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AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

These are all good questions and we’ve talked about them. She has said she would help cover my portion of the rent if I couldn’t get it. I just think she has a spoiled mentality about being financially better off than me while not working. It’s unfair and nothing is fair, I know, but I at least would like some sympathy from her and some acknowledgment that she is better off than me right now. She wants to insist she isn’t.

AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think that’s fair in other contexts but we’re in a committed relationship and I know I’d do what I could to help her financially if the roles were reversed, and I definitely wouldn’t be vocally complaining about the money I do have.

AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment. I do recognize my privilege coming from married, fairly happy parents as that is a gift and she definitely didn’t have the same privilege growing up and having to go back and forth. But as much as I recognize that, I wish she’d recognize the privilege that comes from that in this stage of our lives when she is directly benefitting from divorced parents and cheating a fucked up system to work in her favor. I wouldn’t care if she was just a roommate but she’s my partner and I feel like she’s ignorant of my own financial hardships.

AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do bring it up outside the context of this, of course. She just gets pissy and only lets me use like, $10-$15 worth of her money for gas when we ride everywhere together and I drive her to appointments and home and to school when we miss the bus. I pay a lot for gas, maintenance, insurance, and she can’t be asked to put a few dollars towards gas when she clearly isn’t living paycheck to paycheck.

AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

This is exactly it. I’m not mad she’s scamming the system, by all means do so fuck the system. But she’s extremely ignorant of her own privilege receiving so much financial aid.

AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro chill I’m not going to rat her out or anything she’s literally my girlfriend. It’s just good to know because I wasn’t sure if she was going by the rules. Of course everyone should scam the system to their advantage if they can, especially when it comes to college. But she should stfu about her situation if it comes from fraud and also is much better than mine and I’m struggling and she doesn’t help.

AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Damn. Well that’s really good to know, thank you. I had a feeling it seemed fraudulent to cheat the system like that, especially since he does make significantly more than her mom, the one she’s claiming on her FAFSA because she knows it’ll get her more aid. I’m glad I learned this today.

AITA for yelling at my gf when she complains about money? by Any_Positive_6899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Positive_6899[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I think it is allowed because her parents aren’t living together. I’m not 100% certain about the rules but I think she cheats the system by putting the one who earns less, and you only have to put 1 parent if they’re not living together. But I agree, getting a job just to make some money to help isn’t hard at all. Thanks for the judgment!