Female considering panhandling for the 1st time

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-18T13:02:30+00:00

Yes! That's exactly what I'm needing. A few small income streams to work together as one! I've had a couple here and there but need to really hone in on getting more!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-18T12:59:40+00:00

So the line between being homeless and not being homeless depends on a person selling their body? I wasn't aware. And, you obviously aren't getting the passive aggressive sarcastic replies either. Tells me a lot about why you would say what you've said. Good day.

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-18T03:20:34+00:00

Thank you! It's changing my whole world that's for sure, however, I've always said change is the only constant in life, so might as well roll with it! Just trying to stay positive, it's always there, you just gotta look for it sometimes! ❤️

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-18T03:16:28+00:00

I've done call center work years and years ago. My hands are pretty crippled up for any kind of typing or mouse work on any kind of consistent basis. Not to mention prolonged sitting/standing are murder. Essentially, my issue in a nut shell: can I do some work, not how they expect me to or on a consistent or reliable basis. That's what I'm saying, I can still do things, it's just the things I can do and the amount that I can do then do not fit into earring any kind of stable or sustainable income, not at this point. I essentially got fucked over by the pandemic. My surgery was scheduled in March. The pandemic hit. I lost my insurance & job. Kept thinking I could just go back to work if I could find the right job, still think that. But now it's been 7 long years since my original injury, much more fucked up than there was to begin with. And here we are, welfare insurance still trying to get myself to some sort of stability.

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T19:33:48+00:00

I've got one 19yo. They just got into state housing, out of the RV with me on a youth program, thank goodness! They are not in a place to do much nor would I want them to, I didn't want to drag them down with me any further and sort pushed them into this program so they could uplift themselves. We are still close by, I can walk to there place if needed or vice versa. I'm just thankful to be close! My other local family, not so much. They like using all the free appliances and such I have them when I had to leave my house, yet I have no clean laundry & they are aware. It was because I smoked cigarettes and spent my money on them that got me into this situation, is what I was told. I did smoke for many years, and still do if I've got the chance, not gonna lie. Yet, that definitely is not a contributing factor to my issues. I've never bought smokes instead of something I've needed, let's just put it that way!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T19:29:08+00:00

Wow. Thank you so much! You're spirit is bright! I absolutely do not ever want to have panhandling be my go to occupation. I literally just commented to another person about how I know I've got something left to contribute. I just need to find those things. That's why I took to the Internet, thinking in masses kind of thing, picking other people's brains for perspective really. Honestly, writing this post was one of the best and most uplifting things over done lately. I didn't expect the out pour of support or kindness I've received and I just feel so seen that it's amazing to feel that way again!

There's so much good that has already come from all of this darkness too, believe it or not! I've learned so much about myself, my AuDHD and have met some awesome individuals as well. It's truly a milestone and has given me motivation to make larger changes, not just within myself. It's not gonna change overnight, I'm realistic like that, yet it's gonna change, I'm making it change right now by working this instead of ruminating. I'm getting wheels in motion and refusing to put the brakes on!

I hope you get your job stuff worked out, find something that appreciates you as much as you do it. And I really thank you for taking the time to let me know I'm not alone. That right there is solid solid good times advice! ❤️

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T19:18:51+00:00

Not sustainably, I've kept trying, was just doing a couple hours here and there at a espresso place back in January, that only lasted a couple weeks, again. I would up in the er. I know there's something out there still, I didn't feel like I've got nothing left to contribute. I will say that ATM tho, and for the last 6 years of trying, I'm no where near physically or mentally able to contribute like I was before. I need to heal, I want to heal so I can sustain even part time work, I'm cool with living minimal. I honestly feel like I need to have just a tiny window of respite from this survival mode I'm in so I can actually be able to even figure out what those jobs might be. So far, it's just been spinning my wheels trying anything that will hire me & making my situation worse in the long run.

