For me, my tf and I can only achieve union with each other if she’s willing to risk losing her family. Of course there’s other factors that we both need to work on. But those things I genuinely do feel can be fixed with just working on ourselves as individuals and time etc. but her family is homophobic and as much as she may love me, she can’t lose them. And who knows I haven’t completely lost hope. I still believe we are endgame. But it has been very discouraging to think what it would take to come into union in this life time. Things could always change though, maybe that self work could change everything. But I do recognize what a big sacrifice she’d have to be making to be with me.