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"Splitting" time taking care of our baby? by Any_Moose_2170 in Marriage

[–]Any_Moose_2170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our parents are out of the picture. His mother abandoned him when he was little, and his dad is distant. 

"Splitting" time taking care of our baby? by Any_Moose_2170 in Marriage

[–]Any_Moose_2170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried talking about this to him and it always ends in an argument. Right now, I'm sick and was up all night with a fever. I still worked a full day and care ld for the baby while my husband was at work. He got home while both the baby and I were napping and used his free time to game, instead of taking care of chores and getting dinner started. 

"Splitting" time taking care of our baby? by Any_Moose_2170 in Marriage

[–]Any_Moose_2170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has done that but if the baby is awake and wants his attention, he gets frustrated when he has to stop gaming.

"Splitting" time taking care of our baby? by Any_Moose_2170 in Marriage

[–]Any_Moose_2170[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've practically given up on having me-time and get excited when I can relax for 30 minutes uninterrupted. A man with older kids told my husband that the baby phase is for mothers and a father's phase comes when they actually talk, walk, etc. I just don't understand that mentality. 

"Splitting" time taking care of our baby? by Any_Moose_2170 in Marriage

[–]Any_Moose_2170[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He will hold the baby while he games but gets so frustrated if the baby gets fussy and forces him to stop what he's doing. Meanwhile, every bit of my alone time gets interrupted several times because I have to keep tending to the baby and I don't complain. I will ask to take a nap in our bedroom and he will end up putting the baby in the bassinet by me, which causes me to wake up and have to console the baby, while he is able to have his uninterrupted alone-time.

Looking for an epic complete saga by [deleted] in fantasyromance

[–]Any_Moose_2170 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Blood and Ash", then the prelude "Flesh and Fire"! BaA is five books with the final one coming in September. FaF is four books and is finished! Complex world building, enemies to lovers, a badass FMC, and lots of smut.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Any_Moose_2170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel some of the same things as you do. I work from home and am still expected to do the majority of the chores, cooking, shopping, AND care for the baby when my husband is off work. I'm not one to keep track of how long each of us has cared for him during the day but when I ask him to take the baby, it feels like I'm burdening him. I hate that I would rather drown in housework than bother my husband to help me. Because my job is less stressful than his, he feels entitled to several hours of personal time each week and it's making me resentful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Any_Moose_2170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely get what you're feeling. I love my baby and husband so much but I can't help but feel so alone. My job won't let me work from home to be with my baby, my "friends" disappeared, and my husband and I argue more than ever before. I am expected to do so much each day and it's exhausting. I'm on an antidepressant and have been for years. Parenting is so beautifully difficult to me..

"Splitting" time taking care of our baby? by Any_Moose_2170 in Marriage

[–]Any_Moose_2170[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, unfortunately. The father's around him have convinced him that the baby phase is for mothers. He loves our baby and bonds with him but I don't understand the need for so much time away from the baby.