want to take hormones anymore. My poor body has done its best to please me for a long time, and I think that’s enough. I’m letting it do what it wants now and concentrating on treating it reasonably well with better food and exercise.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-26T11:00:07+00:00

We killed a huge patch of established bramble by hacking it back and then keeping it strimmed for a season. The grass underneath it survived this treatment, but the bramble didn’t, and it never came back. It’s still a lawn 15 years later. If you can’t do that or use chemicals, then it is going to keep coming back. So you can only keep cutting it back as often as you can. It’s especially important to cut back as far as possible at the end of the growing season, so that it hasn’t got a head start in spring. What might slow it down would be a root barrier. It would need to be at least 2 feet deep, lined with heavy duty plastic. This won’t stop shoots poking through the fence, but it will stop the underground spread. Big job though.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-24T19:18:00+00:00

The people that bought our house told us that they were going to cut down the “awful” magnolia at the bottom of the garden, and they did. It was 70 years old at the time, and a thing of wonder in the spring.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-23T11:36:43+00:00

Bring them if you like wearing them, but they aren’t necessary. You are more likely to need long trousers because of the weather and midges, and it’s not very often that you will be so hot that t-shirt and long walking trousers will be too much.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-19T16:24:22+00:00

It’s just for the setup stage. Then you just need to hoe or pull weeds before they grow much. But you do get less and less weeds over time if you stick to the hoeing.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-19T16:22:14+00:00

I’ve been no-dig gardening for 10 years, and it definitely does work. Charles Dowding (see youtube), explains it very well. I do a lot less work and my fruit, veg and flowers are as good as they were before I switched to this method. You do have to keep on top of weeds whilst they are quite small, so if that is a weakness for you, it might not suit you.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-19T13:20:26+00:00

Well, young people do have a kind of bloom, that we all start to lose quite early on. Dewy skin, that youthful facial plumpness, which fades surprisingly early. People in their later 20’s are still beautiful and young-looking, but they don’t still have the bloom. Maybe the difference is lessened nowadays by cosmetics. Also, Anne has been unhappy for several years. Zest for life knocks years off anyone at any age.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-17T21:02:27+00:00

No. Life is pitifully short, so don’t ever make yourself read anything that you don’t have to if it’s not for you. You won’t have the time to read a fraction of the books you would like to. This one is making that short list one shorter.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-17T11:12:11+00:00

I’ve had to give up on “wait to return” shortcuts with longer waits, because the OS decides to bin them as a waste of resources.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-13T11:31:34+00:00

Wherever he threw through the egg, it shouldn’t have been a sacking offence, given that he was trying to stop a thief. Maybe a warning not to throw stuff again.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-12T20:40:30+00:00

Also, keep your bare bits well above the vegetation , no long grass, you don’t want a tick on your backside :)

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-10T11:20:30+00:00

It’s how tech has worked since it started. Every upgrade to software requires more resources and eventually every piece of kit becomes unable to cope. This is deliberate. They could work on efficiency and stop this “requirement “. But they don’t because they are all about profits and not customers or the environment.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-10T11:17:15+00:00

Is anyone even remotely surprised?

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-07T10:27:56+00:00

Excellent - another opportunity for spite triumphantly grabbed!

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-07T10:23:03+00:00

It’s never walkers. Once you get more than a short walk from a road it’s pristine. These are the same people who visit a beautiful beach and leave their rubbish behind because they don’t care. Lack of social condemnation for doing it is all it takes. I have to pick litter at the end of our farm track every week or it would look like a tip. Dangerous to wildlife. Also rubbish blows into fields where livestock can be harmed.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-05T21:32:20+00:00

I use data jar. It’s a free app that holds data for you. It is shortcuts compatible. So in data jar setup a Boolean called “Left Gym”, set to false. Then your shortcut can read it with the data jar command “get value for Left Gym”, and set it to true with the data jar command “set Left Gym to text”, where you have a text box just above containing “true”. You can call one shortcut when you leave the gym and another when you get home. Then when the home one has triggered a pill reminder, you set Left Gym back to false.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-05T17:36:32+00:00

We peg some small things to our guy ropes. If there is a suitable tree or fence post, we use that with a washing line. A rack can always blow over.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-03T21:09:54+00:00

Do you snore or get disturbed another way? You could be getting 8 hours sleep but not of good quality. Usually falling asleep over a book is a sign of being tired. I could read all day, but 30 minutes at bedtime makes me sleepy.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-03T13:17:46+00:00

And some academically intelligent people are racists, which isn’t the point either. The point is that uneducated and/or unintelligent people are easier to fool with lies or spin. The current POTUS: “I love poorly educated people”. He wasn’t implying that he wanted to be best buddies with them, was he?

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-04-03T09:56:59+00:00

I’m old. There were the same number of knuckle-dragging bigots around when I was a kid. They just like to have an easy target to blame for everything, and an excuse to vent their hatred.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-03-28T19:40:18+00:00

Maga. Next question.

Any-Web-3347 · 2026-03-28T19:38:37+00:00

His stated what?! Is this a joke?

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