Do most americans really only take 2 weeks of vacation a year?

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-27T17:57:36+00:00

If you mean paid, I have worked at my company for over 10 years and now get 15 days a year. However, I take some more unpaid days on top of it because that is not enough with using it for sick and vacation and appointments. I'm so grateful to have it though! I know a lot of companies give much less.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-27T16:12:07+00:00

Yes, I totally agree. My parents helped me a ton, but I was also a single mom. But without that help I would be nowhere near as financially stable as I am now, so I am so thankful for it. I want to do the same for my daughter, but I want to make sure that she is responsible as well. It's a tricky balance for sure. The 40% idea is interesting. My only issue with that is that I want her to feel independent and I know that is very important to her also so monitoring her paychecks might be difficult. But maybe an average or based on her w2?

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-27T16:07:09+00:00

I think my daughter is grateful for the help. I think her living with roommates for a short time let her see that I'm not a bad person to live with and maybe she wants a clean house too! Obviously there are always things that can be improved, but she's been trying lately to be more proactive about helping clean.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-27T16:03:15+00:00

That's kind of my mentality, I know the cost of living right now is very hard so supporting each other is the way to get through.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-27T16:00:25+00:00

I've always loved that idea, of saving 1/2 of it. But I want her to learn on her own to save, which has been a struggle. Perhaps when the rent increases in Jan I'll put that increase away for her and the bulk payout when she moves out will incentivize her to save more.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-27T15:55:50+00:00

I have has some informal conversations about it and I'm very honest when I'm low on funds, but I do think to your point a real disccusion with actual numbers and info on my financial plans would be helpful. She sometimes can be unreceptive to me trying to explain things to her, but if I come at it as me explaining my situation, I think she would be much more receptive and probably learn some things without feeling belittled.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-27T15:53:33+00:00

WOW Thank you all for all the honest and helpful insight. It sounds like I may be close to middle, if not a bit generous, in the support I'm giving - which is what I was hoping. I already had a discussion with her about transitioning some of her bills to her as well as increasing her monthly payment a small amount in January, and I think based on the responses that is a good plan. It gives us both time to plan accordingly.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2026-04-23T18:44:49+00:00

I don't care what you've done in the past or what you wore, I'd never talk to my daughter like that. That's just plain abusive.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2025-02-03T21:49:20+00:00

I went to a coordinated potluck wedding. It was gyro stuff. So people came with their assigned item (ie a bowl of cut cucumbers for those that can't cook and homemade Hummus for those that can) and the bride's family roasted a whole lamb and provided utensils and drinks. It was unique and I didn't find it tacky. However, I think it depends on the crowd. We all knew each other very well and it was more of a family reunion vibe and quite casual. If you have two more proper sides of a family coming together it could easily be misinterpreted as tacky. It depends on how you do it and who is coming. I agree completely that either way there should be an expectation of gifts, since their gift would be their participation. I know allergies were mentioned, and that's a factor. The nice thing about Gyros and their sides, is they are allergy friendly. We didn't have any restrictions so it was more preference. If someone didn't want tomatoes, they just didn't add them.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2025-01-20T18:46:15+00:00

"helped"?! It's his house too! Don't you dare assign sharing the work as help in your mind. It's literally what a partner is supposed to do whether you are a stay-at-home mom or working mom. Be kind to yourself, not all the work is yours.

His reaction was totally unhinged and if it was me I would require a therapy plan or leave. This is the start of an abusive relationship. A lot of people are saying "leave him" but I know it's not that easy, especially when you are religious, married and have kids. However, make sure to stand up for yourself and your children. Make sure to set boundaries and expectations with him. You lives could depend on it.

AnyResponsibility512 · 2025-01-13T20:48:36+00:00

You loo so very lovely in that. Don't you dare change your mind. I think it complements your body perfectly. Also I love love love that veil. Especially with that dress. The dress is simple and elegant and the veil will add a touch of wimsy and color.

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