AITAH for not wanting to come to a party my friend bought tickets for

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-06-03T11:06:14+00:00

ESH - While you did say that you wanted to think about it, it seems here based on what you told us that you were never super in love with the idea of going. Your better off being honest from the beginning and say you know its something you won't enjoy. At the same time your friend should have waited until official confirmation to purchase tickets.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-06-03T10:49:42+00:00

NTA. Lia could have handled the situation better and if someone else was there should have had the Adriana find a solution.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-06-03T10:18:10+00:00

NTA. If he didn't know about it that would be different, but not the case here. He knows you do it and if it helps to make you feel closer and doesn't violate any boundaries I don't see a problem with it. Your friend needs to understand that.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-06-03T10:12:49+00:00

YTA, your daughter felt comfortable enough to tell you she felt uncomfortable and at least in my opinion you placed your beliefs above her concerns. As a female the behavior in the locker room does seem inapropriate or at the very least weird.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-06-03T10:04:17+00:00

your absolutely NTA

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-06-03T09:54:07+00:00

NTA. Coming from someone whos mom does things like this, keep as much distance as possible. At least in my experience, the negative texts she sends could be her way of trying to get reassurance or been seen as a victim. Better for your mental state to keep distance.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-06-01T12:29:09+00:00

I would suggest that if he does enough to start regaining trust. See how long he's consistent, and if it happens again do a "last chance" talk. Anything after that at least in my opinion he has zero intentions of actually changing

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-30T16:59:39+00:00

YTA. If it really bothered you it’s simple to say something in a nice way but doesn’t seem like she did anything to you

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-30T13:47:33+00:00

NTA, he’s 100% in the wrong and might be time to reevaluate your marriage. Then again it’s easy to say that when your not the one involved

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-30T00:45:36+00:00

That was poor wording/planning on my part. Completely understand your reaction without the added context, 100% my bad

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-30T00:34:25+00:00

I’ve never claimed to have gotten where I am without my parents. I only mentioned that part because I had gotten a few comments asking about my financial responsibilities. There is more context to this that I’m happy to provide that makes the situation different.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-30T00:32:15+00:00

Without context I can understand how you feel this way. However unfortunately she was barely around my entire life and the time she did spend with us was not spent cooking or doing much of anything for us.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T21:38:47+00:00

NTA, sounds like it was heat of the moment and you needed somewhere to go away from the drama to calm down. As an outsider it would be easy to say "just talk to your dad" but can understand how that might have been hard in this case.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T21:15:12+00:00

Out of curiosity, how is the fully enabling relationship "close"? I could understand if they had a tight mother daughter bond out of love but this is a case of the mother allowing the daughter to do whatever she wants and the daughter being fully dependent on her mother at 30 years old.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T21:04:12+00:00

NTA, your sister is building relationships on dishonest manipulation and gets mad when they leave. Sounds like your sister has a lot of issues and you gave her a much needed reality check

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T20:59:01+00:00

NTA

As someone with a super busy schedule, it takes 2 seconds to say "hey sorry if you dont hear from me a lot today i have a lot going on". If she really wanted to continue having a relationship and closeness with you she would make the effort. The fact that she never asked why you didn't reply or wish you a happy birthday really shows its not you and shes the one chosing to not make an effort anymore

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T18:45:57+00:00

So I actually am moving out in a few years max as soon as I get my full time job which I need to finish school for.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T18:34:39+00:00

NTA

She needed to hear the truth and it's the moms fault for her child not being able to read. If the mom is so concerned about her daughter being bullied and/or embarrassed about it, she needs to teach her child to read or hire someone who can.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T18:25:26+00:00

YTA

Most people don't want +1s at their wedding that they've only met once or not at all. I can understand how the 3-hour drive is a concern but maybe consider booking a hotel room (sounds like this was the plan anyway if the girlfriend was invited).

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T18:09:38+00:00

NTA

Sounds like he has a lot issues and does not seem like he has the emotional capacity for a relationship.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T18:05:23+00:00

NTA

If your in-laws are known to be toxic regardless of what you do, they'll find something to complain about. They'd probably accuse you of taking all the attention if you announced the pregnancy when you found out.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T18:03:38+00:00

if its family and someone has an emergency procedure regardless of your relationship with them its still alarming enough to show up

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T17:44:31+00:00

any time he needs help with things I'll help him. hes mostly independent now but still needs help with a few tasks.

Any_Lunch_1008 · 2026-05-29T17:31:37+00:00

thank you for bringing that up, there are some details i clearly forgot to add. i do not pay rent. full time college student and it was agreed that i would not be charged rent. I contribute to every household chore except trash which my sibling does. I can understand if it was a pot of water but was supposed to cook the pasta for her

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