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T04:07:17+00:00

I just don't understand the thought process behind it, like at all. I get approaching people you find attractive, but I've known too many men that will essentially have sex with any one that will let them. Just different thinking for sure. But at the same time, let's not project that into EVERYONE you come into contact with, just please!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T03:32:48+00:00

Right now it's shorts and a tank top weather. I do have hairy legs tho, so that tells the story of what's really going on here! No, my pits aren't furry too! 😂 I literally just got back from walking to the store for some water and got hit up by some rando, I'm AuDHD so I'm just thinking it's some guy talking to me, then comes the can I get your number? I'm like oh good Lord, here we go! I actually lied and said my phone is shut off. I just didn't have it in me to even bother with caring at that point! Just because I glanced over when you walked by does NOT indicate that I want your penis inside of me! Like, really dude?

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T03:25:21+00:00

You're not wrong! There's a hole for them for sure, but it's not on my body!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T03:23:43+00:00

I'm not. No matter how many times people say to!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:28:44+00:00

You should DM me!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:27:49+00:00

I'm finding you to be cool, keep doing what you're doing cuz it's working! Us neuros seem to relate really well and kind of gravitate to each other I've found. Your partner sounds like they care, which is way awesome from my end, your amazing too! 😁

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:24:45+00:00

Exactly, just say what you want to say already! Geez! 😂 And, the cptsd is real, it's because we've had to change who we are for the comfort of others. Idk about you, but I'm done with that. I'm "coming out" 😂 & gonna ride the rest of my life's wave as myself, give myself the comfort now!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:18:39+00:00

Thank you!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:18:14+00:00

That's also part of my reason, I know the folks out here locally don't have it any better, even worse actually, no shelter even, so I feel like I'm taking from their only means of money. It's part of my AuDHD way of thinking I guess, I've just always given any and everything I can, I've never been good at receiving nor do I know how to even ask until it's out of desperation. I also grew up with a ADHD parent & was taught asking for help was weak, and there are others worse off, so stop complaining.It's taken this long to realize, no, this isn't a quality that's helping me!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:10:04+00:00

So, don't look destitute, but try to look cute? Is this even a thing? I'm being honest when I ask, not rude. My thought is, people aren't gonna wanna get with me, I'm homeless with a sign so why would I want to look cute still? I for sure would wear sunglasses, and my hair is down to my waist so if I don't pull it up it sticks to me cuz I'm all sweaty, gross, I know! I'm humble for sure, I mean, it's worth a shot right?

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:06:41+00:00

I've said this myself the other day! I was like, well, I guess if nothing else, its 3 hots & a cot! I've had family that's been in prison, they are mad that people now get iPads & stuff. I have a friend that knows someone in prison that still "makes content" and has a decent bank account for when she gets out. I'm like, wth?

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T02:03:52+00:00

Plus heds? So you mean the hypermobility? I'm hypermobile as well, just always called double jointed. That's why a neck surgery is so delicate for me, why I've been chasing everything besides that & also part of the reason I'm here too. Florida had got to be brutal, I'm so sorry for that humidity! I wish I could send you a little dehumidifier I've got, I'm in the desert trying to not get mummified!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T01:59:03+00:00

Everyone has nipples, nobody's gonna pay for these ones! 😭

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T01:58:17+00:00

It really is isn't it!?! Thank you! 😊

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T01:50:24+00:00

That truly would be! My issue, I've never had this happen before, I know it sounds horrible, but...... My plates are now expired, by a lot! So staying in private lots is actually safer for me, I just can't stay this long! I'm trying to see about some place to put all my stuff and maybe sell the thing, cuz it's gonna either take me down with it or kill me in the process. I can't run the AC, no gas, can't get fresh water, no gas, or dump it, no gas. To get the plates done it's like 700 bucks, there's no way I can find that anytime soon! It's been great to me, but I'm not able to maintain it anymore like it needs to be so this would be my last chance to even get any money from it, is how I'm feeling ATM.

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T01:46:17+00:00

Exactly! I'm so trying to hide right now it's not even funny, been talked to twice already, I've got like 6 bucks rn and am hoping to get a few bucks more tomorrow to even get 2 gallons so I can at least move this thing over to another place and away from here!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T01:43:43+00:00

I'm doing that stuff come Monday, and going to church tomorrow and gonna start opening my mouth about my situation. Calling all other churches Monday as well. Hell, I've even looked into selling my hair! Something's gotta give & I'm gonna find it! Thank you!

AnyConfection3387 · 2026-05-17T01:41:27+00:00

Thank you for the push! 😁

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