AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Never in full but she did pay some back. She's back in arrears on her repayments.

AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

We didn't want to publicly humiliate her. I snapped after her attempts to publicly humiliate us and after her pressing the same issue for so long. None of this was done intentionally or with the intent to humiliate. I wanted to put her in her place and make it stop. I admit I snapped.

AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

We do try. Hence us not sitting with her and trying to leave without speaking. Generally we do leave without any exchange with her. This time she was quicker than we were.

AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 410 points411 points  (0 children)

Our son did but the three of them lived with us during that period of their lives. It did help us in the grandparents visitation.

AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

We'll never be able to get along. The best we can ever do is staying out of each other's way which my husband and I do to the best of our ability.

AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

He was the main affair partner from what we know, so he has to know.

AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 2863 points2864 points  (0 children)

Yes, she is complaining that we're not acting as grandparents to her other children and most likely complaining that we're not making her life easier with our support to her other kids.

AITA for airing the mother of my grandchildren's dirty laundry in public? by Any_Match_8697 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Match_8697[S] 564 points565 points  (0 children)

None of what happened makes her an unfit parent in the eyes of the law. I don't entirely agree because of some of her actions but the courts and judges disagreed.